eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.

first date tips
August 18, 2015

Too Many Disappointing First Dates? How to Get Back Those Butterflies

How’s this for an unfair investment of time? You can spend weeks getting to know someone over email, text, and phone. You might let yourself get a little excited about meeting him or her in person for the first time. Maybe you’ve checked out his profile in the meantime and admired his Alaskan vacation photos […]

dating in your league
August 14, 2015

What Dating ‘In Your League’ Should Mean

Right off the bat, I must tell you that this expression – dating “in your league” – is one I detest. People use this expression to make immature comparisons between people, and the suggestion is always that some people make better catches than others because they’re more attractive. If you regularly read my eHarmony blog, […]

get rid of baggage
August 12, 2015

The Joy of Purging

“If you want to improve your life immediately, go clean out a closet.  Often it’s what we hold onto that holds us back.” Purging! I’m not referring to an eating disorder. I’m referring to the amazing experience of getting rid of “clutter” in our lives. My family and I recently moved. It wasn’t a huge […]

bad reasons to become exclusive
August 12, 2015

4 Bad Reasons to Become Exclusive

How’s this for romantic? She says: “I really like you and would like to see where this relationship could go. Do you want to be exclusive?” He says: “Why not? I don’t really have time to date anyone else.” Now there’s a way to make a person feel special! There’s so much advice floating around […]

August 12, 2015

Why Attention Seekers Make Bad Partners

Sure, we all love a little attention, but some people take that need to a whole other level. There are three main types of attention seekers and each type ends up frustrating their romantic partners and causing regular arguments or a bona fide breakup. Check out the three types below so you are prepared when you encounter […]

spinster no more
August 11, 2015

The ‘Spinster’ Updates Her Image

Until recently, the image we associated with the word “spinster” was fairly universal: a bottled-up woman in a high-neck shirt, hair pulled into a tight bun. So it was a good sign of progress when the term was discarded and replaced with “single woman.” With an interesting career, great apartment, and lots of cocktail-party invitations, […]

golden rule of dating new
August 10, 2015

The Golden Rule of Dating

We all love the Golden Rule, right? It’s the kind of basic human rule of interaction that is so fundamental to our experience that it has popped up independently in civilizations all over the world. It is part sociology, psychology, religion, and philosophy. Wikipedia tells us… Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be […]

July 31, 2015

Stop Expecting to Be Rejected

When you’re dating and putting your heart on the line, you can expect a certain amount of rejection at every level of the process. In most cases, it’s obvious: He doesn’t return an email, or she dodges an end-of-the-evening kiss. But there are cases when it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. We expect to be rejected, and […]

number one painted in red on white wooden board
July 29, 2015

Why You Should Be a Selfish Dater

From the time we’re little children we are told to share. We’re told to be thoughtful, and to put others ahead of ourselves. “Don’t be selfish!” is a refrain heard in homes up and down every street in America. When it comes to little children and toys the lesson is necessary. When it comes to […]

getting married nowadays
July 15, 2015

Was Finding Love Easier For Your Grandparents?

In his new book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, the software shows she read it. Then he sees the little dots that indicate she’s typing a reply. Then the dots vanish. Several hours pass and no word. A day […]