Sound familiar? It did to me! Be honest, have you ever committed to something without really thinking everything through? There are times in life when everyone does this – whether it’s having one too many cocktails, not studying for an exam, going to sleep late when you have an early meeting, etc. Sometimes we can quickly recover from these things. However, when it comes to relationships, so much of your time becomes invested that it is not so easy to bounce back.

Whether you’re looking through your matches on eHarmony or shuffling past potential suitors in a bar, keep this in mind. Someone’s partying ways might be appealing to you now, but in 5 years when you have different priorities, will this be a deal breaker if his/her priorities haven’t changed? If you feel that you are looking for something long term, try to consider each person you meet as carefully as possible. This type of thinking now may save you from an uncomfortable breakup later.

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New research by evolutionary psychologists suggests that tending to fall asleep first after sex is associated with higher desire for bonding and affection from a partner. Participants of this study were asked to answer questions about behaviors between partners after sex. They were asked to indicate “who falls asleep after sex?”, and “who falls asleep first when going to bed but not after sex?”

Participants who had partners that fell asleep first after sex were more likely to have stronger desires for cuddling and chatting. The researchers believe that perhaps falling asleep right away may be a non-conscious way of avoiding any conversation about commitment. Interestingly, there weren’t differences between men and women in who fell asleep first after sex (so we can forget about the stereotype that it’s always women who want to snuggle after coitus).

However, if sex did not take place, women were more likely to fall asleep first. Perhaps men feel that the longer they are awake, the more likely it is they will be able to entice their partner into having sex.

So which are you: A cuddler, or a sleeper? Though the researchers don’t suggest that one is better than another, they do seem to suggest that if you find your partner going to sleep before you have that commitment talk, try bringing it up before getting to the bedroom.

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