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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.

Green wooden stop sign laying in the rocks at the beach to protect the nature. Galapagos Islands, Ecuador 2015.
September 16, 2015

5 Common Signs of Stalking Behavior

If you smell the slightest whiff of stalking after you’ve met or started dating someone, alert your friends about your concerns and proceed with caution. There are several examples of stalking behavior, and each type means that you could find yourself in trouble if you get too close to this person. Who is a stalker? […]

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September 8, 2015

Young People Have ALWAYS Been Told They’re Dating Wrong

I recently read about a father who was worried that a new form of communication technology might harm his daughters. The year: 1905. The device: The telephone. “[He] knew how to barricade the front door but couldn’t conceive of how he’d protect his daughters from the strange men who could now come in through the […]

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September 3, 2015

Yes, Forgiving Your Ex is Necessary to Move On

Every day brings a new raft of breakups as men and women let go of relationships that weren’t right for them. It’s what these men and women tell themselves about their past relationships and their exes that determines how well their next ones will go. Forgiveness is a crucial part of the healing process after a breakup. […]

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September 1, 2015

The Definition of Love

Love is all around us. But what does it really mean to be in love? Psychologists have spent years defining love, and have found 3 main traits of a loving relationship.

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August 31, 2015

Guys, Here’s What Your Date Would Love to Hear From You…

Today’s message is a simple one. It’s a set of suggestions to keep you from being a first date disaster. It’s a gentle reminder, gentlemen, to spend more time asking her questions and less time talking about yourself. When we talk to women who use eH+, eHarmony’s personal matchmaking service, about their first dates there […]

online dating advice
August 27, 2015

Did a Match Blow Off Your Email? The Truth Behind the Fade

The email exchange had taken place more than a year ago, but my friend was still nursing the wound. “She just dropped me,” he recalled of a conversation with an online dating match. “We were in the middle of this long back and forth, and I never heard back from her. What’s up with that?” […]

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August 24, 2015

How to Start a Conversation — In Real Life

Before internet dating began, it could be extremely tough for single people to meet one another. If you didn’t find your partner in school and weren’t meeting eligible singles in your family or friend circles, then you were at the mercy of chance: you just had to hope that you would walk into the right […]

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August 20, 2015

When The Single Life Doesn’t Resemble a Sitcom

Dear Sara: I read an article you wrote [about being single for a very long time] last year while house sitting a married friend’s cats–as only a single girl can do! Then I ordered your book. I have read EVERY SINGLE book on the market on “What was wrong with me?” Well no more! Your […]

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August 19, 2015

When You Date Someone, You Date Their Profession, Too

Let’s admit it: Some professionals have a prestigious or exciting reputation. If you start dating someone who has one of the following professions, it’s hard to deny that these jobs sound prestigious: lawyer, doctor, banker, business owner, or high-level manager, among others. Similarly, your new date may have a profession that sounds exciting: pilot, fireman, […]

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August 19, 2015

‘Why Are My Married Friends So Smug?’

Dear Sara: What goes on psychologically that causes people to brag about their relationships and then chastise single friends for wanting the same thing? I’ve read studies before saying that happiness actually causes selfishness, and that if you’re down, it’s best not to talk to a friend who’s very happy with their life because they’re […]