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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


battle of sexes
June 6, 2016

Let’s End The Bogus Battle of the Sexes

Shortly after my book, It’s Not You, was released, I was giving a reading in Brooklyn, NY, when a reader asked me why relationship books like mine are always written for women. “Because women buy the books,” I said. My editor and publicist, sitting in the front row, both nodded. This, I added, wasn’t necessarily […]

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fun dating profile
June 6, 2016

‘What Do You Do For Fun?’ No, Really! What Do You Do?

Have you ever given your dates a blank stare when they asked, “What do you do for fun?” Yes, it sounds like the simplest of questions, but it can be the one of the most stressful to answer. Maybe you think back to what you did last Sunday, and you come up with this list: […]

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The woman touches finger-tips to the mouth
June 3, 2016

Signs You May Seem Desperate (and 3 Confidence Boosters)

Everyone has had that moment where they ask themselves the most awful question: Have I become desperate? Odds are that, no, you haven’t become an overall desperate person even though you may be having a pretty desperate phase. Usually it’s someone emotionally or physically unavailable that unleashes desperation in you. While that may be annoying […]

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Man portrait in the city wearing leather jacket and sunglasses
May 31, 2016

Can You Tame a ‘Bad Boy’ to Settle Down?

Picture it: You’ve met a great guy but you can tell that he’s someone who isn’t yet settled and doesn’t seem to want settle down anytime soon. The problem? You want him to settle down with you! Is there something you can do to make him settle down? Keep reading and you’ll find that the […]

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Image of female hands giving Christmas present to her friend
May 26, 2016

When Dating Yields Unexpected Benefits

In an earlier post, I discussed how research on professional networking can sometimes apply to the search for a romantic partner. An additional finding in that piece said that successful networkers had a higher sense of purpose—for example, they saw their efforts as being on behalf of their firm or clients. I left that insight […]

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443018
May 24, 2016

You Remind Me of Me (and That’s Hot)

At two bars in France, three women attended speed-dating sessions with specific instructions from a research team: mimic certain men they met, and take pains not to mimic others. For the uninitiated, speed-dating is a system where a large group of singles are paired off and placed at tables for short “dates” of about five […]

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dating someone with money
May 23, 2016

Dating Someone with Money

It sounds great on paper – dating someone with money – but there are special considerations to take if you decide to pursue or date someone who has a lot more money than you. Yes, dating someone with money has a lot of advantages in that he or she offers the prospect of having a […]

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men who love dogs
May 23, 2016

Women Love Men Who Love Dogs

In the summer of 2007, a handsome 20-year-old man was instructed to approach young women in a French pedestrian zone and say this: “Hello. My name’s Antoine. I just want to say that I think you’re really pretty. I have to go to work this afternoon, but I was wondering if you would give me […]

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Silhouette of young man sitting on sunset or sunrise. Confident teenage boy thinkig on cliff stone. Hope. Sadness. Freedom.
May 17, 2016

After a Traumatic Event: Starting to Date Again

More men and women than you know are seated on the sidelines of dating because they have suffered some sort of traumatic event, and they are dealing with the psychological aftermath. People experience major traumas every single day and there are all types of trauma. Direct Trauma First, there are traumas in which a person is […]

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relationship needs
May 16, 2016

Need a Relationship? You’re Not Needy. You’re Normal.

If there was ever a piece of bad relationship advice that won’t die, it’s this: Be super careful not to appear too needy to your romantic interests. Otherwise, you’ll turn them off. You’re supposed to show them that you’re independent and perfectly happy making your own coffee on Sunday mornings. Of course, there’s a fine […]

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