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For singles, personal growth is an important part of dating and building relationships. eHarmony brings you expert advice for your personal development.

how to deal with lifes hassles

15 Ways to Get a Handle on Life’s Hassles

We’ve all had them — one of “those” days. And for singles, having one of “those” days might include one of “those” dates. Bad days–and the occasional bad date–are unavoidable. Here are 15 effective ways to better handle life’s hassles: 1. Identify your style. Are you a night owl or a morning lark? Are you […]

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About You, Being Single, Expert Advice, Mind, Body And Spirit
womenanddating

6 Reasons Women Today Have the Power that Counts the Most

Over the last several years, as an author, educator, and mentor of women, I have analyzed marriage from a multiplicity of angles—that is from material written by professional governmental, educational, and faith-based sociologists, scientists, and psychologists, as well as journalists, philosophers, and novelists. What strikes me overall is how each source (regardless of the author’s […]

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About You, Dating Tips, Dating Tips For Women
love yourself

What Prevents You from Loving Yourself?

In your daily life, are you guided by fear or love? What are the fears that block being loving to yourself and others? How often is the question, “What is loving to myself and others– what is in my highest good and the highest good of another?” the question that guides your actions? Is there something […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
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10 Things Happy Singles Do Every Day

Happy single people are just like happy coupled people. Yep, you read that right! Why? Because we know one of the greatest — and simplest — secrets in life. Every day, we get to hang out with the most amazing person we know … ourselves!And this doesn’t change when we find our perfect someone, because […]

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About You, Being Single
sense of humor

15 Reasons a Sense of Humor Makes You Hot

Almost every person has “sense of humor” high on the list of things they want in a partner. You know, of course, what you like about another’s person ability to be funny. But have you considered exactly why this quality makes YOU desirable? A good sense of humor makes you highly attractive because it … 1. Expresses […]

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Are You Paying Attention to the ‘Godwinks’?

While walking to a workout class, busily talking to my mom about my latest dating flop, she kindly reminded me that when the time is right, when the stars align, when the right person comes along, it won’t be so difficult to fall in love. She’s a big believer in the way the universe twists […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
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How to Say No to Narcissists and Takers

Does this sound familiar? A friend I’ll call “Ed” kept pushing me to contribute to my school’s alumni fund. The more he called me, the more stubborn I felt that my answer was, “No.” I felt that not only did I lack the money necessary to contribute in order to make a true difference, but […]

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About You, Expert Advice, Important Questions, Mind, Body And Spirit
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7 Ways to Connect with Your Date

Have you ever struggled to connect on a date? Or felt absolutely nothing sitting across the table from a potential partner? Or have you ever felt a strong connection to someone and believed you were going to get another date, but the feeling was not mutual? Do you have a sense of what was missing […]

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About You, Date Tips, Dating Advice, Dating Tips, Expert Advice
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Stop Trying to Find Yourself, and Be Yourself

In this fast-paced, high-tech world we often feel lost, confused, and absent of meaningful connections to self and others. We’re becoming numb, deflated to the negative behavior of the housewives of stupidity and the fantasy images too often portraying our gender. Our lives spin like a revolving door and we certainly don’t have a year […]

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About You, Being Single, Mind, Body And Spirit
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10 Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse

If you’ve never been involved with a cunning, pathological lying, narcissistic, abusive partner, you may not know what you’re dealing with. When you date an abusive personality, you may buy into his charm, braggadocio, and phony façade while downplaying his inconsiderate and questionable behavior. Or you mistrust your instincts that your boyfriend or husband is […]

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