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The Secret to Making a Lasting Change is…

Every January 1st, people all over the world pledge to get in shape. They get excited about making a change. They create a detailed plan for how they will reach their fitness goals within weeks or a few short months. They buy a gym membership and utilize it frequently at first.  A concerted effort is made to reach these goals. Unfortunately, it […]

About You, Being Single
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4 Ways Kindness Leads to Love

October is National Kindness Month, and while you should practice being a good person all year ‘round, if you’re inspired to make your patch of the world a little brighter, consider this month your personal challenge to act. And though you might not need another incentive to smile at strangers, pick up someone’s coffee or […]

About You, Being Single, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Seasonal
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15 Ways to Deal With Dishonest People

What a wonderful world it would be if everyone made a collective commitment to be completely truthful and trustworthy with each other. We can all hope that day will one day arrive. But in the meantime, we must resign ourselves to the fact that there are people who choose to be deceitful and devious. So […]

About You, Being Single, Dating Issues, Infidelity
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Lonely? 10 Helpful Ways to Deal

Have you ever been lonely in a crowd? Have you ever been perfectly content all alone? Me too. And I have also suffered from loneliness. What’s up with that? Loneliness is a complex mental and emotional phenomenon that has at its base a powerful emotion which has survival value for children. All of us have experienced some […]

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Fighting and Arguing Can Kill You — Literally

If you live a life of arguments, fighting, and conflicts in your family and at work, you are killing yourself. Danish researchers have found that people who fight and argue suffer 10 times more cancer and are 2 to 3 times more likely to die than those who do not. The researchers found that stresses […]

About You, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
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The Power of Expectation

Did you know that your life, your relationships, and your body as it is right now is a result of what you expected to come about in your life? Did you know that because of the Law of Perception, what you perceive as “good” or “bad” will, in fact, be drawn to you, whether you […]

About You, Being Single, Important Questions About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
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7 Things Not to Take For Granted When You’re Single

When you’d give anything – and we mean anything – to meet someone special to share your life with, it can be (very) annoying to hear: “But, trust me, you’ll miss these times one day!!” Especially when those words are coming from your dearest friend, who has, in your opinion, what seems like the happiest relationship. But […]

About You, Being Single
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15 Ways to Glean Wisdom from Your Past

You’ve heard the axiom, “Those who do not learn from history are bound to repeat it.” Some people have dating difficulties because they’ve never taken a hard look at the past to see how it affects the present and future. But let’s emphasize the positive: Everyone can gain valuable insights by exploring their personal, family, and […]

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15 Ways to Overcome Perfectionism

“You’re such a perfectionist!” Has somebody ever said that to you—or several somebodies? Maybe no one needs to point it out because you are well aware of your perfectionism. Wanting things to be perfect—our work, appearance, even dates–might seem like a worthy pursuit. After all, we live in a flawed world, so it’s natural for […]

About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
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No More Shame: 7 Ways to Get that Confidence Back

We live in a shame culture that attacks our confidence on a daily basis. Because of this we often feel flawed, unlovable, and unworthy. Shame hurts … bad. Not only emotionally, but also physically. According to Guy Winch, Ph.D., author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure and Other Everyday Hurts, rejection and physical […]

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