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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

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The Power of Expectation

Did you know that your life, your relationships, and your body as it is right now is a result of what you expected to come about in your life? Did you know that because of the Law of Perception, what you perceive as “good” or “bad” will, in fact, be drawn to you, whether you […]

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7 Things Not to Take For Granted When You’re Single

When you’d give anything – and we mean anything – to meet someone special to share your life with, it can be (very) annoying to hear: “But, trust me, you’ll miss these times one day!!” Especially when those words are coming from your dearest friend, who has, in your opinion, what seems like the happiest relationship. But […]

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About You, Being Single
dating wisdom

15 Ways to Glean Wisdom from Your Past

You’ve heard the axiom, “Those who do not learn from history are bound to repeat it.” Some people have dating difficulties because they’ve never taken a hard look at the past to see how it affects the present and future. But let’s emphasize the positive: Everyone can gain valuable insights by exploring their personal, family, and […]

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15 Ways to Overcome Perfectionism

“You’re such a perfectionist!” Has somebody ever said that to you—or several somebodies? Maybe no one needs to point it out because you are well aware of your perfectionism. Wanting things to be perfect—our work, appearance, even dates–might seem like a worthy pursuit. After all, we live in a flawed world, so it’s natural for […]

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About You, Mind, Body And Spirit
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No More Shame: 7 Ways to Get that Confidence Back

We live in a shame culture that attacks our confidence on a daily basis. Because of this we often feel flawed, unlovable, and unworthy. Shame hurts … bad. Not only emotionally, but also physically. According to Guy Winch, Ph.D., author of Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure and Other Everyday Hurts, rejection and physical […]

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Stop the Talk That Drains You: Self-Talk to True Love

You know how there is always that person who can’t wait to bring you down, burst your bubble, and tell you how bad things are? Well, sometimes that person is you. Those voices in your head that say you aren’t good enough, life stinks, and things will never change. This can reflect in your relationships […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
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5 Things I’m No Longer Apologizing For in Dating

Subconsciously or consciously, how often do you find yourself apologizing? You slightly bump into a stranger and you mutter a ‘sorry.’ A coworker interrupts you, and yet, you find yourself stammering to apologize first. Or, perhaps just as frequently, you find yourself talking about a bad date and when you feel like your friend has […]

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2 Things to Know About Texting and Dating

It is no secret that much of the communication between potential or new partners occurs behind the computer screen or through text messaging. By definition, online dating begins on the Internet, however, growing trends suggest that new relationships continue to take place over technology and have become less about connecting and interacting in person. As […]

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Chemistry: You Know You Want It, but What Is It?

Chemistry is definitely a requirement for a fulfilling relationship, but it doesn’t always transpire in the way we would like to think. Most of us have visions of being swept off of our feet by Mr./Ms. Right. We imagine there will be that initial, magical moment where our eyes lock and we lose ourselves in each […]

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Why You Must Explore Vulnerability to Succeed at Love

The idea of being vulnerable isn’t one we like to think of. Ask most people what they believe vulnerable means and they’ll associate more negative events than positive ones with the term. For some reason, vulnerability is seen as a weakness. Even the dictionary defines it as “susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.” If […]

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