eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


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November 29, 2016

The Biggest Dating Dealbreaker May Surprise You…

One of the coolest things about working at eHarmony is all of the interesting data we have access to. Millions of eHarmony members have answered our questions, and here is what they currently feel about smoking, cheating, lying, and the biggest dealbreaker of all — rudeness! This one caught me by surprise, but I am […]

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November 21, 2016

How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy)

Dating more than one person at a time may sound a little overwhelming, but it’s actually one of the best ways to find the right match for you. When you date only one person, it’s easy to get emotionally attached quickly. Remember — it’s hard to detach once you have already gotten attached! When you start to […]

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relationship needs
November 21, 2016

What Do Men and Women Want in a First Date?

All successful relationships have to start somewhere, and most couples can remember the exciting energy of their first date together. As such an important foundation, we wanted to ask eHarmony members about their hopes and fears and what they think is most important on a first date. We surveyed 452 eHarmony members (231 men and […]

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November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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what men want
November 11, 2016

Men Are Looking for a Nurturer, Not Another Mother

Having worked with hundreds of male clients over the years, I can say with assurance that what men are really looking for in a woman is nurturance. Men are looking for a woman who can be strong, but also kind and warm. Men want a woman who shows them physical affection, and also listens when […]

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Love questions
November 11, 2016

3 Questions To Ask Yourself About a Potential Partner

Dear Sara: How would I know who would be a potential spouse for me? – A Dear A: There are so many elements that go into a good relationship. At first, of course, you’re focused on the fun, exciting stuff. Are you attracted to them? Do you enjoy talking to them? Do you like doing […]

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dating excuses
November 10, 2016

The Top 5 Excuses for Being Too Busy to Date

There’s no question that there are some circumstances in life that make a person too busy to have the time to date. For example, being a single parent with two jobs can make dating difficult or even impossible. There are also times when a person is working full-time and attending school, and these circumstances can […]

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November 7, 2016

Are You Happy Enough in These 3 Areas to Attract Good Dates?

As a rule, people like happy people. Men and women are attracted to happy people because they believe that they will feel better if they are around that type of person. Yes, a handful of men and women are drawn to depressive or antisocial types, but the majority of people are looking for someone with whom they […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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November 3, 2016

60 Days ‘Til Love: Get Ready for the New Year’s Rush

The arrival of November marks the start of the holiday season. It’s also the time when singles like to complain about how terrible it is to be unattached during these weeks of holiday cheer. Here’s a better idea: Use the next two months to get ready for the time when it’s actually great to be […]

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