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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


phone etiquette for dates
October 30, 2015

Going Old School: How to Be a Better Phone Date

People love to complain about how we’ve become too attached to our phones. The funny thing is that many of us don’t really like to actually talk on them. Even if we used to love to chat into the wee hours as teenagers, the convenience of texting, Messenger, Snapchat, and WhatsApp has converted many people into […]

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October 28, 2015

Does Dating Make You Frightened? Good.

Last week, I thought I saw a ghost. A flurry of light swished across the living room floor and I tensed for a second. Could it be? It wasn’t. Car headlights, I later realized, were reflecting off a side window and creating the eerie effect. But it was still fun to think about on a […]

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October 26, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween Horror

It’s a sneak peek at Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween night. No blind dates. No mysterious strangers. Just an evening in with her cat, some candy, and an ironic message. Don’t give up on love Franny! We are rooting for you. Until then, turn the TV off!   See More Franny Dates!

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October 26, 2015

Do You Lose Your Identity in Relationships?

What makes you YOU? The chances are, you could tell me at least a half-dozen things that define you. You may even fall into a lifestyle “type” – musician, biker, hiker/camper, triathlete, etc. These kinds of lifestyle choices help determine who our friends are, what clothes we wear, where we hang out, and how we […]

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how to talk to strangers
October 21, 2015

The Case For Talking to Strangers

“Ya gotta get out there.” That’s a refrain singles searching for romantic partners often hear. The trouble is, “there” isn’t always such a hospitable place. Sure you can leave the house, take a walk, meet friends for dinner, or go to the occasional cocktail party. But day-to-day life generally isn’t conducive to those adorable cute […]

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October 20, 2015

Are You Trying Too Hard in Dating?

I was recently at a friend’s wedding when I joined the bride’s friends in a discussion about her single days. “She was terrible to go out with,” exclaimed one. “Don’t you remember how she’d drag us all to a bar, do a lap to see if there were any guys worth meeting and then exclaim […]

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how to love yourself
October 15, 2015

Don’t Love Yourself? Try Just Being Friends.

Whenever people ask Buddhist teacher Lodro Rinzler to talk about love and romance, he asks them a simple question: “When you go on a date, do you bring your most authentic self?” “Ninety percent of the time, the answer is ‘Hell, no,’” Rinzler writes in How To Love Yourself (And Sometimes Other People): Spiritual Advice […]

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should you date someone who is sober
October 14, 2015

Should I Date Someone Who’s Sober if I’m a Social Drinker?

Conventional wisdom suggests that approximately ten percent of adults are in recovery from alcohol or drug addiction, which means that there’s a decent chance you’ll come across some of these men and women in the dating world. If you enjoy the occasional alcoholic drink but aren’t an alcoholic yourself, can you date someone who is […]

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October 13, 2015

Engaged Forever: When Your Fiancé Won’t Set the Wedding Date

Without question, long engagements can be incredibly anxiety-provoking and frustrating. Everyone you know will ask, “Why haven’t you set a date?” It’s always interesting to me that people ask others incredibly personal questions on the spot, as if you’re supposed to tell that random guy from work or an acquaintance you see on the street […]

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October 12, 2015

Not Sure if You Like Your Date Enough? What It Could Really Mean…

If you’re someone who tends to overthink things, you’re not alone. Many of us – therapists and psychologists included – tend to obsess about things that could otherwise be fairly simple. If you find yourself unsure about whether you like the new person you’re dating enough to continue on, we can infer a few things. […]

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