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online dating advice
March 24, 2015

Dating Got You Down? How to Get Out of A Mini-Slump

Did you have high hopes of finding love at the beginning of the year and now are less than impressed with your online options? Perhaps you told yourself, “This is going to be my year!” and dared to dream that you would have fallen madly in love by now. But alas, it’s the end of […]

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birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]

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online dating tips for women
March 9, 2015

Ladies: Get Your Match to Ask You Out!

One of the biggest complaints I hear from women is that they’re frustrated with engaging in long email exchanges with matches who never seem to get around to asking them out. These women have dutifully answered at least a half dozen thoughtful questions inquiring about their past relationships, favorite hobbies, and professional motivations. Yet instead […]

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breakupbenefits2
March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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controlling people in relationships
February 24, 2015

How to Spot Control Issues in Your Date

While some character traits are tough to identify in others, control issues shine like Las Vegas neon lights when you see them in action. Unless you’re interested in co-signing for months or even years of drama down the road, you should avoid these signs in your dates immediately. Take a look at the behaviors below and […]

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when a date is rude to the waiter
February 18, 2015

When Your Date is Rude to Waiters: It Means Everything or Nothing?

As deplorable as this behavior is, you’d probably be surprised by how frequently this type of rudeness occurs on dinner dates. Think for a moment about exes from your past. Specifically, ask yourself whether anyone who was ever rude to waiters turned out later to be one of the kindest and most compassionate people you know. I […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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loving yourself how to
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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dating makes you strong
January 13, 2015

How Dating Can Make You Strong

In her memoir, Bossypants, comedian Tina Fey explains how performing improvisational comedy made her a stronger person: “What I learned about ‘bombing’ as an improviser at Second City was that it doesn’t kill you. No matter how badly an improv set goes, you will still be physically alive when it’s over,” Fey writes. This is […]

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