Posts tagged Featured

A young woman is standing in the doorway of her kitchen and is looking at the garden at sunrise
February 22, 2017

I’m Afraid to Get Back ‘Out There’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced for a little over 6 years now. My daughter wants me to start dating again, which I’m very fearful of doing. I have had a few relationships since my divorce, but the last relationship left me broken, and fearful of ever getting back out in the dating world again. […]

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The word kindness against bright blue sky with cloud
February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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get  him back
January 19, 2017

‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I’m 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I’ve been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took most of the steps to advance the relationship in the […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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what's your dating story?
September 20, 2016

‘What’s Your Story?’ Here’s What They Really Want to Know!

“So what’s your story?” your date innocently asks. The question seems so simple, so delightfully inquisitive even. I’ve been asked it on dates, at networking events and family reunions. Yet I happen to find the question infuriating! I feel as if I’m being asked to neatly summarize the events of my life, including my professional […]

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expectations and dating
September 13, 2016

4 Unrealistic Expectations Men and Women Have in Dating

Before you start a relationship, it is helpful to know what you expect once you’re in one. In fact, many relationships end because one or both individuals in a couple didn’t get their expectations met. What happens when you have expectations that don’t get met? You get unhappy and think about ending the relationship. In […]

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ditchyourdatingtype
August 30, 2016

Why You Should Ditch Your ‘Type’

If you ask someone what they’re looking for in a romantic partner, you’ll receive dramatically different answers. One person will have a vague notion of “I’ll know it when I see it.” Another will have a typed list of strict criteria they consult in the bathroom during dates. Yet another will try to find a […]

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dating tips
August 24, 2016

3 Ways People Overshare Early in Dating: Beware!

There is nothing quite like someone saying too much, too soon. At root, it is a total turn-off. What are the ways that people overshare? All of them have to do with emotional needs, and you’ll see what I mean in a moment. Do people know they’re oversharing when they’re doing it? Do they realize […]

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dating with disabilities
July 25, 2016

Dating With a Disability: ‘Should I Just Give Up?’

Dear Sara: I’m in Seattle and dating here is brutal. I’m 41, educated, funny, fairly attractive, and kind/courteous. I’m looking for the real thing. Here’s the problem: I was almost killed in a car wreck two years ago and my ankles and feet were crushed, every single bone, as well as others in my legs […]

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