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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


dating advice
February 10, 2016

Don’t Feel Confident? You May Make a Better Impression

If you’re hoping to fall in love in 2016, you may have resolved to be more confident. Confidence, singles are repeatedly told, is sexy. The common belief is that if you look in the mirror and see a gorgeous, brilliant, and wildly popular person, others will view you that way, too. The prescriptions for raising […]

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February 9, 2016

5 Steps to Creating Your Dating Marketing Plan

“Bring the best of your authentic self to every opportunity.” ~ John Jantsch, Author of Duct Tape Marketing An evening meeting with a professional colleague (let’s call her Susan) turned a little punchy last week. We were talking about our business marketing strategy … which led to an economics discussion on supply and demand … […]

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love easier than u think
February 9, 2016

Loving is Easier Than You Think

The search for love is often described like a treasure hunt—it’s something you find and, if you’re careful, have forever. I have certainly been guilty of writing and thinking about love this way. But research by University of North Carolina psychologist Barbara Fredrickson reveals that this very stagnant view of love is not accurate. Love […]

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looking for love
February 8, 2016

How to Lead Someone On (and Why You Shouldn’t)

When was the last time you led someone on? Odds are that you, like most people, have led someone on without even knowing it. The motivation for this behavior – leading someone on – stems from the desire to be liked and to feel attractive. Accordingly, when you have been guilty of leading someone on, […]

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loving others advice
February 8, 2016

Love is Not an Achievement

I recently recorded a Valentine’s Day video for an online news organization. The theme: “Valentine’s Day Sucks.” My friend Jen (author of a great book called Save the Date) and I rolled our eyes at those corny Mylar balloons and chalky Valentine’s hearts, making up goofy inscriptions like “Let’s Settle For Each Other” and “You’ll […]

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February 3, 2016

4 Rules: The First 14 Days of Dating

I know, I know! You’ve met someone who you’re va-va-voom attracted to, so what happens next? If you’re like most of us, you’ve been out with several people but it didn’t quite work out. When you meet someone with whom you’re potentially a good fit, be very careful in the first two weeks of dating. Rushing […]

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February 1, 2016

5 Terrible First Date Questions (You Should Wait to Ask Until Later!)

When you first meet someone you’re interested in, it is perfectly normal to want to know everything about this new person. There are usually some pretty loaded questions you’d like to ask, so the key is to know when and how to ask them. Take a look at the list below and you’ll quickly see why […]

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onlinedatingstigma
January 22, 2016

Not Sure About Online Dating? Keep it to Yourself!

If you’re new to online dating, you might have wrestled with the decision to join a site before you actually got up the nerve to post a profile. You might have wondered whether it would help you meet quality people. Even if you’re already chatting with matches, you still might be feeling ambivalent about whether […]

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online dating tips
January 22, 2016

A Cure for the ‘Pick Me’ Blues

If you’ve recently created a dating profile for yourself, you’re not alone. This is the busiest time of year for online dating sites like this one. Along with your height, eye color, and favorite films, you’ve probably attempted to include language that informs the reader that you’re worth a look. You want to distinguish yourself […]

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falling in love feels scary
January 19, 2016

Talking Back to Your Inner Critic

In January, the gyms are crowded and dating sites like this one see their highest levels of traffic. That’s a good thing—the New Year is a terrific time to challenge yourself to improve your life. But as most of us are painfully aware, most New Year’s resolutions don’t stick, as the lure of streaming videos […]

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