eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


sunday single person
April 15, 2016

Why Sundays Are the Loneliest Day of the Week

It’s a myth that date-less Saturday nights feel the most depressing when you’re unattached. I’ve heard many daters claim those long stretches of Sunday solitude are worse. That’s especially the case if you’re newly single and your former Sunday Fun Days suddenly have big gaping holes in them. Maybe you and your ex used to […]

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joy of cooking as a single person
April 15, 2016

The Joy of Cooking For One (or Two)

When author Klancy Miller was attending culinary school in Paris, she came down with a bad cold and yearned for a bowl of old-fashioned chicken noodle soup. A single woman who lived alone, she realized she’d need to make it for herself. The incident set Miller on a path that ultimately led to her first […]

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dating fake people
April 13, 2016

How to Spot Someone Who’s Fake (and Avoid Dating Them!)

One of the most confusing and frustrating traits in another person is fakeness. Part of what makes dealing with fake people so difficult is that it sometimes takes a little while to discover who someone really is. Because fake people excel at pretending, it makes sizing him or her up even more confusing. You can […]

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Woman with her dog tender scene
April 11, 2016

If I Want a Relationship, I Should Get a Dog?

If you’ve decided you’re looking for a serious, long-term partner, one of the best ways to get ready for a relationship is to get a pet. You could get a cat, dog, or any other pet, but getting a dog is going to be the best, savviest route to achieving your goal. You’ll understand why […]

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happy single
April 6, 2016

She Dropped Her Need for a Relationship—and Learned to Love

A couple of months ago, I posted a letter from a woman who was having a tough time dating and felt disheartened because her coupled friends were judging her for it. She had written me several weeks before, and by the time the piece posted she had mostly worked through the issue herself. She wrote […]

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starting to online date
April 6, 2016

Can’t Get Started? How to Ease Into Online Dating

A woman I’ll call Amanda had an inbox full of matches who were interested in getting to know her. Every few weeks, an email would bait her with this message: “eHarmony Icebreaker received: Jeff can’t stop smiling.” But Amanda was perfectly content to let him keep on smiling. She wouldn’t even log on to her […]

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dating advice
April 4, 2016

When You Should Keep Dating Someone You’re Not Attracted To

For most people, it is normal and healthy to only date people to whom they’re truly sexually attracted. However, there is another large group of men and women who actually should date people they’re not immediately attracted to, and I will tell you why! If you came from a chaotic home as a child or […]

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thoughtful or asking us to shut up and make some silence this blonde woman has big beautiful eyes and an intense look
March 31, 2016

The Important Role of Doubt

“Doubt is the pinprick in the life raft.” Library of Souls, Ransom Riggs When doubt enters into a relationship, it’s like the pinprick in the life raft, and if left unattended, it slowly sucks the air out completely leaving nothing but a saggy, soggy remnant of what once was. Doubt! I’ve spoken with many people […]

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how to love yourself
March 30, 2016

‘All the Single Ladies’: Happy Women Don’t Settle

During Rebecca Traister’s many single years, she was often irritated when the men she dated disrupted her routine. She didn’t like it when they urged her to leave work earlier than she wanted, or when their presence in her apartment obstructed her weekly cleaning ritual. She was impatient with men who called too frequently, or […]

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changes in life
March 25, 2016

Change: An Opportunity for Renewal!

  “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” ~ Socrates   Your life has changed. You are now divorced. Perhaps you wanted this change. Perhaps you didn’t sign up for this change. Perhaps you were blindsided by this change. Regardless, change […]

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