How to Manifest the Love of Your Life

By Guest Contributor Arielle Ford, Author of The Soulmate Secret

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SML Soulmate Secret COVERWhat does it take to manifest the love of your life? It’s an easy formula called The Soulmate Secret that requires a little time, energy, intention and attention and it’s now worked for thousands of men and women (all ages, shapes and sizes) around the world.

It starts with what the Buddhists call “Beginner’s Mind.” You begin by taking your opinions, reasons and beliefs about why you can’t or haven’t found love and you put them on a shelf for now and allow yourself to “not know” how or when or where your soulmate will appear. You surrender and trust (just for now) that everything is about to work in your favor.

The second step is to create a clear intention. Write out a statement that is a declaration to yourself and the Universe that clearly states that you are now ready for your perfect life partner to appear.

Example:  I joyfully welcome my soulmate into my life. He/she is ready for a long-term, loving, affectionate, monogamous lifetime with me as we create a fabulous life together.

Next, spend time each day in silence focused on how it “feels” inside your body to be in the present moment with your beloved. Close your eyes and use your imagination and see them sitting across from you. As you feel the heat radiate off their body what feelings are evoked in your heart? Do you feel joyful? Excited? Relieved? Spend time feeling these feelings (it’s ok to fake it till you make it) knowing and trusting that on some cosmic level you are truly spending time with your beloved. You can even use this time to have a silent conversation with them. It’s important to do this every day. Remember, this exercise is about “feeling” not “seeing” so focus on emotions not literally trying to see them.

Becoming a successful manifestor – whether you want to manifest love, money, a new career, or simply a parking space – requires a certain level of emotional maturity. Great manifestors have learned the art of managing their thoughts and emotions so that even when doubt, fear or other limiting feelings pop up, they are not swept into a spiral of negativity. Developing this kind of mental discipline requires us to make a deliberate choice to focus our attention on what we desire rather than on what we don’t want. For example, whenever I catch myself dwelling in a negative or unpleasant thought or feeling, I say to myself “cancel-cancel,” and I then intentionally create a new vision for myself. Sometimes this simple shift in perception is all I need, and other times I reach into my toolkit of emotional release techniques and dedicate five or ten minutes to working through my mini-issue so that my creative energies stay aligned with the outcome I desire.

As someone who is consciously focused on manifesting your soulmate, you too must recognize the powerful influence your thoughts and feelings have on your point of attraction, and do your best to keep them positive. I know; the process of magnetizing your soulmate can get discouraging at times. But if you’re approaching it from the mindset of “it’s been a year and it still hasn’t happened,” you’re living in the reality of what’s missing. The universe simply can’t add more love to your life when you’re focused on the love you don’t have. Like the old tale of the farmer pulling up the newly planted seed to search for evidence of growth, the very act of “searching” evokes a feeling of desperation that blocks the natural flow of love. But if you can shift your focus to magnetizing your soulmate rather than “looking” for him or her; and if you can adjust your emotional state from impatience to savoring the waiting, love will blossom in its own time, and in colors and fragrances that will both surprise and delight you.

Those who successfully manifest love have learned and surrendered to the fact that it’s not our job to know where or how our soulmate will appear. We don’t have to micromanage every encounter or anticipate every detail. Our job is to simply prepare ourselves in body, mind, and soul and then relax into the knowledge that the one we’ve asked for – wherever he or she may be at this moment – is on the way.

Your soulmate is on the way to you from wherever he or she is right now. The details are not yours to coordinate. Your job is simply to love yourself, enjoy your life as it unfolds in each moment, hold a clear intention of the love you are manifesting, and have faith in the unseen forces that are even now guiding the fulfillment of your dream.

Exercise: How To Create a Beginner’s Mind

Take time each day to sit quietly and allow yourself to let go of the chaos of the day as you put your attention on your heart’s desire. Allow yourself to feel what it’s like to be living right now, in this moment, with the love of your life. Ask yourself, “Here in my body do I feel the joy and excitement, the utter knowingness, that I am now connected connected to my soulmate?”  And then, luxuriate and savor those feelings.

1) Let go of the need to “know” – as human beings we are always striving for certainty. We want life to appear in clear, black and white terms so we can make our plans and move on with our lives.  Manifesting requires that we first let go of our need to know when and how our beloved will appear and to begin to trust that our desires are being fulfilled even though we can’t yet see the proof.

2) Give up the “should” thoughts as in “my soulmate should already be here with me” or “I should be doing something more to make love happen.” The path to successful manifestation involves having a clarity of desire (intention), trust and belief that what you have asked for is already yours, and taking appropriate action steps that feel good to you. Remember that Divine Timing plays a big role.

3) Focus on questions, not answers, such as “What gifts do I bring to my relationship with my soulmate?” and “What traits and qualities will my soulmate possess that will contribute to my long-term happiness?”

4) Trust your gut and listen to your inner voice – does the thought of online dating delight you or make you uncomfortable? Let your inner knowing guide you to the actions steps that are right for you and don’t be pressured by friends and family who insist you do it “their way.”

ARI WHITE LO RESAbout Arielle Ford

Arielle knows that finding true love is possible for anyone, at any age, and she points to herself as living proof. Married for the first time at age 44, she expanded on the set of skills that she used to launch her highly successful career and applied them to her love life. She is the creator of The Soulmate Secret online course and the author of the international bestseller The Soulmate Secret: How To Manifest The Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction and Wabi Sabi Love: The Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships.

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