eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


say no and say yes
October 6, 2016

Sometimes You Have to Say No to Say Yes!

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, or is it?” Have you ever had to say no to something in order to open the door to saying yes to something else? What happened? I had a great conversation with a colleague over lunch last week. She’s been dating a guy for […]

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first date questions
October 5, 2016

Four Must-Ask First Date Questions

What questions should you ask someone on a first date? The four questions below provide a nice springboard, designed to motivate further conversation without making your date feel interviewed or cross-examined. Ask these questions and you can potentially get gobs of good information to mentally feast on later! 1. What kind of relationship are you looking […]

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relationship advice
October 4, 2016

‘I Don’t Understand Why She Left’

Dear Sara: Two and a half years ago, I met a woman online (I was 43 and she was 33 and an alcoholic, sober for 3 years), and we hit it off right away. She was witty and smart. We communicated really well, and we had great physical chemistry. After a few weeks, she said […]

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signs of cheating
October 4, 2016

3 Warning Signs Your Date Will Cheat On You

If you remember one rule about cheating, let it be this: There are always signs in the beginning. What are those signs? How can you tell if someone you’re dating will one day cheat on you? Watch out for these particular things, and save yourself unnecessary heartbreak. Once you start dating someone, how much time does it […]

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what's your dating story?
September 20, 2016

‘What’s Your Story?’ Here’s What They Really Want to Know!

“So what’s your story?” your date innocently asks. The question seems so simple, so delightfully inquisitive even. I’ve been asked it on dates, at networking events and family reunions. Yet I happen to find the question infuriating! I feel as if I’m being asked to neatly summarize the events of my life, including my professional […]

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why brad and angelina are divorcing
September 20, 2016

Brad, Angelina, and the Real Reason Many Relationships Fail

I always look for a silver lining with these types of news stories: ‘Brad and Angelina: It’s Over.’ In this latest case of a celeb marriage turned sour, I turned to our Chief Scientist Steve Carter, who has been studying relationships at eHarmony for 15+ years, for his take on why so many unions just […]

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expectations and dating
September 13, 2016

4 Unrealistic Expectations Men and Women Have in Dating

Before you start a relationship, it is helpful to know what you expect once you’re in one. In fact, many relationships end because one or both individuals in a couple didn’t get their expectations met. What happens when you have expectations that don’t get met? You get unhappy and think about ending the relationship. In […]

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Young girl with outspread hands standing on haystack (intentional sun glare and lens flares)
September 13, 2016

Feel Out of Place With Your Peers? Why That’s Good For Dating

“I don’t know where I’m supposed to go,” my date confessed across the table several years ago. “I don’t know where my tribe is anymore.” He was in his mid-40s without kids and newly single after a long relationship and tumultuous breakup. He didn’t know where he would have the best chance to meet new […]

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dating tips and romance
September 12, 2016

Romantic Gestures: What Do Men and Women Want?

Whether you prefer mood lighting and a home-cooked meal or a perhaps a serenade, we wanted to know what eHarmony users thought was most important when it came to romance. We looked at responses to our “Q&A” feature, where eHarmony users answered a series of multiple choice questions about their attitudes and opinions on a […]

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september dating and romance
September 7, 2016

Why September is the Best Month to Date

Summer is suddenly over, and your Facebook feed is flooded with “Back to School” photos. Although no one posts “Continuing to Work” photos when you’re an adult, the beginning of September brings a fresh energy of renewal and focus that’s perfect to apply to dating. Why not start a “Back to Dating” tradition by posting […]

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