How Gratitude Can Change Your Love Life

By Guest Contributor Janet Ong Zimmerman, YourTango.com

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Gratitude is magical. It has the power to transform your love life. When your heart is open, you have more meaningful connections with dates and partners, you think positively and feel good about yourself, and enjoy the ups and downs of your love life more. Opening your heart to gratitude lets you come from a place of abundance, helping you attract the kind of love you desire and deserve.

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What gratitude looks like:

If you’re single, grateful and would like to be in a healthy relationship, you’re happy with your own life while taking action to attract love, selective with who you share yourself with and doing the inner work to prepare yourself for the right relationship.

Being human makes it challenging to open our hearts to gratitude; we tend to get caught up in the cycle of unhealthy thoughts. These types of thoughts result in the following:

  • Thinking “I’m not enough”
  • Inability to be present to and accept what is
  • Having a “lack of” mentality
  • Never being satisfied
  • Striving, striving, striving
  • Trying to control the outcome
  • Needing to be right
  • Blaming others
  • Feeling disconnected to yourself
  • Seeing yourself as separate from others
  • Putting your focus on work and not on love
  • Perfection and not embracing your humanity
  • Taking love too seriously and not enjoying the journey
  • Wishing your love life were different
  • Judging yourself
  • Not enough time “just being” (too busy doing)

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How to open your heart:

Whether you’re in a good place, losing hope, skeptical or jaded, these practices will help open your heart.

  • See the gifts in challenging situations
  • Look for the good in life and others
  • Be kind to yourself and others
  • Spent time in nature
  • Indulge your senses
  • Feel your emotions
  • Connect with supportive family and friends
  • Help someone in need
  • Spend time with and around children
  • Be present
  • Enjoy your own company
  • Write a heartfelt letter to yourself
  • Play more and work less
  • Create an emotionally-compelling mantra
  • Discover and live your passions
  • Make time for you
  • Just be
  • Practice meditating — visualize love pouring all over you and through your heart
  • Communicate kindly (i.e. Say, “I feel differently.” instead of “You’re wrong”)

When your heart is opening up, you’ll begin to feel expanded, lighter, joyful, inspired and full of possibilities.

Which ones will you practice to open your heart to gratitude?

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This article originally posted at YourTango.com: Open Your Heart to Gratitude

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