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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

unlovable and love myths

Tackling the Biggest Dating Myth: ‘I’m Unlovable’

“I’m unlovable.” How many times have you heard someone say that? Or, “I don’t really need anyone but me,” or, “My partners always suffocate me.” In many cases, these assertions are personal myths—stories people tell themselves that aren’t based on fact, but on perceptions dictated by their attachment style. To uncover your own personal mythology, […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
self esteem and relationships

5 Ways to Lessen that Relationship Baggage (and Improve Self-Esteem)

Your relationships with others mirror your relationship with yourself. The way you feel about yourself directly influences the quality of your relationships with others, as well as your behaviors and roles. With a healthy view of yourself that includes self-acceptance, self-love, forgiveness, and insight, dating and relationships will feel easier, more satisfying, and more loving. […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Relationship Advice, Relationships
tips for a great thanksgiving

15 Ways to Make This Your Best Thanksgiving Ever

The beauty of Thanksgiving is that it gives us a chance to push the pause button on our busy lives and reflect on the blessings we have, the people we love, and the freedoms we enjoy. Since you have reached adulthood, you’ve got many Thanksgiving holidays in your history. Most were probably delightful, perhaps some […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
Twenty Seconds of Courage

Twenty Seconds of Courage

The recent movie ‘We Bought a Zoo’ is an adaptation of the true story of Benjamin Mee and his children.

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About You, Dating Advice
how to find good love

6 Ways to Eliminate Toxic Love and Attract Healthy Love

If you’re tired of doing all the right things yet still end up with emotional manipulators or moody, toxic partners who are unable to love, you need to make happiness a priority and choose to learn to love in a different way. Below are six key concepts you need to attract healthy love and eliminate […]

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About You, Dating Advice, Dating Issues, Expert Advice, Important Questions
how to spot a liar

15 Ways to See Through Lies

When it comes to matters of life and love, we all want to believe the best about others. And in fact, most people are genuinely caring and conscientious. But it’s also a fact that plenty of people deceive and lie … and even good people lie sometimes to avoid conflict or embarrassment. Although you don’t need […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Tips
how to get a date to open up

Are You Too Easily Seduced?

If you’ve ever gone to the grocery store on an empty stomach, you know how quickly a short shopping list of essential items can turn into a cart full of junk you didn’t need and wouldn’t ordinarily

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About You, Dating Advice
15 reasons to date a fisherman

15 Reasons to Date a Fisherman

The standard joke about fishermen is that they exaggerate the size of their last catch. Sure, there are people eager to brag about their latest angling conquest or complain about the size of the one that got away. But devoted fishermen don’t do it for bragging rights. They take a Zen-like approach, enjoying the serenity, philosophizing […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Tips
woman who stay with the wrong guys

The Question in Dating You Just Have to Ask — Yourself!

Let’s talk about adventure. Specifically, adventure in dating. Why? Because we all want a relationship that will go the distance, one that will endure. We want someone who will be there for us, year after year. As we wrote in our first post , there are questions you can begin asking now that will help […]

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About You, Dating Tips, Expert Advice, Relationship Tips
negativity and relationships

Why You Can’t Afford the Luxury of Negative Thinking When it Comes to Love

Do you find that you keep having the same painful experiences when it comes to love and relationships? Perhaps you often tell yourself things like, “I’m never lucky in love,” or “They lose interest in me once they get to know me.” If so, you may be experiencing a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy, one that […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit