Posts tagged Featured

controlling people in relationships
February 24, 2015

How to Spot Control Issues in Your Date

While some character traits are tough to identify in others, control issues shine like Las Vegas neon lights when you see them in action. Unless you’re interested in co-signing for months or even years of drama down the road, you should avoid these signs in your dates immediately. Take a look at the behaviors below and […]

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when a date is rude to the waiter
February 18, 2015

When Your Date is Rude to Waiters: It Means Everything or Nothing?

As deplorable as this behavior is, you’d probably be surprised by how frequently this type of rudeness occurs on dinner dates. Think for a moment about exes from your past. Specifically, ask yourself whether anyone who was ever rude to waiters turned out later to be one of the kindest and most compassionate people you know. I […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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loving yourself how to
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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dating makes you strong
January 13, 2015

How Dating Can Make You Strong

In her memoir, Bossypants, comedian Tina Fey explains how performing improvisational comedy made her a stronger person: “What I learned about ‘bombing’ as an improviser at Second City was that it doesn’t kill you. No matter how badly an improv set goes, you will still be physically alive when it’s over,” Fey writes. This is […]

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desperate and dating can people tell
January 9, 2015

Feeling Desperate? Don’t Worry. No One Can Tell.

Singles have to navigate a razor-thin line. You have to show people that you’re happily single, but you can’t be too happy—otherwise people worry that you’re not “making room” for love. On the other hand, if you admit that you aren’t satisfied with your solo life—that you really, really want to meet someone—then the diagnosis […]

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dating resolutions 2015
January 5, 2015

3 Crazy-Important Dating Resolutions

Okay, here’s my take on new year’s resolutions: I recommend them as long as they are realistic and sensible. I also find that coming up with two or three resolutions makes a lot more sense than, say, five or ten. When it comes to dating, you can never be too good at it because it […]

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onlinedatingboom
December 26, 2014

Looking for Love During the Holidays? You’re Not Alone.

Recently, I asked readers to tell me how they experienced the holidays, and I received a wide range of answers. Many wrote about the fun they had spending time with friends and family, or just lounging around in their pajamas watching movies and doing jigsaw puzzles. But many singles also said they feel very lonely […]

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being alone during the holidays
December 9, 2014

Thoughts on Spending the Holidays Alone

“I am 30 years old, and I’ve spent every holiday as
 a single person. Being single is difficult anytime, but it feels worse 
during the holidays. All of my friends are married with children, so it’s 
difficult to socialize with them in general, because people usually spend
 more time with their partners and children. It […]

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