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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.

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August 10, 2015

The Golden Rule of Dating

We all love the Golden Rule, right? It’s the kind of basic human rule of interaction that is so fundamental to our experience that it has popped up independently in civilizations all over the world. It is part sociology, psychology, religion, and philosophy. Wikipedia tells us… Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be […]

July 31, 2015

Stop Expecting to Be Rejected

When you’re dating and putting your heart on the line, you can expect a certain amount of rejection at every level of the process. In most cases, it’s obvious: He doesn’t return an email, or she dodges an end-of-the-evening kiss. But there are cases when it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. We expect to be rejected, and […]

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July 29, 2015

Why You Should Be a Selfish Dater

From the time we’re little children we are told to share. We’re told to be thoughtful, and to put others ahead of ourselves. “Don’t be selfish!” is a refrain heard in homes up and down every street in America. When it comes to little children and toys the lesson is necessary. When it comes to […]

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July 15, 2015

Was Finding Love Easier For Your Grandparents?

In his new book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, the software shows she read it. Then he sees the little dots that indicate she’s typing a reply. Then the dots vanish. Several hours pass and no word. A day […]

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July 10, 2015

Rx for Dating Anxiety: Do Something Nice

In the novel The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P., Adelle Waldman’s character Aurit perfectly articulates the unique emotional toll of dating: “Dating is probably the most fraught human interaction there is. You’re sizing people up to see if they’re worth your time and attention, and they’re doing the same to you. It’s meritocracy applied to […]

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July 9, 2015

Dating at 25 Versus 35: Advantages and Disadvantages

The experiences of dating at 25 versus 35 are light years apart. Though ten years’ difference may not seem so long relative to the overall lifespan, ten years makes an enormous difference at this critical juncture of adulthood. In one’s 20s, men and women are dating and getting established professionally; by their 30s, many men […]

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July 9, 2015

Stop with the Dating Horror Stories … Your Date is Not Impressed

Have you encountered this favorite pastime of online daters? As soon as you order your drink, your date leans in with the bait. “So, how do you like online dating?” he asks. Before you can even answer, “I’ve met some nice people,” he exclaims, “Well, I’ve got a story for you!” Thus begins a so-called […]

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July 2, 2015

Signs That Your Date Has Emotional Problems Vs. Everyday Issues

Show me someone who doesn’t have any personal issues and I’ll show you a briefcase full of thousand dollar bills. That’s right, ladies and gentlemen, it’s simply not going to happen. The goal in dating isn’t to find someone who doesn’t have any issues but rather to find someone who doesn’t have serious emotional problems. […]

July 1, 2015

Should Smoking Be a Deal Breaker?

For many men and women, smoking is a deal breaker in any potential date. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 18 percent of adults smoke cigarettes. If you rule out people who don’t smoke, the reality is that you are ruling out thousands – no, millions – of people! Yet the […]

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June 29, 2015

Planning a First Trip Together? Here’s How to Make Sure There’s a Second

Travel can bring a couple closer, but it can also stress out a new relationship and make you wonder if you’re really compatible in the long run. With every couple sunset selfie and delightful discovery of some amazing café that makes the best Nutella and banana crepes you’ve ever had, comes a lot of opportunities […]