Posts tagged Featured

single for holidays advice
November 24, 2015

Taking an Adult Approach to the Holidays (Even When You’re Seated at the Kid’s Table)

After I asked readers to describe their feelings about the holidays, many expressed frustration. They wrote of nosey relatives who grilled them about their romantic lives, of being relegated to air mattresses while married siblings received guest-room accommodations, and of wanting to vaporize during New Year’s Eve kisses. But perhaps the largest source of grief […]

Silhouette of young man sitting on sunset or sunrise. Confident teenage boy thinkig on cliff stone. Hope. Sadness. Freedom.
November 12, 2015

Post-Breakup Question: What Did You Do Right?

Recently, a young woman told me about a guy who had disappeared after exhibiting some fairly skittish behavior. Now she was questioning herself, wondering why her relationships never lasted. I asked her to consider her behavior in this relationship. Did she have any regrets? Is there anything she’d do differently? She was silent for a […]

how to love yourself
October 15, 2015

Don’t Love Yourself? Try Just Being Friends.

Whenever people ask Buddhist teacher Lodro Rinzler to talk about love and romance, he asks them a simple question: “When you go on a date, do you bring your most authentic self?” “Ninety percent of the time, the answer is ‘Hell, no,’” Rinzler writes in How To Love Yourself (And Sometimes Other People): Spiritual Advice […]

forgiving an ex
September 3, 2015

Yes, Forgiving Your Ex is Necessary to Move On

Every day brings a new raft of breakups as men and women let go of relationships that weren’t right for them. It’s what these men and women tell themselves about their past relationships and their exes that determines how well their next ones will go. Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process after a breakup. […]

dating advice
August 19, 2015

When You Date Someone, You Date Their Profession, Too

Let’s admit it: Some professionals have a prestigious or exciting reputation. If you start dating someone who has one of the following professions, it’s hard to deny that these jobs sound prestigious: lawyer, doctor, banker, business owner, or high-level manager, among others. Similarly, your new date may have a profession that sounds exciting: pilot, fireman, […]

get rid of baggage
August 12, 2015

The Joy of Purging

“If you want to improve your life immediately, go clean out a closet.  Often it’s what we hold onto that holds us back.” Purging! I’m not referring to an eating disorder. I’m referring to the amazing experience of getting rid of “clutter” in our lives. My family and I recently moved. It wasn’t a huge […]

number one painted in red on white wooden board
July 29, 2015

Why You Should Be a Selfish Dater

From the time we’re little children we are told to share. We’re told to be thoughtful, and to put others ahead of ourselves. “Don’t be selfish!” is a refrain heard in homes up and down every street in America. When it comes to little children and toys the lesson is necessary. When it comes to […]

getting married nowadays
July 15, 2015

Was Finding Love Easier For Your Grandparents?

In his new book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, the software shows she read it. Then he sees the little dots that indicate she’s typing a reply. Then the dots vanish. Several hours pass and no word. A day […]

red flags
July 2, 2015

Signs That Your Date Has Emotional Problems Vs. Everyday Issues

Show me someone who doesn’t have any personal issues and I’ll show you a briefcase full of thousand dollar bills. That’s right, ladies and gentlemen, it’s simply not going to happen. The goal in dating isn’t to find someone who doesn’t have any issues but rather to find someone who doesn’t have serious emotional problems. […]

braggers and dating
June 18, 2015

You Humblebrags Aren’t Fooling Anyone

“I can’t believe I tripped on the red carpet!” “Some dude asked if I was a model. I was like, don’t you think I would have brushed my hair if I was?” “Disadvantage of driving a Porsche: People assume I’m picking up the check.” We all know a humblebrag when we see one. It has the intent […]