eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


why men and women leave relationships
March 2, 2015

6 Reasons Men and Women Leave their Partners

Who knows more about how and why a marriage falls apart than a divorce mediator? Those in this field have witnessed the breakdown of many unions, and now two of them are actually writing about it in a new book called Conscious Coupling – Positive Insights for Long-Lasting Relationships Shared by Two Divorce Mediators. Don Desroches and […]

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robbie
February 27, 2015

7 Questions with Miss Robbie Montgomery

At 74, the very single and sassy Miss Robbie Montgomery is living a life beyond what she ever imagined. We had a quick chat with the owner of the famed Sweetie Pie’s soul food restaurants — and star of OWN’s “Welcome to Sweetie Pie’s” — about the important stuff in life. A new season of ‘Welcome to […]

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unconditional love
February 26, 2015

Should Unconditional Love Apply to Your Romantic Relationship?

The idea of completely accepting someone as they are is so nice, but in reality, not so easy. There have to be personal boundaries and one has to be able to express themselves and share when a behavior that their partner is exhibiting is bothersome, or upsetting in any way. One of my favorite dating experts, […]

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controlling people in relationships
February 24, 2015

How to Spot Control Issues in Your Date

While some character traits are tough to identify in others, control issues shine like Las Vegas neon lights when you see them in action. Unless you’re interested in co-signing for months or even years of drama down the road, you should avoid these signs in your dates immediately. Take a look at the behaviors below and […]

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mending a broken heart
February 24, 2015

Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that sting. This is, unfortunately, a common time of year for couples to part. The […]

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questions on eharmony
February 23, 2015

How to ‘Dig Deeper’ to Connect with Your Match

If you participate in eHarmony’s guided communication process, at some point, you’ll be prompted to ask and answer three open-ended questions known as “Dig Deeper.” As the name suggests, they’re intended to give you and your matches a chance to explore a topic near and dear to your hearts more thoroughly. Yet there’s an art […]

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being there for someone
February 23, 2015

The Importance of Being There When Things Are Going Well

One of the cornerstones of a successful relationship is supporting one another when things are difficult. But what about when things are really great? Now, more than ever, we are surrounded by good news. Opening your Facebook page and viewing your newsfeed or checking pictures from your Instagram account, you see that your friend got […]

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moving on
February 20, 2015

Rounding the Corner

“It will always be okay in the end; if it’s not okay yet, then it’s not the end.” I had coffee with a friend last week. She told me about her niece who is going through a nasty divorce. Her niece is angry. She’s hurt. She feels as if her life is over and that […]

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listening-habits-400x225
February 20, 2015

It’s Not About the Shampoo (Listen for the Unspoken)

How many times have you had a conversation with someone where they got really upset over something trivial? Clearly, there was a subtext there and something deeper going on. Instead of just reacting in the moment, is it possible to figure out what’s actually occuring and steer things in a more positive direction? Author Peter Bregman […]

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how to deal with divorce
February 19, 2015

How My Divorce Helped Me Grow

“The best lessons are the ones we learned the hard way!” Yup! My divorce sucked (that’s the best word for it). It was a really, really bad time in my life. If you have ever been through a divorce, or a really bad breakup, you can likely relate. It’s not an experience I would wish […]

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