If Christmas morning is the best day of the year for children, then the day after might be the best day of the year for adults. That is, adults who are online dating. At eHarmony, we receive a record number of new signups on December 26, followed by New Year’s Day.
You’ve opened gifts, put away leftovers, and bid farewell to relatives. The parties are winding down, and your social schedule is suddenly wide open. Not only do you have time to devote to dating (and putting together an awesome profile), you’re following through on that pledge you made to yourself that this is the year you’re going to find love.
Here’s why you’re more likely to find it during high season:
1) People are excited about dating
Attitude is everything when you’re seeking a special someone. Whether you’re new to online dating or have been on the market for a while, it’s a treat to communicate with people who are enthusiastic about meeting you. They’re curious to learn about you. They’re motivated to plan fun dates. They bring a freshness that energizes you.
2) People are taking dating more seriously
Perhaps they’ve made finding a life partner a new year’s resolution. Or they realized they want a ski buddy. Or maybe they woke up on a chilly winter morning all alone under their down comforter and thought, “I really wish I had someone to make banana pancakes with!” What matters is that these dating newbies are ready to do what it takes to meet someone special. I hate calling dating “work” because that implies it’s not fun. But it does take effort: Making a profile. Communicating with matches. Planning dates. Going on those dates. Following up after dates. People new to online dating want to make dating happen. That’s good news for you because it means you’ll go on more dates.
3) People are meeting new matches
A blog post by our own Dr. Seth Meyers on whether you should date more than one person at a time recently sparked a lively debate. His conclusion: No, it’s not cheating. It’s part of a healthy approach to dating. The implication: Your matches are most likely meeting multiple people. In other words, you need to be on your game. You can’t wait three days to respond to emails. You can’t put up a flimsy profile with one blurred picture from seven years ago. You can’t make vague promises to “maybe get together one of these days.” You can’t show up to your dates 20 minutes late. You can’t forget to send the text “It was lovely meeting you. Do you want to do it again next Thursday?” Actually you can do all of these things, but you’re going to lose out to people who are taking action and giving themselves the best possible shot at finding love. Don’t sweat the competition. Let these dating “go-getters” inspire to put your best foot forward.
4) People are starting relationships
Why some people find a partner after meeting one or two matches – and others need to go on 50 first dates – is one of the great mysteries of online dating (and life, really). It has something to do with that baffling mix of chemistry and timing, and you might need to go through a few rounds to get it right.
However, when new people sign up for eHarmony, it usually means they’re not interested in endless dating. They want to explore relationships.
It’s a new year full of new people who are eager to make love a priority. With all that positive energy out there, something good is bound to happen.
About the Author:
Sarah Elizabeth Richards is a journalist and the author of Motherhood, Rescheduled: The New Frontier of Egg Freezing and the Women Who Tried It. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Marie Claire, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Slate, and Salon.