Your date paid for dinner with a coupon again — and insisted on splitting dessert. While both financial responsibility and frugality are to be admired, no one wants to date a tightwad.
So if he has a good job but hints you’d prefer you order water instead of wine, be warned: you might be dating someone who has major spending anxiety.
Here are 10 ways to know he’s a cheapskate:
1. He does the asking, but not the paying. There’s a general first-date rule: If you ask, you pay. If your date would rather split the bill — or leave you with it altogether — be prepared for a complete lack of generosity for the entirety of your relationship. While splitting the bill or taking turns might become part of your dating dynamic, raise a red flag if he’s the one insisting on you taking out your wallet.
2. He already ate. If your date dined at home — or on leftovers left in the office kitchen — before arriving at your dinner date, he’s looking to get away with paying as little as possible for the meal. This also applies if he orders water when he asks you out for “drinks,” and munches mainly on the free peanuts at the bar.
3. He asks for a discount. Does your date embarrass you by pointing out the problems with his non-problematic meal just so he can ask for a free entree? If getting a deal is more important to him than keeping it classy, he’s a cheapskate.
4. He pays with coupons. All the time.
5. He asks for two spoons. If he doesn’t let you order your own dessert, he’s either super-cheap or super-controlling. Neither are desirable.
6. He doesn’t like paying for parking and makes you walk a mile — in heels! — to your date destination just to save a few bucks.
7. At pay-by-the-weight buffets, he only selects lightweight items.
8. He talks about money a lot and exhibits anxiety over spending it. He can’t look at a menu without talking about prices — and pointing out how ridiculously high they are.
9. His dream date? A walk around the park. He’d bring flowers, but can’t bring himself to spend so much money on something that’s already dying.
10. He finds an excuse to not tip. His charitable giving is pretty abysmal, too.
Have you ever dated someone like this? Was it a factor in your breakup or not?