In the last installment of Disney’s “Toy Story” trilogy, the space toy Buzz Lightyear falls into the hands of a malicious group of toys who know what button to push to return him to his original factory settings, in which he truly believes he is a Space Ranger charged with saving the galaxy. In the process of switching him back, his friends only succeed in changing his default language —to Spanish.
Suddenly, his obsession with stopping the evil Emperor Zurg takes a back seat to a more Latin passion: romancing Jesse, the cute cowgirl doll. He shows her his Hispanic machismo with acts of bravery; he woos her with a fiery Hispanic salsa dance; he is ready to fight for Jesse’s affection when he thinks “El vaquero” (Woody) might steal her away. Eventually, Buzz comes back to himself, and the show goes on. Later, when all the toys face the prospect of being sent to their owner’s attic in a box, Jesse doesn’t mind so much.
“Now I know about Buzz’s Spanish mode!” she says with a smile.
Hispanic men and women both have a spicy romantic reputation that makes dating someone with a “Spanish mode” appealing. If Latin American art, music, and dance are any guide, then dating and romantic passion play a huge role in Hispanic culture.
As you begin your journey in dating an Hispanic person, then we say, “¡Felicidades!” Here are tips that can help you find the lasting romance you are looking for:
Three Strategies for Successful Hispanic Dating:
1. Know what you are looking for in a partner. Dating is not a “one-size-fits-all” activity. There are as many tastes and preferences as there are people. But how will you know who is a perfect fit and who isn’t if you are unsure what you want and—just as important—what you don’t want? Make a list of the things you must have in a new partner and things you couldn’t stand. Be honest. Be courageous. Shoot for the moon.
2. Be what someone else is looking for in a partner. Now that you’ve made your list and checked it twice, keep in mind that your potential partner has made one of their own. Take a look at your life and try to predict how you would presently stack up. Be honest. Be courageous. Make another list of areas where you could stand some improvement–things like your eating habits, your finances, or how long it has been since you cleaned out your car. In other words, get to work being ready to be someone else’s perfect match.
3. Don’t forget the fun. Without the proper perspective, dating can feel like a high stakes round of poker, and you are tempted to go “all in” too early in the game. Slow down and relax. The only thing at stake is whether you and your date get to know each other a little better—and whether you can have a good time doing it.
No matter the color of your skin, dating is always about bringing out the best in what’s on the inside—and finding someone to share it with.