Do Looks and Money Really Create Attraction?

By David DeAngelo, author of the best-selling eBook and free 'Dating Secrets' newsletter

Do Looks and Money Really Create Attraction?

For most guys, the biggest roadblock to dating success is a deep inner belief that they CAN’T succeed…usually because they think most great women are only looking for guys who are “good-looking” or “rich.”  To which I say this: If you’re a guy who still believes this stuff, you’re probably NOT succeeding with women right now…but NOT for the reasons you think.

Now don’t get me wrong. Looks and money can work to get a woman’s attention. But they’re not the only ways to do it…and definitely not the best ways. This is because if a woman doesn’t begin to “feel it” for a man soon after meeting him, looks and money can’t convince her, let alone make her feel the overwhelming emotion called attraction that makes her want to invest time and energy in exploring a relationship. So, once we take looks and money out of the equation for long-term dating success, how does a regular guy start succeeding with great women? Glad you asked…

The Simple “Skills” Of Creating Attraction:

We know that most guys operate under the misconception that they need looks or money to succeed with women…so what do they do?  They act accordingly, constantly “showing off” to win a woman over, or acting clingy and insecure, or just plain not trying at all. What they don’t get is that they’re doing the opposite of what it takes to spark attraction, which is great news for every “average Joe” who’s hung up on the looks-and-money thing. It means that by learning just a few simple skills, they can stand out from the usual crowd of insecure, jerky guys who constantly approach a woman.

1. Act Like A Leader

Here’s a dirty little secret that every great woman is in on: No matter how much money a guy makes or how he looks, odds are that he’s insecure and unsure of himself, and women can smell it a mile away. That’s why you don’t need cash or movie-star looks to stand out as something special. You do it by making confident decisions large and small around a woman (even, say, which restaurant to go to…or even which movie to see.)  You do it by never saying or doing things that a woman might find needy or insecure, like being clingy, showing off, arguing, and getting emotional and worked up over minor things (like an unreturned phone call, for instance). Above all, you do it by always coming across as in control, no matter what the situation.

2. Crack Her Up

The easiest way to separate yourself from men who try to “win” a woman’s affection is, simply enough, making her laugh. It literally causes neuro-chemical changes in her that make her want to spend time with you. So feel free to gently, tastefully tease a woman right from the start. Have funny comments on pop culture and current events ready to go. I’ve actually been studying for a long time how laughter affects people and builds powerful, bonding interest in women. And it’s become such an easy-to-master, success-proven technique for me, that I really recommend you try it.  I call it “Cocky Comedy” — you’ll be amazed at the responses you start getting from women you once thought were “out of your league.”  It’s really easy to learn, but it took me years to come up with step-by-step instructions and examples that anybody can use…so take advantage of all the hard work I’ve already put in for you.

Bottom line: You do not have to look like Brad Pitt or have cash like The Donald to create attraction. You do need to cultivate a few simple skills that make you come across as something special by being funny, challenging, confident and in control…also known as the kind of man that great women are looking for. And you can take it from me (a guy who definitely does not look like Brad Pitt), these are things that any guy can learn how to do.

Learn the simple skills guaranteed to attract great women — no matter what you look like or how much money you make. “Double Your Dating” author David DeAngelo shares his success-proven secrets of attraction in his FREE “Dating Secrets” newsletter. Subscribe here.

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