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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


intense person
July 20, 2017

3 Signs Your Date is too Intense (to Start a Good Relationship Now, at Least)

There is a definite spectrum of normal behavior when it comes to dating. If you get lucky, you will find yourself on a date with someone who is polite, reliable, and overall good company. It’s the other end of the spectrum that you have to worry about. One of the patterns of behaviors that is […]

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dating check off list
July 13, 2017

‘When Looking For a Partner, Should I Make a List?’

Dear Sara: I have a checkbox of things I would really like in a partner. College-educated, maybe a white-collar job. Am I being too picky? — T Dear T: I don’t think there is anything wrong with a making list, though I do have a few basic guidelines. 1. Keep it short. When you buy […]

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short men and dating
July 7, 2017

Guys: If You’re Short, Say it in Your Dating Profile

In an ideal world, people would naturally get along and no one would care too much about appearance or fitting in. One of the realities about dating that will never change is that physical appearance matters. While we all agree that appearance matters more than it should – and that people should look for romantic […]

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independence day dating tips
June 30, 2017

Celebrating Your Independence Day

“She needed a hero so she decided to become one.” The importance of our Independence Day is that it marks the birth of the United States of America. Remember your US history? The people living in the colonies were tired of living under British domination. They didn’t want to follow the orders from the King […]

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dating with insecurities
June 30, 2017

When Dating Brings Out Major Insecurities (and How to Get Over Them)

Insecurity is an interesting personality trait when it comes to dating. Perhaps you’d imagine that a therapist like myself would say that insecurity is a trait that repels men and women alike – that it will prevent anyone from being attracted to you or wanting to start a relationship with you. The (paradoxical) truth is […]

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chemistry in a relationship
June 29, 2017

Just Not Feeling it: The Importance of Chemistry

Several years ago, I was in a situation that felt meant to be. After abruptly abandoning the online dating account I’d opened in the wake of a breakup, I was invited to dinner with a couple I knew. Little did I know, it was a set-up. Dinner ended up being at the home of a […]

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how to fall in love with anyone
June 27, 2017

How to Fall in Love With Anyone: An interview with Mandy Len Catron

In 2015, Mandy Len Catron wrote a piece for the New York Times Modern Love column called “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” At the time, I was just embarking on a new relationship, hoping to fall in love. One brilliant summer day, I read the essay aloud to my new boyfriend before […]

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mothers and daughters
June 20, 2017

Your Mother’s Impact on Your Relationships

Today’s guest blog is from Dr. Foojan Zeine, who I was lucky enough to meet recently when she visited us in the eHarmony offices. Her new book Life Reset is truly transformational. Below she shares her insight about the parental impact on one’s life. Enjoy. By Dr. Foojan Zeine It’s no secret that our relationship […]

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opposites in dating
June 16, 2017

11 Signs You Have Nothing in Common with Your Date

What first comes to mind as I write about this issue is the old trope about yin and yang, or the expression that opposes attract. While there is some truth to these concepts – because none of us wants to be with someone exactly like us in every way – two people will need to […]

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save the date interview
June 14, 2017

Save the Date: An Interview with Jen Doll

I read Save the Date, mostly on my front porch, in a hammock. It was summer, and my roommate was getting married, as well as many other people I knew, in a short period of time. It seemed fitting to read a book of essays about going to weddings, and having a whole spectrum of […]

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