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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


how to get over someone
March 4, 2016

When You Can’t Get Over Someone: Why You’re Stuck and Helpful Techniques

To begin, I feel your pain. Like most of you, I have someone in my past I couldn’t quite get over, so I had to use several different techniques to nip the problem in the bud. If you are disciplined about it, you can get over anyone, no matter how great they are. The first […]

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getting in the mood for a date
March 2, 2016

Don’t Cancel the Date: 5 Steps to Get in the Mood

Every single person hits a stretch where they don’t really feel like dating, and that’s completely understandable considering that most people work, balance a social life, and everything else on their to-do list. If you really can’t stomach the idea of having dinner with someone new, take a few weeks off and revisit the issue […]

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angry dater or person in relationship
March 2, 2016

Is Your Anger Hurting Your Dating Life?

Anger is a necessary but complex emotion. We can feel angry for multiple reasons, and our angry feelings can last either a few minutes or an entire lifetime. Do you know anyone whom you would say has a bona fide chip on their shoulder? When people use that expression, they’re talking about anger, and they are […]

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signs of a psychopath
February 25, 2016

Dating a Psychopath: 5 Clues and Signs

Have you ever been on a date with a psychopath? It would be hard to answer this question accurately because psychopaths are experts in disguise, and it can take a long time – months or even years – to see the full extent of the individual’s pathology. Psychopaths can be male or female, though research […]

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heart open to love
February 24, 2016

Is Your Heart Open to Love?

There’s been a lot of chatter lately about how being vulnerable can help you connect with someone. Sociologist Brené Brown’s TEDx speech “The Power of Vulnerability” is one of the most watched talks ever, and psychologist Arthur Aron also received a lot of attention with his claim that you could quickly fall in love with […]

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insecure guy
February 19, 2016

4 Signs of an Insecure Guy

Insecure men come in every size and age, and they all share the need for affirmation. What does this mean exactly? You’ll understand in a moment when I share the behaviors insecure men engage in more than their secure and confident male peers. First, however, it is important to note that most insecure men don’t […]

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Woman drinking coffee and making a diary note, top view of female hands writing in notebook, retro toned image with selective focus.
February 17, 2016

Why Singles Get Such Bad Advice

Dear Sara: I am 37 years old, and I am single. I have had two long relationships but have been single for a while now. Sometimes I feel great about my life, and sometimes I feel very depressed about being single. Sometimes people are really supportive towards me and sometimes they are not. I discovered […]

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feb16
February 12, 2016

Franny Agnes Lee’s Secret Valentine

Our sassy single Franny Agnes Lee receives a valentine. But is it for her? Hey, cats need love too. Hope you celebrate all the love in your life this year — whether it’s romantic, friendships, family, or self-love.  See More Franny Dates!

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dating tips over 40
February 10, 2016

Over 40: Dating Tips

Let’s get real for a moment: Once you’ve been huffing and puffing for 40-plus years, you’ve earned some serious stripes. By now, you’ve probably survived everything from bad relationships to bad jobs, and crazy friends to complex family relationships. In other words, you’ve earned wisdom that you didn’t have when you were younger. For this […]

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dating advice
February 10, 2016

Don’t Feel Confident? You May Make a Better Impression

If you’re hoping to fall in love in 2016, you may have resolved to be more confident. Confidence, singles are repeatedly told, is sexy. The common belief is that if you look in the mirror and see a gorgeous, brilliant, and wildly popular person, others will view you that way, too. The prescriptions for raising […]

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