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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


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February 13, 2015

Rob and Kristen Bell on the Best Way to Find Love

This Sunday, Oprah Winfrey sits down with Pastor Rob Bell and his wife Kristen for a conversation about transforming your relationships. But before that, we were fortunate enough to chat with the amazing couple as they answered your questions from our eHarmony social media channels. I think you will really like their answers, because I found them […]

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friendships and what makes good ones
February 12, 2015

The Top 5 Attributes of Real Friends

“What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.” — Oprah Winfrey I recently had business meetings in NYC on a Monday. I took advantage of flying up there the weekend prior and scheduled catch-up time with several friends. Two of the friends lived in or near NYC so it was easy for us to […]

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codependent relationship and how to stop
February 11, 2015

Codependent Dating: Signs and How to Stop It

As a relationship therapist, I see codependence all the time. Put another way, I see codependence as frequently as, say, Jennifer Lopez sees bronzer when she looks in her makeup bag. (And that’s a lot.) Codependence – which I’ll define in a moment – is one of the biggest problems people have in relationships, and […]

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valentines day gift ideas for guys
February 11, 2015

Valentine’s Gifts that Don’t Cost a Penny

If you are single this Valentine’s Day, you can either choose to feel sad you aren’t with anyone, or you can just look at the day like any other. It’s. just. a. day. Hang out with friends or family if it is bothering you and you struggle with being alone. And before you know it … it […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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drinking and dating
February 9, 2015

I Didn’t Drink For a Month and My Dating Life Was…

Blogger Lindsay Tigar is back with new confessions, and a personal challenge for the new year.  I love that she removed the “mask” of alcohol and went on dates without that little crutch, which can sometimes cloud judgment. Read on for her latest entry with us… Written by Lindsay Tigar Last year was truly amazing: […]

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date advice
February 9, 2015

The Great Date Experiment

“There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.” ~ James Nathan Miller I was fired up last Friday evening. My husband and I were sitting down together, enjoying a glass of wine, and sharing our days with […]

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valentines day
February 3, 2015

Don’t Let Valentine’s Day Break Your Heart — or Your Bank

Many centuries ago, a Catholic priest named Valentine was sentenced to death for illegally marrying young couples. While imprisoned, he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter and just before his Feb. 14 execution passed her a note that said “from your Valentine.” This is the first—and possibly one of the last—times Valentine’s Day was […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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letting go of past
January 30, 2015

Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present

Hanging on to old hurts, failed relationships, or other negative experiences just keeps you stuck in that emotional space. I have seen a few people in my life do just that, and it is very sad. Some of them could never move forward, forgive, and heal. I often wonder what their lives could have been like […]

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