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15 Ways to Handle Difficult People

As much as we hope to surround ourselves with only pleasant, positive people, that is wishful thinking. The fact is, we all encounter difficult people … more frequently than we want. Since you can’t avoid difficult people completely, here are ideas for how to deal with them: 1. Don’t take it personally. Difficult people are that way […]

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Children or No Children? That is the Question

A major issue for both men and women in finding the right relationship is whether or not children will become a part of it. If your vision centers on creating a family with children, as mine did, learning that a potential partner can’t conceive or has chosen not to have children –– or being that […]

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15 Ways to Spot a Toxic Person

First the good news: The world is full of honest, kindhearted, well-adjusted people. Now the bad news: There are also plenty of people who are less than emotionally healthy, the kind who manipulate, lie, and cheat. Definitely the ones you want stay far away from. You can avoid lots of trouble by knowing what to […]

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What Cameron Diaz Has Learned About Betrayal, Soulmates and Sisterhood

It is obvious from the title that “The Other Woman” is a movie about betrayal, but it is one with a refreshing twist. Instead of two women — actually three in this case — having catfights over some guy who has done them wrong, the women join forces to teach him a lesson. “We didn’t want it to […]

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Learning How to Trust Again

Whether you are coming out of a bad breakup or trying to figure out how to be vulnerable and trust the online dating structure, I have some advice on why learning how to trust actually begins with you. There are steps to cultivating trust. Trusting another begins with trusting ourselves. The shift may be imperceptible at […]

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Filmmaker Ken Burns: What I’ve Learned About History, Love and Myself

One of the qualities that has made Ken Burns into a multi-Emmy Award-winning documentarian is his fascination with stories about people and events, and the fact that he doesn’t limit himself when it comes to picking the subject matter for his films. Rather than focusing on topics that he knows, he prefers to delve into […]

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15 Self-Esteem Boosters

The term “self-esteem” may be somewhat overused these days. That’s hard to avoid when it appears everywhere we turn—in ads, magazines, book titles, and on every TV talk show. Still, no matter what words you use to describe it, the way you see yourself—and how that makes you feel—plays a vital role in every aspect […]

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Why Forgiveness is so Critical in Every Relationship

Forgiveness in its most basic sense is letting go of the desire, the need, and the “right” to require punishment or restitution for the perceived offense. In forgiving, we renounce the right to hold resentment; we stop fanning the flame of anger, and instead seek to restore that which has been lost. The alternative to forgiveness is […]

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When the Going Gets Rough: The Path Back to Joy and Healing

Peace, joy, and gratitude – feelings we all wish for, but ones that can be hard to come by in our stressful world. When we’re bombarded with our own negative thoughts, it can make us feel as though we’re in a self-made prison of blame and judgments, making it feel impossible to relish the good […]

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Matching the Outside to the Inside

Did you get dressed this morning? Yes, of course you did, because in our society you can’t be naked. And even if you could, I think most of us would opt for clothing. After showering or brushing your teeth, dressing is probably the first thing you do every day. But have you ever stopped to […]

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