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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

are you too close to the ex

8 Ways You Are Crossing Healthy Boundaries with the Ex

As a chocolate lover, I’d like to think you can never have too much chocolate. Similarly, I want to say you can never be too good. But I do think you can overplay a strength, particularly with an ex, and get yourself in trouble. It’s the same with chocolate, no matter how good it is, […]

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About You, Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationships
how to be more positive

15 Ways to Cultivate an Optimistic Outlook

Researchers have long understood that a person’s attitude largely determines his or her success in a wide range of areas: career, athletics, financial goals, and relationships. Perhaps relationships most of all. This is good news for singles looking for their lifetime partner. If you are a pessimist by nature, you can make changes and form […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
are you ready to date after divorce

After the Divorce: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Ready to Date

Divorced and thinking about dating again? That could mean you’ve weathered the emotional storm that accompanies divorce, processed what went wrong with your marriage, learned what you could, and are now ready to take all of your newfound wisdom and start fresh. OR it could mean that you’re looking to date as a distraction in […]

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About You, Dating Advice, Dating Tips For Men, Dating Tips For Women
letter to future children

Dear Future Children: Here’s What You Need to Know about Dating

Dear Future Children, We haven’t met yet, but I’ve thought about you…my whole life. When I was flying back from Europe for the first time (with your grandma), I wrote you a letter about why I hope you travel, and that you take more advantage of your passport than I did in college. There’s so […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice
can i be friends with an ex

How to Tell If You Are Really Ready to Be Friends with the Ex

Ever broken up, only to realize you really missed the friendship you and your ex shared? A common reaction is to try to maintain the friendship during or right after the breakup. As ‘Vanessa’ wrote, “I ended it with the guy I was seeing. I did it because I started thinking about what you said about […]

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About You, Being Single, Communication, Dating Advice, Relationship Tips, Relationships
15 reasons to date a trekkie

15 Reasons to Date a Trekkie

September 8, 1966, marked the beginning of a major cultural shift in the U.S. and around the world. That’s when the first episode of the original Star Trek television series aired. Featuring Captain Kirk, Mr. Spock, Scotty, and Uhura, the original incarnation struggled to gain ratings, but it grew into a wildly popular worldwide phenomenon. […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Seasonal
worst dating advice

The 5 Worst Pieces of Dating Advice We’ve Ever Heard

If you’re single, you’ve likely heard it all: every bad piece of dating advice out there. Here’s my list of the worst advice. Sadly, it’s also pretty common dating advice. Use at your own peril. 1. Play hard to get. Related: Don’t be too available; keep her waiting; never accept a last-minute date; and play mind games […]

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About You, Being Single, Dating Advice
fairytales about prince charming

Why I’ve Given up on the Fairytale

My sophomore year of college, I walked into the newspaper office where I served as an editor, and my phone lit up with a call. Those were the days when we made our ringtones songs, and in the 19-year-old naivety that thought frat boys could turn into gentlemen, I selected ‘Someday My Prince Will Come’ […]

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About You, Being Single
sabotage love life

15 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life

Dating is complicated enough without encountering an unexpected complication: You! On the road to love, some people put obstacles in their own way, usually without knowing it. Psychologists define self-sabotaging behavior as anything that creates problems or interferes with long-standing goals. These actions or attitudes may seem helpful in the moment, but ultimately undermine you, especially when […]

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About You, Being Single, Date Tips, Dating Advice
15 reasons to date a tennis player

15 Reasons to Date a Tennis Player

A popular T-shirt worn by tennis players says, “You’ve Met Your Match.” This is definitely true, as this particular athlete could be a great fit for you. That’s because they have certain skills and qualities that make for exceptional romantic partners. 1. Tennis players know it takes both skills and passion to win. That’s a winning combination for romance. […]

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