How to Succeed in the Dating World

By eHarmony Staff

How to Succeed in the Dating World

When it comes to launching your attack on the dating world, like any successful soldier it’s good to go in fully prepared, with a strong plan and the right equipment!

When it comes to launching your attack on the dating world, like any successful soldier it’s good to go in fully prepared, with a strong plan and the right equipment. Use these five tips with military precision for ultimate success.

THE HOOK
Whether it’s fair or not, your online profile pic is your first hand in the card game of dating life. Yes, be thoughtful when presenting your innermost thoughts and desires and outlining your plans, your passions and your hobbies, but when presenting that photographic image, spend time and get it right. Go for a selection of flattering photographs that show you at your best: for the men, tidy yourself up a little, for the women, just the merest hint of skin wouldn’t go amiss. Just one photo isn’t enough – prospective daters are going to want to catch a few angles – but also make sure that you look at least similar in each of the pics. And make sure they look like you: flattering is one thing, fabrication another entirely. After all, the ultimate aim is to actually meet this person: make sure they’re meeting the person that’s in the photos. Great profile pics mean better dates.

BE HONEST
As you settle down to write your profile, this isn’t the time to practice your fiction writing. It won’t take long for a prospective date to figure out that you’re not who you say you are, and you don’t want their first impression of you to be that of a dishonest person. Instead, tell them what you really enjoy in life, and hope it’s something they appreciate too.

THE RULE IS, NO RULES
In the world of off-line dating, people play games, like the ‘don’t call until three days after the first date’ rule. With online dating, sometimes speed is of the essence, the competition is fierce and the pace is speedy. If they write to you, don’t try and be cool – write back straight away. If you don’t, a dozen others could be out there waiting to make a connection.

BE POSITIVE
Please resist the urge to list the nightmares you may have had during your dating experiences, or life’s woes you’ve suffered and disasters you’ve endured. We can all focus on the negative things in our life, but you want someone to find you approachable. Try and focus on the positive and present the side of you that’s still open to the world’s opportunities.

DON’T MENTION THE EX
Whether you’ve been married before, or just had a string of exes, don’t make them the focus of your conversation. If you tell your date how your ex was your soul mate but they went and left you, it’s not going to make them warm to the opportunity of establishing a relationship with you. Similarly, if your ex was a disaster and it all went horribly wrong, reliving the details will make you seem bitter – and also unapproachable. Either way, don’t swamp your new date with stories from the dating front-line.

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