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The Common Denominator is … ME?

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation. But your thoughts about it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle I highlighted my hair blonde hoping it would make me happy; it didn’t. I guess blondes don’t have more fun! I dated a man for six months hoping he would make me happy; he didn’t. What a useless […]

What Your Profile Picture Says (and Doesn’t Say) About You

You know the basics. No pictures of exes with heads cut out. No shots of you ten years younger or twenty pounds thinner. And guys, please keep your shirts on. But two recent studies published in the journal Psychological Science shows that the act of choosing the right profile picture isn’t always so intuitive. A […]

Want to Impress Someone? Don’t Try

Many years ago, I was talking to a woman at a party about relationships and mentioned that I hadn’t been in one for ages. She told me this wasn’t a problem for her. She always had a boyfriend—her current beau was a biologist at an elite university—and before him there were plenty of others. “Men […]

How Much Should You Google Your Date?

It’s an important stage in any budding romance. You know that moment — when you learn just enough about your date to look up him or her online. Perhaps you heard her last name in a voicemail greeting or when he checked in with a restaurant hostess. Or you discovered that you have a mutual […]

Signs You Move Too Fast in Dating – and Why

Is moving too fast in dating a problem for you? Do you get your hopes up only to have them dashed – no, obliterated – soon after? If you move too fast, you’re certainly not alone. Moving too quickly early in dating is one of the most widespread dating problems for men and women alike. […]

Should You Stop Searching for a Soulmate?

Singles are often told to “get out there,” but this advice changes when you actually take it. Then you’re told to relax and let love come naturally. This advice is frequently followed by someone else’s magical “how we met” story. You know the kind. They involve missed flights, traffic snafus, hilarious hijinks (“how did our […]

Dating Tips for Shy People: Techniques to Learn and Use

The most important point for shy men and women dating is to get them out of their heads and into the moment as much as possible. If you’re a shy person, you probably know too well that you have a tendency to think, think, think when you’re thrust into new social situations. I actually find […]

‘Don’t Give Money to Your Matches — Ever.’

eHarmony is a place where two people can meet, fall in love and be really happy. I see it every single day and it is the reason I work here. Over one million people have found love through our site. It’s amazing. On the flip side, however, there are some people out there who come […]

Do You Have the ‘Facebook Blues?’

Your cousin is picking blueberries with her 3-year-old twins. Your college classmate got married at an 18th century inn. And your ex is chilling at the beach with old friends and wants you to know “it doesn’t get any better than this.” In the age of social media, we know a lot about what our […]

Last week I got a letter from a man named Mark, who asked for advice on giving women compliments. He had met a nice woman at an art galley and they chatted for about half an hour. Mark was normally shy and reserved with women, but a female friend had told him he needed to […]