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5 Steps to Setting an ‘Outrageous’ Intention for Love in 2015

Today I’m going to share five tips that can make an enormous difference in helping you to attract your “One” this year. You see, my own personal success in manifesting a great love happened when I set what I affectionately call an “outrageous intention” to be engaged by my 42nd birthday. It was outrageous because […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
be the right person

How to Be (Not Find) the Right Person

My childhood fairy tale was to grow up, fall in love, then get married and live happily ever after.  I believed there was that perfect someone out there just for me, and I just needed to find her to make my fairy tale come true. Alas, as I grew up, I realized that my “happily […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice
dealwithabreakup

Dangerous Liaisons: How 2 Simple Requirements Will Guard Against Abusers

Have you been told you’re too picky? Those were the words that resulted in a thousand chocolate-bar wrappers when I was searching for a mate. Some told me I would never find what I wanted; I needed to settle, or I’d be single forever. Yet in my experience, most people’s standards aren’t too high; they’re too low. […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Dating Issues, Expert Advice
15 reasons to date an avid reader

15 Reasons to Date an Avid Reader

The saying goes that you can’t judge a book by its cover. But can you judge a potential love by his or her passion for reading books? These days, some people regard reading books as a quaint, old-fashioned activity; others see it as an indispensible exercise of intellect and imagination. Wherever you stand, you should […]

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About You, Dating Tips
new years 2015

15 Ways to Learn from the Previous Year

When the calendar turns from one year to the next, it’s an opportunity to pause and reflect on what happened during the previous twelve months that can guide you toward future success. If you’re eager for more fulfillment—in love and life—consider these ways to gain wisdom from the previous year: 1. Engage in healthy introspection. […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
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6 Steps for Dealing with the Ghosts of Holidays Past

The holidays trigger many thoughts and emotions. Hopefully, they are pleasant reminiscences filled with happy feelings. Unfortunately, for some the memories are of experiences that brought disappointment and sadness. Holidays can be a painful reminder of unhappy family times and unmet needs. Most of us have unpleasant memories from our past. However, having those memories […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit, Seasonal
whyitsnevertoolateforlove

Why It’s Never Too Late for Love

If you’ve been single for a long stretch despite efforts to find love, you’ve probably grown weary of seeing happy, romantic couples at every turn…among your friends and family, featured in internet accounts, described in magazine stories, and on and on. The sense of feeling left out can be especially acute at certain holidays — […]

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About You, Being Single
when you feel unlovable

Ways to Deal with the ‘I’m Unlovable’ Myth

Recently, some of you took a quiz to find out what your usual way of relating to others is: Secure, or not? And if you have a Secure attachment style, celebrate and enjoy! You’re already set up to do the things that sustain love for life. But if you have a Non-Secure style, and you’d like to […]

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15 reasons to date a martial artist

15 Reasons to Date a Martial Artist

The martial arts have been around for centuries and are thriving more than ever. Some people are drawn to the spectacle of televised mixed martial arts (MMA), with its bone-crushing grudge matches. But the majority of martial arts emphasize self-defense, physical dexterity, mental focus, and the connection between mind, body, and spirit. From taekwondo to […]

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15 Reasons to Date One of Santa’s Elves

If a short man with pointy shoes who smells like candy canes asks you out this holiday season, don’t be put off by his enthusiasm for twinkling lights. Give him a chance. Here are 15 reasons to date one of santa’s elves: 1. No more fighting over conflicting holiday plans. You already know your significant […]

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About You, Seasonal