eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


starting to online date
April 6, 2016

Can’t Get Started? How to Ease Into Online Dating

A woman I’ll call Amanda had an inbox full of matches who were interested in getting to know her. Every few weeks, an email would bait her with this message: “eHarmony Icebreaker received: Jeff can’t stop smiling.” But Amanda was perfectly content to let him keep on smiling. She wouldn’t even log on to her […]

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dating advice
April 4, 2016

When You Should Keep Dating Someone You’re Not Attracted To

For most people, it is normal and healthy to only date people to whom they’re truly sexually attracted. However, there is another large group of men and women who actually should date people they’re not immediately attracted to, and I will tell you why! If you came from a chaotic home as a child or […]

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thoughtful or asking us to shut up and make some silence this blonde woman has big beautiful eyes and an intense look
March 31, 2016

The Important Role of Doubt

“Doubt is the pinprick in the life raft.” Library of Souls, Ransom Riggs When doubt enters into a relationship, it’s like the pinprick in the life raft, and if left unattended, it slowly sucks the air out completely leaving nothing but a saggy, soggy remnant of what once was. Doubt! I’ve spoken with many people […]

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how to love yourself
March 30, 2016

‘All the Single Ladies’: Happy Women Don’t Settle

During Rebecca Traister’s many single years, she was often irritated when the men she dated disrupted her routine. She didn’t like it when they urged her to leave work earlier than she wanted, or when their presence in her apartment obstructed her weekly cleaning ritual. She was impatient with men who called too frequently, or […]

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changes in life
March 25, 2016

Change: An Opportunity for Renewal!

  “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” ~ Socrates   Your life has changed. You are now divorced. Perhaps you wanted this change. Perhaps you didn’t sign up for this change. Perhaps you were blindsided by this change. Regardless, change […]

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online dating and being nice
March 25, 2016

Online Dating: 6 Ways We Can All Be Nicer to Each Other

Most people don’t intend to be jerks when they start online dating. But in a whirlwind of elusive communication, evasive e-mails and dropped texts, we unknowingly might be leaving behind a trail of bruised or miffed feelings – or just unnecessary unpleasantness that doesn’t help a process that’s already hard on the heart. The slights […]

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great new years resolutions
March 15, 2016

Are Eco-Friendly Daters More or Less Attractive?

Caring for the environment is an important topic these days. But how can it affect your dating life? Read here to find out.

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dating a fitness nut
March 15, 2016

How to Date a Fitness and Health Nut (When You’re Not One)

As a therapist who has worked with hundreds of couples on relationship problems, I can tell you that the issue of fitness and health actually causes more friction than you’d probably guess. The trouble starts when one member of a couple starts taking working out and eating healthfully to another level – a somewhat intense level. […]

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dating when shy
March 11, 2016

The Difference Between Shy Men and Shy Women

Shyness is one of the biggest challenges people face in dating. Simply put, many men and women don’t have the kind of personality that makes them want to strike up a conversation with a random stranger, and there is nothing wrong with that. As a psychologist, I find that neither the bubbly nor shy personality […]

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when a relationship ends
March 9, 2016

Why Do the End of Mini Relationships Hurt So Much?

On a recent meeting with a friend, I learned about the last woman who’d broken his heart. “How long had you gone out?” I asked, expecting to hear a story about several years of shared holidays, family vacations, and marriage talk. His answer: Two months “Two months?” I exclaimed. “But how can you know someone […]

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