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unlovable and love myths

Tackling the Biggest Dating Myth: ‘I’m Unlovable’

“I’m unlovable.” How many times have you heard someone say that? Or, “I don’t really need anyone but me,” or, “My partners always suffocate me.” In many cases, these assertions are personal myths—stories people tell themselves that aren’t based on fact, but on perceptions dictated by their attachment style. To uncover your own personal mythology, […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
self esteem and relationships

5 Ways to Lessen that Relationship Baggage (and Improve Self-Esteem)

Your relationships with others mirror your relationship with yourself. The way you feel about yourself directly influences the quality of your relationships with others, as well as your behaviors and roles. With a healthy view of yourself that includes self-acceptance, self-love, forgiveness, and insight, dating and relationships will feel easier, more satisfying, and more loving. […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships
how to find good love

6 Ways to Eliminate Toxic Love and Attract Healthy Love

If you’re tired of doing all the right things yet still end up with emotional manipulators or moody, toxic partners who are unable to love, you need to make happiness a priority and choose to learn to love in a different way. Below are six key concepts you need to attract healthy love and eliminate […]

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About You, Dating Advice, Dating Issues, Expert Advice, Important Questions
how to know if you are exclusive

17 Ways to Tell if You’re Exclusive

So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and […]

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Dating Advice, Dating Tips, Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships
woman who stay with the wrong guys

The Question in Dating You Just Have to Ask — Yourself!

Let’s talk about adventure. Specifically, adventure in dating. Why? Because we all want a relationship that will go the distance, one that will endure. We want someone who will be there for us, year after year. As we wrote in our first post , there are questions you can begin asking now that will help […]

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About You, Dating Tips, Expert Advice, Relationship Tips
negativity and relationships

Why You Can’t Afford the Luxury of Negative Thinking When it Comes to Love

Do you find that you keep having the same painful experiences when it comes to love and relationships? Perhaps you often tell yourself things like, “I’m never lucky in love,” or “They lose interest in me once they get to know me.” If so, you may be experiencing a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy, one that […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
attractingapartner

12 Ways to Attract The Perfect Partner

If you don’t yet have that special relationship in your life and you deeply want it, try the steps below and see what happens. 1. Write out all your negative feelings about your past relationship(s), then rip the paper into tiny pieces and let the wind carry all those old, stale memories away. 2. Find a […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
emotional affairs

Are You Having an Emotional Affair? Take this Quiz

A soul mate relationship is based on trust, commitment, and a strong desire to be together. Still, despite this powerful bond, it’s also true that your hearts will be stretched in countless ways. The danger, especially during challenging times, is that you may be vulnerable to having an emotional affair. This can damage trust and […]

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Expert Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationship Tips, Relationships
dating tips and online dating

Unlocking Dating Myths: ‘Love Only Happens When You’re Not Looking.’

Two days ago on Facebook, I saw this post: “Not looking anymore. If it’s meant to be, love will happen.” It was littered with likes. Folks, there is a word for people over age 25 or so who wait for love to happen to them, and that word is “single.” Yet people keep believing love […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Tips, Expert Advice
first date advice and anxiety

Your Biggest First Date Worries…Solved

Virtually everyone gets nervous before dates. Especially if you’re shy or tend to be anxious, those nerves can translate into full blown dating anxiety, which can be paralyzing. The days and hours leading up to a date can be worry-filled, and you may even avoid dating altogether if it’s too intense. But your worries about […]

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Dating Tips, Expert Advice, First Date Questions, First Dates