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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


drinking and dating
February 9, 2015

I Didn’t Drink For a Month and My Dating Life Was…

Blogger Lindsay Tigar is back with new confessions, and a personal challenge for the new year.  I love that she removed the “mask” of alcohol and went on dates without that little crutch, which can sometimes cloud judgment. Read on for her latest entry with us… Written by Lindsay Tigar Last year was truly amazing: […]

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date advice
February 9, 2015

The Great Date Experiment

“There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.” ~ James Nathan Miller I was fired up last Friday evening. My husband and I were sitting down together, enjoying a glass of wine, and sharing our days with […]

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valentines day
February 3, 2015

Don’t Let Valentine’s Day Break Your Heart — or Your Bank

Many centuries ago, a Catholic priest named Valentine was sentenced to death for illegally marrying young couples. While imprisoned, he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter and just before his Feb. 14 execution passed her a note that said “from your Valentine.” This is the first—and possibly one of the last—times Valentine’s Day was […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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letting go of past
January 30, 2015

Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present

Hanging on to old hurts, failed relationships, or other negative experiences just keeps you stuck in that emotional space. I have seen a few people in my life do just that, and it is very sad. Some of them could never move forward, forgive, and heal. I often wonder what their lives could have been like […]

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36 questions
January 28, 2015

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?

Can you make a decision to fall in love? Writer Mandy Len Catron wanted to find out. As Catron writes in a wildly popular New York Times Modern Love column, she told an acquaintance about a technique, developed by psychologist Arthur Aron, in which two strangers ask each other 36 questions of increasing intimacy and […]

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loving yourself how to
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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how to approach someone
January 16, 2015

How to Approach Someone New (Without Being Cheesy!)

This subject doesn’t need much of an introduction because we all know how awkward it is to approach someone new, as well as how cheesy so many well-intentioned efforts can be. Yet mastering the art of an introduction is actually much easier than you may think. Ask for permission. Walking over to talk to someone […]

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dating makes you strong
January 13, 2015

How Dating Can Make You Strong

In her memoir, Bossypants, comedian Tina Fey explains how performing improvisational comedy made her a stronger person: “What I learned about ‘bombing’ as an improviser at Second City was that it doesn’t kill you. No matter how badly an improv set goes, you will still be physically alive when it’s over,” Fey writes. This is […]

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being single and what you learn
January 12, 2015

The Most Important Thing to Remember in Dating (Which You Likely Forget!)

In today’s guest post, the amazing Lindsay Tigar returns with an inspiring new blog about how she shifted her focus inward, and has found some real happiness. You will love this one! Enjoy — and congrats to Lindsay. Can’t wait to see where life takes you next. Written by Lindsay Tigar My ex and I broke […]

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