The reason I, Shanon, signed up to find soul mate on eHarmony was because a concerned friend recognized I needed more of a life more than driving to and from work, it became a joke that “the only way I would meet someone is if I ran him over between home and work”.
The reason Mike signed up to find a soul mate on eHarmony was because of the in depth questionnaire and he had to be honest with himself in order to be honest with his partner.
When we were matched up with eHarmony there seemed to be so many similarities that it was a surprise that we had not met on our own but we almost did not get the opportunity to meet at all. At the time Mike was living in Hendersonville TN and I was living in Fort Mill, SC. We had come to the point of “open communication” and it was up to me to send first response. Mike was teaming with anticipation but was frustrated by the delayed response to the open communication. Mike thought I had lost interest so he chose to close the “connection.”
I had been out of town on business, ironically 30 minutes away from where Mike was living but was engulfed with project coupled with the lack of access to my personal computer that I was not able to access until I returned home from project. Upon return I was devastated to discover Mike had closed the connection. I struggled with what to do considering the sense of loss of someone I never met. There was the option to select on the closed page “please reconsider, I think we had a connection” so I chose to select.
Ok, so Mike admits he is bad at poker, after he closed the communication he kept one eye on our match hoping I would ask him to reconsider, you have heard the term “cut off your nose to spite your face” well Mike was testing fate. Thankfully I did not give up as quickly as he did. We set up a time and date to meet in South Carolina during one of Mike’s business trips that was March 15, 2007. We both like sushi and chose a local favorite, Mike arrived before me. I arrived and proceeded to have an anxiety attack and wondered if everything I had learned about him prior to our meeting was going to be a farce. But from the moment our eyes met I/we knew there was a unique connection.
Mike proposed to me exactly one year later while we were in visiting Gatlinburg TN during a weekend getaway. For Valentine’s Day he had given me a ring, not engagement ring, but it was the wrong size so he had taken me to the jeweler to have it sized with the explanation from the sales associate that it would take a few weeks to get back. About 3 weeks later I had made a comment to Mike that I had not heard back from jeweler and was getting concerned…a few days late I received a call about that there was a problem and it would take another week.
One of our “attractions” was enjoying a morning cup of coffee during the peace and quiet. On March 15, 2008 as we were sitting on the balcony of our cabin in Gatlinburg having a cup of coffee, Mike proposed and it was NOT the same ring as Valentine’s Day. Netti the sales associate and all the co workers were in on it but what a wonderful surprise.
Over the course of our relationship we have had the pleasure of putting explanation points on our life’s journey. We have learned each others passions, Mike’s being the Red Sox and music, mine being travel. We have also for the first time in our lives experienced companionship to its fullest.
Mike and I were married on the beach in North Myrtle Beach on July 27, 2008 with our closest friends and families by our side. We could not be more blessed than we are each day to have found each other. There are so many defining moments that pen does not do them justice, we have experienced in 18 months what few people experience in a lifetime.
Our life’s them song is “Collide”
“Even the best fall down sometimes/Even the wrong words seem to rhyme/Out of the doubt that fills my mind/I somehow find/You and I collide”
– Collide by Howie Day
We thank you eHarmony for the collision of our two worlds!