eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


raise self esteem
May 3, 2017

How to Become More Self-Confident: 4 Principles

In order to date successfully and find a good relationship, you have to feel good (enough) about yourself. While everyone has insecurities or flaws they wish they could change, you have to feel okay about yourself from the start for it to be a positive, lasting relationship. Of course, many men and women don’t feel […]

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women dating online
May 2, 2017

A Letter to All the Women Dating Online

Hi there, I don’t know your story, or what has led you to choose dating online. Maybe you’re freshly single after a long relationship. Maybe you haven’t dated much at all. Maybe, like I once was, you’re just tired of people asking you if you’ve ever tried dating online and you want to be able […]

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letter to guys online dating
April 27, 2017

A Letter to All the Men Dating Online

Hi there, I’m Cara. At many points over the last few years, I’ve been one of those thumbnail pictures you might click on if I catch your eye. Just like you, I’m looking for love, for connection. I’m trying to put myself out there in all the ways I know how. I’m not sure why […]

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last single friend
April 26, 2017

‘I’m the Last Single One Standing!’

Dear Sara: It happened: The last “single” girl in my friend group got engaged tonight. She and her fiancé had been together for more than two years and live together, so I was expecting it. The other couples in the group all got engaged within the past year (including one ex, for whom I long […]

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final radical
April 26, 2017

Is ‘Radical Acceptance’ the Key to a Lasting Relationship?

Today’s wise guest blog comes from the CEO of YourTango, Andrea Miller, who has  just written the thought-provoking new book Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love (out May 2, 2017!). Rising above all of the petty grievances and learning to fully accept others is something we could all strive for in so many of […]

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dating a smart person
April 25, 2017

Dating Someone More or Less Intellectual Than You: Can it Work?

While your mom or dad may have lectured you about the birds and the bees, they may not have given you such a clear directive on the types of emotional or personality characteristics to look for as you try to find a partner. Among the traits that matter most are the degree to which a […]

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how to be married 2
April 20, 2017

How to Be Married: An Interview with Jo Piazza

Being in a happy relationship doesn’t end with finding “the one”. At age 34, award-winning journalist and author Jo Piazza met the man of her dreams. But before long, she found herself riddled with questions. How do you create a healthy marriage right from the very beginning? How does an independent, strong-willed feminist become someone’s […]

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stephen king popular author
April 19, 2017

The Sexiest Books, According to eHarmony Users

As World Book Day approaches on April 23 (yes, that is a thing!), our savvy research scientists took a look at what millions of eHarmony users across the globe are reading, writing about, and relating to. In the U.S., a random sample of eHarmony users who had registered after January 1st, 2012 were pulled, ending with 4,205,537 […]

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social
April 17, 2017

The Case for Pausing Social Media Early in Dating

Social media has become one of those facts of life, like Mondays being hard and chicken soup soothing the soul. Everyone from grade schoolers to the elderly have social media accounts, which begs the question of whether that’s a good thing. Most men and women I talk to have settled into a sort of rhythm […]

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should I settle
April 17, 2017

‘Should I Settle?’

Dear Sara: I am a 38-year-old unemployed lady wishing to settle down with a guy who has okay financial strength and is intellectually enough for me and spiritually high. After lots of efforts, I could not get what I wanted. Then one guy of 33 years came in my life as a Facebook friend. He […]

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