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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

jealousy issues

What Jealousy is Really About

JEALOUSY! This is a big relationship issue that often does (but doesn’t have to) ruin your relationship. Jealousy is the green, fire-breathing monster lying in wait to devour relationships. Jealousy is within you. It has nothing to do with your partner. No matter what your partner does, you still feel jealous UNLESS you track it […]

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About You, Relationship Problems, Relationships
life lessons

10 Lessons About Life and Love

Learning about life is one thing, but it’s how you actually live your life that matters. Philosophers throughout history have offered guidance and theories about the importance of living a joyful and meaningful life. And after recently hearing yet another commencement speaker extol the philosophical virtues of living “a good life” without providing any actual […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
dating advice singles

Get Happier by Banishing This One Word From Your Vocabulary

I should get my car washed. I should pay my bills. I should eat less. I shouldn’t sleep so late on the weekend. We fill our lives with “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts.” Shoulds keep us on the straight and narrow path to goodness, but do they send us on the path to happiness? What are “shoulds” […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
dating stress

Do You Have Dating PTSD?

When I matched with a tall, seemingly-charismatic man with a big smile online, I’ll be the first to admit I was a little skeptical. He looked almost too good to be true, and when he made reservations for our first date instead of leading it up to the happy hour gods, I found that old […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Tips
dating positively

When Dating Gets You Down: How to Keep the Hope Alive

“I just don’t do well with women. They are like a puzzle I’ll never be able to solve.” “I shouldn’t get too attached to him because he will leave me anyways. That’s what they always do.” “She’s nice and we had a great time, but I feel jaded from being burned by other women. There’s […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit, Online Date Tips
cats and love

15 Things Cats Can Teach Us About Love

Cat ladies, we get it. Wherever you fall on the feline love continuum, you can learn lessons about life and love by observing these furry creatures, including: 1. Regular affection forms a bond. For cats and humans, being held, hugged, and cuddled creates a loving feeling. 2. Purring is contagious. When you are happy and you […]

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About You, Seasonal
what we could learn about dogs

15 Things Dogs Can Teach You About Love

Human beings are proud of the fact that we are the highest life form on the planet. But before we get too smug about our superior intellect and ability to innovate, let’s pause to acknowledge that we can learn a lot from other species. Especially about love … and especially from the species canis lupus familiaris, […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
dealing with depression

How I’ve Tackled My Depression (And You Can, Too)

For the first 15 years of my life, I was a relatively happy person. But about the time my parents got divorced, I became angry and cynical. Now I realize that I was externalizing my inner feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred. I was 15, which is a time when many people start to exhibit these […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
dating advice

3 Critical Steps to a Healthy Dating Life

Your divorce is final and you are ready, perhaps reluctantly, to get back into dating again. The reluctance sounds something like “I’m scared there is no one out there who is right for me!” After all, you’ve heard it time and again from some of your hopelessly single friends who seem deep down miserable. Hearing this so frequently, […]

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About You, Being Single, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Dating Issues, Expert Advice
are you too close to the ex

8 Ways You Are Crossing Healthy Boundaries with the Ex

As a chocolate lover, I’d like to think you can never have too much chocolate. Similarly, I want to say you can never be too good. But I do think you can overplay a strength, particularly with an ex, and get yourself in trouble. It’s the same with chocolate, no matter how good it is, […]

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About You, Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationships