When you meet a new man you like, it’s tempting to think you need to actively do something to show him why he should be attracted to you and interested in you. You might think you need to show him what a great cook you are by making him a meal or helping him with a problem so that he sees that you’d make a good partner.
It’s all too easy to decide a certain man isn’t for you – we make such quick judgments from those first impressions. And if you’re on eHarmony, you might think that there’s plenty of choice, which means you shouldn’t have to settle for someone who doesn’t measure up. But giving a man a chance isn’t settling – it’s opening yourself up to the man who is ultimately right for you. Here’s why…
If you’re one of the many women who seem to get everything right in their life except relationships, then I’m sure lots of people are telling you that you need to get yourself out there more, or work on yourself, or even just focus on something other than dating.
When you’re on a date, it’s natural to want to show him what a great catch you are. You might feel the need to pepper the conversation with witty remarks, or tell him about all the amazing things you’ve accomplished, or jump in and fill the silence when there’s a lull in the conversation.
“But we had such amazing chemistry!” Have you ever found yourself saying this to a girlfriend after a man you really seemed to click with just…disappeared? It’s such a common experience: you finally meet a man you connect with, you get your hopes up, and then poof, he’s gone.