eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


love concept, a book and a paper heart
May 12, 2016

Dating Lessons from The Harvard Business Review

Single people are often told to “get out there,” a phrase that can instill both anxiety and guilt. Of course, we all know it’s true—if you want to find a romantic partner, you’ll have to leave the house. But if the prospect of subjecting yourself to the scrutiny of others—while simultaneously evaluating them—makes you queasy, […]

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beautiful couple sitting in the cafe and having fun
May 11, 2016

A Couple’s First Fight: Don’t Overreact or Panic

Arguments are inevitable in relationships. I have found that the happiest long-term couples have occasional fights and they can return to normal pretty quickly. The key for any couple is to keep some perspective and to avoid getting too emotional when arguing. When you meet someone new, of course, the relationship starts with all sorts […]

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appreciation
May 11, 2016

Appreciation

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou There are an overwhelming number of women who feel unappreciated by their husbands. I often hear the following: “I just want to feel appreciated. For years I have […]

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happily ever after myth
May 5, 2016

The Problem with ‘Happy Ever After’

Earlier this year, a reader told me that until very recently she always thought she needed a man to “complete” her, citing the line from Jerry McGuire. Fortunately, she later realized that wasn’t the case and discovered new interests and relationships that filled her in ways she never imagined possible. I definitely recall a certain […]

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angry people
May 5, 2016

5 Signs You’ve Become ‘That Angry Person’

It’s true that some people are angrier than others, stuck in an emotional gear that negatively impacts so many areas of life. At the farthest end of the angry spectrum, picture someone like the character Jack Nicholson plays in ‘The Shining.’ Let’s all agree that this was one angry man! I have to wonder how […]

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giving compliments
May 3, 2016

8 Compliments Your Date Will Love (and Why)

Let’s be real for a minute. Who doesn’t love a compliment? Actually, let me be more specific: Who doesn’t love a really good, personalized compliment? A heartfelt compliment can light each one of us up like a Christmas tree as long as we trust that the words are genuine and truly specific to us. To begin, let […]

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dating and stayingpositive
May 2, 2016

How to Stay Positive When Your Friends Are Hating on Dating

Your friends can be a great source of inspiration and consolation when you’re looking for love. They’ll laugh with you about a dud date or help you decode a baffling text. (Not sure what to write back? The smiley face emoji always works!) They’ll dust you off when a promising romance fizzles or simply remind […]

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dating and not losing faith
April 28, 2016

How to Not Lose Heart

“All my relationships have failed.” “There must be something wrong with me.” “As I get older, it’s going to be harder for me to date.” For some reason, we human beings have a bad habit of letting upsetting thoughts take over our brains. We fret and churn, convinced that this is somehow productive. Most of […]

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undateable
April 25, 2016

A Reader Asks ‘Am I Undateable?’

Dear Sara: I loved the letter that you posted from the young lady who was struggling with dating at first. She eventually realized that she enjoyed being single and meeting all types of people and loving them. Are some people just undateable (excuse my made-up word)? I am beginning to think I have been single […]

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controlling personalities
April 25, 2016

The 3 Most Controlling Types of People

Can we all agree that being controlling is one of the most frustrating traits a person can have, especially when it comes to dating and relationships? In all likelihood, you have dealt with at least one seriously controlling individual, whether it was a parent, friend, boss, or romantic partner. Controlling types can actually be appealing […]

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