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Why Forgiveness is so Critical in Every Relationship

Forgiveness in its most basic sense is letting go of the desire, the need, and the “right” to require punishment or restitution for the perceived offense. In forgiving, we renounce the right to hold resentment; we stop fanning the flame of anger, and instead seek to restore that which has been lost. The alternative to forgiveness is […]

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Are You Codependent?

In the best of circumstances, a parent will meet their child’s needs for nurturing, protection and emotional attunement in order to securely bond with them. When there is a failure to complete this process of secure bonding, codependency results. Characteristics of Codependency If you examine the characteristics of people with codependent behaviors, you will find behavior […]

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The Breath of Coupling

Breathing; it’s the thing we do every second of every day; day in and day out. Most often our breath happens without giving any thought to it, unless we are “out of it” or need to “catch it” or if some circumstance “takes it away.” Some of us take time during the day to notice our breath, […]

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The Relationship Repair Kit

Something’s wrong. You can feel it in your gut. Or your heart. Your relationship is off track. Broken. And in need of repair. You’re tempted to bury your head in the sand, doing little and hoping things will get better — but you’re smart enough to realize that unless you do something to turn things around, things […]

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How to Divorce-Proof Your Relationship

One of the core problems of failed relationships lies in the tendency to look to one’s partner, rather than themselves, to heal their shortcomings and create happiness. When we relinquish ownership of our deficits, we develop unrealistic expectations of our partner and shift responsibility for our personal development onto the wrong source, creating vulnerability for […]

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Why You Shouldn’t Brood About the One Who Got Away

It always hurts when someone breaks up with us, even if it happens after a single date. The more we perceived the person as being ‘right’ for us, the more we pictured ourselves with them, the more we allowed our expectations to build, the greater our heartache and disappointment can be. It’s natural to reflect […]

Breaking Up, Dating Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships

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How Soon is Too Soon to Get Engaged?

When actress Kaley Cuoco announced that she was engaged to tennis star Ryan Sweeting after three months of dating, she joined a list of other celebs who were quick to get engaged. Some that spring to mind are Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom (one month), Avril Lavigne and Chad Kroeger (six months), and Tom Cruise […]

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keeping love alive

Seven Things Madly-in-love Couples Do to Stay That Way

You’ve probably met some of them: Couples who have been together for years—maybe even decades—and are still madly in love with each other. Perhaps it shows in the way they look at each other, or in the subtle ways they stay connected by touch, or in the kindnesses they show each other. However it is revealed, […]

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‘Help! My Partner’s Frugal…But I’m Not!’

He is Mr. Saver, she is Miss Spender. She is a tightwad, he is a spendthrift. He hoards his dollars like the next Great Depression will hit any day, and she spends her dollars like there’s no tomorrow. Do you know a couple like this? Are you part of a couple like this? By now, […]

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signs it is time to break up

Deciding Factors: Eight Solid Reasons to Break Up

“He’s a really nice guy,” Vanessa said, “but I just don’t know if Ben and I are meant to be together. I’m thinking about breaking up with him, but I’m not sure. How do I decide?” It’s a question that plagues many singles: should I break up with my partner or stick it out a […]

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