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Being Single

Being single is a great chance for personal growth and development. Enjoy the single life and prepare yourself for a relationship with advice on eHarmony.

be the right person

How to Be (Not Find) the Right Person

My childhood fairy tale was to grow up, fall in love, then get married and live happily ever after.  I believed there was that perfect someone out there just for me, and I just needed to find her to make my fairy tale come true. Alas, as I grew up, I realized that my “happily […]

About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
new years 2015

15 Ways to Learn from the Previous Year

When the calendar turns from one year to the next, it’s an opportunity to pause and reflect on what happened during the previous twelve months that can guide you toward future success. If you’re eager for more fulfillment—in love and life—consider these ways to gain wisdom from the previous year: 1. Engage in healthy introspection. […]

About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
dealing with christmas memories

6 Steps for Dealing with the Ghosts of Holidays Past

The holidays trigger many thoughts and emotions. Hopefully, they are pleasant reminiscences filled with happy feelings. Unfortunately, for some the memories are of experiences that brought disappointment and sadness. Holidays can be a painful reminder of unhappy family times and unmet needs. Most of us have unpleasant memories from our past. However, having those memories […]

About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal

Why It’s Never Too Late for Love

If you’ve been single for a long stretch despite efforts to find love, you’ve probably grown weary of seeing happy, romantic couples at every turn…among your friends and family, featured in internet accounts, described in magazine stories, and on and on. The sense of feeling left out can be especially acute at certain holidays — […]

About You, Being Single
how to cultivate gratitude

15 Ways to Cultivate Gratitude

Given the choice, nearly everyone would want to be known as a grateful person rather than an ungrateful one. After all, the most attractive people are those whose attitude is saturated by thankfulness. Several large-scale research studies have shown that grateful people live longer, sleep better, enjoy more career success, and have richer relationships. But it’s […]

About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
unlovable and love myths

Tackling the Biggest Dating Myth: ‘I’m Unlovable’

“I’m unlovable.” How many times have you heard someone say that? Or, “I don’t really need anyone but me,” or, “My partners always suffocate me.” In many cases, these assertions are personal myths—stories people tell themselves that aren’t based on fact, but on perceptions dictated by their attachment style. To uncover your own personal mythology, […]

About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
self esteem and relationships

5 Ways to Lessen that Relationship Baggage (and Improve Self-Esteem)

Your relationships with others mirror your relationship with yourself. The way you feel about yourself directly influences the quality of your relationships with others, as well as your behaviors and roles. With a healthy view of yourself that includes self-acceptance, self-love, forgiveness, and insight, dating and relationships will feel easier, more satisfying, and more loving. […]

About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships
how to spot a liar

15 Ways to See Through Lies

When it comes to matters of life and love, we all want to believe the best about others. And in fact, most people are genuinely caring and conscientious. But it’s also a fact that plenty of people deceive and lie … and even good people lie sometimes to avoid conflict or embarrassment. Although you don’t need […]

About You, Being Single, Dating Tips
negativity and relationships

Why You Can’t Afford the Luxury of Negative Thinking When it Comes to Love

Do you find that you keep having the same painful experiences when it comes to love and relationships? Perhaps you often tell yourself things like, “I’m never lucky in love,” or “They lose interest in me once they get to know me.” If so, you may be experiencing a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy, one that […]

About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit

12 Ways to Attract The Perfect Partner

If you don’t yet have that special relationship in your life and you deeply want it, try the steps below and see what happens. 1. Write out all your negative feelings about your past relationship(s), then rip the paper into tiny pieces and let the wind carry all those old, stale memories away. 2. Find a […]

About You, Being Single, Expert Advice