Dating mistakes will happen. Murphy’s Law guarantees it. Larry took his vegetarian date to a steakhouse by mistake. Gene locked the keys in his car with the lights on. Allen forgot to reset his clock for daylight savings time and arrived an hour late for his bike ride with Claire. Blunders like these keep men awake before a big date.
Since no one is perfect, some mishaps can’t be avoided. That’s why we emphasize becoming aware of the ones that can be avoided. An honest mistake will usually be forgiven; one that comes from insensitivity or selfishness may not be. Here are some things you can decide ahead of time to avoid:
Getting too physical too fast.
Physical attraction plays a big role for men in dating, but pushing a new relationship into sexual territory too soon is a big mistake that frequently backfires. This means potential partners must work to cultivate a sense of trust and mutual respect. A man might be eager to kiss on the first date, while the woman isn’t ready. A man might be “all hands” while the woman wishes he’d keep them to himself. Ere on the side of caution. Back off and give her the security that comes with knowing you can show restraint.
Talking too much and listening too little.
When a woman dates a man, she is asking herself, Will he see me for who I really am? Will he take my dreams, goals, and fears seriously? Many men supply the answer, all right, but not the one she was looking for. They talk and talk about themselves as if reading their resume. Here’s a tip: There’s no need to tell your date how wonderful you are. Let her discover it for herself. Instead, spend the evening asking insightful questions and listening to every word she says.
Some men fail to realize that their date is looking for clues to how he will treat her in the way he deals with others. A man who barks at the waitress when something is not quite right — or speaks condescendingly to the valet who parks the car, or tells a hurtful joke — better not count on a second date.
Flirting with other women.
On a date, a woman wants to feel she has your undivided attention. No matter how discreet you think you are, when you “check out” other women in the room, she will notice. It sends a clear signal you are not interested primarily in her, but are keeping your options open. To avoid this mistake, make sure your eyes stay focused on your date and mind stays focused on what she says.
You don’t need to be perfect to be like able. And she probably won’t mind if you need to ask for directions, or end up at a bad movie. But just avoiding these common dating mistakes will certainly to make a great first impression and boost your odds of creating a lasting relationship.