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Counting Down the Top Ten ‘Can’t Stands’ for eHarmony Women

By eHarmony Staff

Mr. Flake

Millions of eHarmony women have spoken! eHarmony’s “Can’t Stands” and “Must Haves” feature allows users to create a concise list of traits that are important to them in a relationship partner. Find out what the biggest dealbreakers are for the ladies right now!

No Cheaters Allowed

Coming in at #4, infidelity can wreck a relationship and cause tremendous pain. Needless to say, most women will not tolerate a cheater. Period.

Mr. Mean

The third biggest "can't stand" is the mean guy. Belittling others, being rude or just plain hateful is a major turn-off.

The Opportunist

The runner up in top ten "can't stands" -- the opportunist. Women don't like it when their partner takes advantage of or manipulates others. What they are looking for is someone who is honest, straightforward and respectful of others.

Liar, Liar

The #1 "Can't Stand" for women -- the liar. As trust is the foundation for a secure relationship, lying falls into the other end of the spectrum — and women especially can't stand it when you are lying to them. This is the number one deal breaker, folks, so think twice before you consider being deceitful!

Lazy Bones

#9: Life is just too darn short to spend it as a couch potato or sleeping the day away. Women are looking for a partner who has some ambition, drive, passion and energy.

Just Say No...

Coming in at #8 are men that use any type of illegal drugs. The majority of women say this is a definite dealbreaker for them. Why? It's wreckless, careless, unsafe and unappealing.

Old Yeller

#7: An angry person is a toxic person. Women can't stand someone who yells, screams and loses control. If something is bothering you — handle it in a mature manner. Don't bottle it up until it is too late for calm conversation.


#6: Cleanliness is next to Godliness! Just as men love to come home to a clean casa, women also love when men take pride in their homes and themselves. Just say yes to Mr. Clean!

Mr. Devious

#5: Like Mr. Yeller or Mr. Pigpen, Mr. Devious is the type of guy that will send ladies running for the hills. Who has time for that drama and negative energy?

Mr. Flake

Meet Mr. Flake -- the guy who promises you the world -- and forgets to deliver. Coming in at #10 on our list, there's something to be said for old reliable! Women love men who are consistent, steady and stable. Being unreliable and flaky is a huge letdown.

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