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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


Couple Holding Hands
July 20, 2016

DATE: What I Learned from an Adorable Couple Who Met Online

I was traveling recently, and met a couple who were clearly dating and seemed very much “in like” and heading towards “in love.” As I so often do, I started asking them all sorts of questions about how they met, and because of what I do, my interest was immediately piqued when they said they […]

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nice guys and dating
July 20, 2016

Leave Room For the Nice Guys

Dear Sara: I’m 49 years old. I’ve never been married, and have no children. I dated a guy for 15 years, thought we would be married and have kids, and we have been broken up for over 10 years. It took me three years to get over that relationship because he immediately found someone 10 years […]

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self doubt and dating
July 14, 2016

‘Is Self-Doubt Harming My Chance of Finding Love?’

Dear Sara: A while back, I had a “come to Jesus” moment with a [single] friend/mentor when she was implying, yet again, that marriage is a sign of spiritual maturity. I argued it was luck. I said, “Tell me one thing a happily married woman (I decided to make it easy for her by excluding […]

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dating advice
July 13, 2016

Why We Love People Who ‘Speak Our Language’

Your mother was right: “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” Especially in the search for romantic love. A study by University of Texas psychologists James Pennebaker and Molly Ireland found that people with similar speaking and writing styles show more romantic interest in one another than those with more divergent language […]

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dating someone with kids
July 11, 2016

Dating Someone with Kids: 4 Questions and Tips to Consider

Right off the bat, there are many reasons why it’s not ideal to date someone with a child. After all, it’s not just the fact that you have to make it work with the person you’re dating and the child that comes along with him or her, but you also have to deal with the ex […]

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July 11, 2016

Do You Seem Too Busy to Date?

Yes, we are all busy, busy. We have jam-packed schedules full of work, travel, family commitments, exercise, social activities, personal development goals, and so many good TV shows. It’s amazing that anyone finds time to date! Well, it turns out we’re not any less time-starved than before – at least compared to 14 years ago […]

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loneliness
July 8, 2016

How to Feel Less Lonely When You’re Single: 5 Tips

There’s no doubt that being single can be a little lonely sometimes, especially if all or most of your good friends are in relationships. While being a little lonely is inevitable, you don’t have to feel really, really lonely. There are many things you can do to make sure that you protect yourself emotionally from […]

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fun date
July 6, 2016

How to Be a Fun Date

Been on a good date lately? If so, I bet you’re likely to describe it as “fun.” We rarely characterize early dates as being “meaningful” or “bonding,” although those words might be better indicators of the potential for a close relationship. That’s because we live in a culture that places a premium on the word […]

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smiling woman holding sparklers in her hand
July 1, 2016

Celebrating Singles’ Independence

A few years ago, I held a Fourth of July barbecue in my newly adopted city, and afterwards I noticed something interesting: the friends who came early to help set up and stayed late to help clean up had one thing in common: They were single. This isn’t a criticism of my married guests. They […]

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first date advice
June 28, 2016

How to Make Every Date Worthwhile

Most online daters have a general idea of the qualities they’re seeking in a boyfriend or girlfriend—smart, funny, athletic, etc. But couples therapist Peter Pearson says the most important factor is often overlooked: your date’s values. Pearson explains that while daters often place a lot of importance on physical attraction and common interests, shared values […]

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