eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


great new years resolutions
March 15, 2016

Are Eco-Friendly Daters More or Less Attractive?

Caring for the environment is an important topic these days. But how can it affect your dating life? Read here to find out.

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dating a fitness nut
March 15, 2016

How to Date a Fitness and Health Nut (When You’re Not One)

As a therapist who has worked with hundreds of couples on relationship problems, I can tell you that the issue of fitness and health actually causes more friction than you’d probably guess. The trouble starts when one member of a couple starts taking working out and eating healthfully to another level – a somewhat intense level. […]

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dating when shy
March 11, 2016

The Difference Between Shy Men and Shy Women

Shyness is one of the biggest challenges people face in dating. Simply put, many men and women don’t have the kind of personality that makes them want to strike up a conversation with a random stranger, and there is nothing wrong with that. As a psychologist, I find that neither the bubbly nor shy personality […]

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when a relationship ends
March 9, 2016

Why Do the End of Mini Relationships Hurt So Much?

On a recent meeting with a friend, I learned about the last woman who’d broken his heart. “How long had you gone out?” I asked, expecting to hear a story about several years of shared holidays, family vacations, and marriage talk. His answer: Two months “Two months?” I exclaimed. “But how can you know someone […]

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how to get over someone
March 4, 2016

When You Can’t Get Over Someone: Why You’re Stuck and Helpful Techniques

To begin, I feel your pain. Like most of you, I have someone in my past I couldn’t quite get over, so I had to use several different techniques to nip the problem in the bud. If you are disciplined about it, you can get over anyone, no matter how great they are. The first […]

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getting in the mood for a date
March 2, 2016

Don’t Cancel the Date: 5 Steps to Get in the Mood

Every single person hits a stretch where they don’t really feel like dating, and that’s completely understandable considering that most people work, balance a social life, and everything else on their to-do list. If you really can’t stomach the idea of having dinner with someone new, take a few weeks off and revisit the issue […]

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angry dater or person in relationship
March 2, 2016

Is Your Anger Hurting Your Dating Life?

Anger is a necessary but complex emotion. We can feel angry for multiple reasons, and our angry feelings can last either a few minutes or an entire lifetime. Do you know anyone whom you would say has a bona fide chip on their shoulder? When people use that expression, they’re talking about anger, and they are […]

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signs of a psychopath
February 25, 2016

Dating a Psychopath: 5 Clues and Signs

Have you ever been on a date with a psychopath? It would be hard to answer this question accurately because psychopaths are experts in disguise, and it can take a long time – months or even years – to see the full extent of the individual’s pathology. Psychopaths can be male or female, though research […]

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heart open to love
February 24, 2016

Is Your Heart Open to Love?

There’s been a lot of chatter lately about how being vulnerable can help you connect with someone. Sociologist Brené Brown’s TEDx speech “The Power of Vulnerability” is one of the most watched talks ever, and psychologist Arthur Aron also received a lot of attention with his claim that you could quickly fall in love with […]

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insecure guy
February 19, 2016

4 Signs of an Insecure Guy

Insecure men come in every size and age, and they all share the need for affirmation. What does this mean exactly? You’ll understand in a moment when I share the behaviors insecure men engage in more than their secure and confident male peers. First, however, it is important to note that most insecure men don’t […]

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