“Whether you just met someone in a different city or your partner moved out of town for another job, long-distance relationships are common,” according to relationship advisor and therapist Dr. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D, author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. In fact, in our fickle economy, many couples find themselves separated because of their professions. Orbuch sees this long-distance situation most often.
Long-distance relationships create extra challenges and stressors. But couples can still cultivate a fulfilling and happy relationship. Here’s how.
1. View the distance as an opportunity. Orbuch encourages “couples to write down the advantages of a long-distance relationship, especially if it is only short term.” According to Orbuch, your list might include: extra time with family and friends; an opportunity to learn to communicate even better; the anticipation and thrill of weekend trips; maintaining your individuality; and spending more time on your own interests, goals and passions, such as “working on your next book, your art, your hobbies and exercising.”
4. Communicate every day. Let’s face it: Many partners don’t enjoy talking on the phone; some find texting irritating; and others can’t stand technology in general. But keeping that emotional connection is key, Orbuch said. Of course, you don’t have to have long, heart-to-heart talks every time. Orbuch suggested the following: “Telling each other about your little triumphs and tragedies, asking for advice and talking about your day.” Use your preferred mode of communication, whether that’s talking or texting on your phone, email or video chats.
And don’t forget about old-school approaches. “Also sending letters, notes and greeting cards are wonderful ways to surprise each other!” Orbuch said. Flowers and small gifts are great, too, she added.
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