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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

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Why Every Woman Needs a Weekend to Herself

Unlike most college-aged kiddos, my sights were never set on studying abroad. I never dabbled with the idea of taking time off to backpack around Europe or do a gap year in Asia to find my zen. Instead, I was that overly high-strung type-A personality that began saving to move to New York from North […]

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About You, Dating Tips, Dating Tips For Women
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Spending Valentine’s Day With Someone I Love: Me

  Even though I’ve been unwillingly single for most of mine, I’ve never hated Valentine’s Day. I’m pretty sure it’s because my birthday is the next week, and I’ve never tried to reverse the childhood idea that all of the flowers, balloons, and chocolates are to celebrate me. But as I got older, I realized […]

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5 Ways to Get Over the Pain of a Breakup

There is a literal pain that comes with the loss of a relationship: a sharp, palpable pain that most people feel at the point that their lower ribs connect. It’s a pulsing, weepy pain that digs into your diaphragm, and takes your breath away. It’s a pain that defies distraction, repels food, and throbs even […]

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About You, Breaking Up
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5 Ways to Combat Loneliness This Time of Year

While this season brings excitement, spirit, and joy, it also typically brews sadness, loneliness, jealousy, discomfort, disappointment, and anxiety for many of us. These feelings can become especially overwhelming as you reflect on your life circumstances and come to terms with being single. So, why does this time of year bring up difficult emotions, particularly […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit

Want an Amazing Life? It’s All in Your Head

Positive thoughts are accompanied by positive changes in your body’s biochemistry. Negative thoughts, on the other hand, tend to depress both your immunity and your mood. And remember that both types of thoughts tend to attract their physical equivalents. That is why getting a handle on the quality of your daily thoughts—and choosing them more […]

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About You, Being Single, Important Questions, Mind, Body And Spirit, What I've Learned About Love
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15 Ways to Get an Old Love Out of Your Head

When a relationship comes to an end, the process of healing and moving on hopefully begins. The person you’re trying to let go of may be a recent part of your love life or an old flame. Now comes the task of wiping the slate clean, so you’ll be ready when a new partner enters your […]

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About You, Being Single, Breaking Up
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15 Ways to Get a Handle on Life’s Hassles

We’ve all had them — one of “those” days. And for singles, having one of “those” days might include one of “those” dates. Bad days–and the occasional bad date–are unavoidable. Here are 15 effective ways to better handle life’s hassles: 1. Identify your style. Are you a night owl or a morning lark? Are you […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
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6 Reasons Women Today Have the Power that Counts the Most

Over the last several years, as an author, educator, and mentor of women, I have analyzed marriage from a multiplicity of angles—that is from material written by professional governmental, educational, and faith-based sociologists, scientists, and psychologists, as well as journalists, philosophers, and novelists. What strikes me overall is how each source (regardless of the author’s […]

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What Prevents You from Loving Yourself?

In your daily life, are you guided by fear or love? What are the fears that block being loving to yourself and others? How often is the question, “What is loving to myself and others– what is in my highest good and the highest good of another?” the question that guides your actions? Is there something […]

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10 Things Happy Singles Do Every Day

Happy single people are just like happy coupled people. Yep, you read that right! Why? Because we know one of the greatest — and simplest — secrets in life. Every day, we get to hang out with the most amazing person we know … ourselves!And this doesn’t change when we find our perfect someone, because […]

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