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can i be friends with an ex

How to Tell If You Are Really Ready to Be Friends with the Ex

Ever broken up, only to realize you really missed the friendship you and your ex shared? A common reaction is to try to maintain the friendship during or right after the breakup. As ‘Vanessa’ wrote, “I ended it with the guy I was seeing. I did it because I started thinking about what you said about […]

About You, Being Single, Communication, Dating Advice, Relationship Tips, Relationships
thank you in relationships

The 2 Words You Need to Be Saying Much More in Your Relationship

“Thank you.” Two simple words that feel SO good to hear. So, why do so many couples use them so infrequently? William James, the great American psychologist, said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” Appreciation is a gift we give others that costs us nothing! And giving just a […]

Relationship Advice, Relationships, Success Couples, Success Couples Advice

The 10 Biggest Reasons People Fall Out of Love

Love. Sometimes it doesn’t last a lifetime. Here are ten reasons why people fall out of love: 1. They stopped communicating. Conflict went unresolved, needs went unexpressed, and affirmations went unspoken. If good communication is key to building a healthy relationship, the lack of it can surely dissolve one. 2. They took each other for granted. It’s easy […]

Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationships
intimacy issues

The Intimacy Bait and Switch: Don’t Get Caught with an Intimacy Gap!

“I have a wonderful boyfriend,” wrote Anne. “He is an angel except one thing. He doesn’t talk about how he feels, he doesn’t say I love you, and on December 3rd, it will be a year. He is good to me and gentle with me but he’s never given me any kind of keepsake, not even […]

Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationship Tips, Relationships
wedding and marriages

When Did the Wedding Become More Important than the Marriage?

Matched Dior gowns. Orchid covered archways. Spectacular mountain settings. Magicians. Balloon releases. Fireworks. Photo booths. Wii games. Free all-night bar. Casino games. Lobster bakes, island bike rides, “event” stations where you scan a QR code to receive a secret surprise, go cart centers, yard games, massages, a multi day party on a remote Asian island. What […]

Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationship Tips, Relationships, Success Couples Advice
marriage and death of a child

The Death of a Child and the Strength of a Marriage

On the first Friday of the new millennium, the phone rang just as we were leaving for dinner.  Since our three kids were grown and gone, this was the new normal:  work hard all week, then dinner on Friday night to get back in touch. “I’ll get that,” Becky said, and picked up the phone […]

Relationship Advice, Relationship Tips, Relationships, Success Couples Advice

5 Components of a Healthy Sex Life

Despite being surrounded by popular notions about sex, it can be difficult to decipher healthy sexuality from dysfunction and differentiate between appropriate sexual behaviors and unrealistic expectations that can tarnish our love lives or cause us to feel inadequate. Sexuality is much more than the act of sex — it is an emotional bonding experience for […]

Relationship Advice, Relationships, Sex, Success Couples Advice

Cesar Millan: How I Embraced Uncertainty and Found Love Again

Cesar Millan has been through a lot of life changes over the past few years. He got a divorce, found new love, and took ownership of his TV shows and affiliated businesses — and the best part is he isn’t shy about talking about his experiences in order to help others. One such way he is […]

About You, eHarmony Feature, Mind, Body And Spirit, Relationships, What I've Learned About Love
dating advice re someones past and future

Love’s Crystal Ball: How to Keep Their Past from Ruining Your Future

A central task each of us faces when choosing a partner is loving ourselves. And as science would have it, a crucial aspect of loving ourselves is setting boundaries for whom we’ll let in our lives — and who gets shut out. A big shut-out?  Anyone whose past might ruin your future. I have lost track […]

Dating Tips, Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships
rejection and how to deal

Why Rejection Isn’t All about You

When someone you care about ends a relationship, it can evoke feelings that range from disbelief to despair and everything in between. “How could this happen?” you think.

Breaking Up, Mind, Body And Spirit, Relationships