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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


find a relationship
February 7, 2017

‘Why Can’t I Find a Relationship?’

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest — I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I’ve been told men may find me intimidating by females and some men have admitted this although […]

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dating life
February 1, 2017

4 Distorted Beliefs That Ruin Your Dating Life

Cognitive distortion is the fancy term for a distorted belief, a belief that doesn’t make sense because it’s not rooted in reality. For example, a thin woman who truly feels that she’s overweight has a distorted belief. The idea is that this distorted belief is pervasive and has the effect of making this woman feel […]

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expectations and dating
February 1, 2017

Valentine’s Day. Does Anyone Care Anymore?

Love is in the air today. But do people really celebrate Valentine’s Day as much as we think? What do people do for Valentine’s Day? Read here to find out what our research has shown.

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An American football resting just over the goal line for a touchdown
January 31, 2017

Are Football Fans More Desirable?

As the Super Bowl is just days away (Go Falcons!), I was curious about something … do guys care if a woman likes football? Do women find guys who watch football more desirable? Fortunately, our research scientists are just two floors down from me. I asked eHarmony Research Scientist Jonathan Beber to do a little […]

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get  him back
January 19, 2017

‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I’m 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I’ve been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took most of the steps to advance the relationship in the […]

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too picky
January 10, 2017

Finding Fault with Everyone You Date: When No One is Good Enough

Because I write about dating and relationships, I’m always on the lookout for issues that affect both men and women. I occasionally find myself “accidentally” listening to others’ conversations as I’m standing in line or eating at a restaurant, and I’m always asking friends to share their own dating experiences to see if there is an […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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Closeup view of silhouette of three darts sticking in a professional sisal dartboard. All three darts hit the inner bull / bull's eye / mark.
January 6, 2017

3 Dating Resolutions Everyone Can Achieve

Some people say that New Year’s resolutions are silly or even meaningless, but those naysayers are probably people who have made them in the past and then broken them. If you are an organized list maker or goal setter, you are probably someone who gets things done timely and effectively. For you, setting resolutions is a […]

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New Year's clock at midnight
December 22, 2016

Single on New Year’s? Don’t Sweat It.

What are you doing for New Year’s?” It’s an innocent question, but for many people it can inspire mild panic. If you don’t have a good answer—that is, if you can’t report that you’re attending a glittery party with a live swing band or a cozy dinner where the hosts serve great wine and paella—it […]

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holiday
December 22, 2016

A Holiday Survival Guide for Singles

We have some very creative people who work at eHarmony! One of our social media specialists Shannon created this sweet survival guide for anyone having a tough time during the holidays. Whether you are single or in a relationship, I think this time of year can feel a bit lonely if you have lost loved […]

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