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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


issues in dating
May 18, 2017

3 Signs You Are in Denial About Your “Issues” (and How it Impacts Dating)

The genesis of this article came from my watching the recent Casey Anthony three-episode special on television (HLN), in which Ms. Anthony – someone I have not evaluated myself – sounds like a woman who was desperately in denial. Entitled, self-absorbed, and perhaps even psychopathic, she was someone who personified denial. After watching, I started […]

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wedding toasts i will  never give
May 16, 2017

Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give: An Interview with Ada Calhoun

In 2015, I joined many others in reading Ada Calhoun’s Modern Love piece: “The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give.” It was about the challenges and difficulties in marriage, but it was also about why marriage was worthwhile. I loved every word. Sometimes, well-meaning people hear that I’m single and that I’d like to be married […]

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fast food
May 15, 2017

When Your Date Eats Horribly (and Why You Should Care)

It’s fair to say that a person doesn’t need to be an all-out fitness nut or organic eater to have a good romantic relationship. At the same time, it means something — something negative — if a man or woman has consistently horrible eating habits. When you start dating someone, there is value in thinking […]

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mothers day is hard for some
May 11, 2017

When Mother’s Day is Painful

There’s a dating adage out there that you should judge a man by how he treats his mother. And Mother’s Day is the biggest test of them all. Did your date take his mother to brunch? Send her flowers? At least call or text? Actually, a better measure of a man’s character is how he […]

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mothers day gift guide
May 9, 2017

6 Sweet Mother’s Day Gift Ideas

Our own blogger extraordinaire Lindsay Tigar has put together a thoughtful piece about celebrating our moms… in the most creative of ways. I know I can always use some new ideas. So please enjoy, and don’t forget to wish all the moms you know much love. Written by Lindsay Tigar When you were in middle […]

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lust after someone
May 9, 2017

Feeling Too Much Lust for Someone: 4 Warning Signs

It goes without saying that sexual attraction is a part of what draws two people together in romantic relationships, but sometimes the lust that you feel for someone is too much. Put simply, sometimes the lust you feel for someone is unhealthy and will lead you to heartbreak if you’re not careful. Lusting after someone […]

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raise self esteem
May 3, 2017

How to Become More Self-Confident: 4 Principles

In order to date successfully and find a good relationship, you have to feel good (enough) about yourself. While everyone has insecurities or flaws they wish they could change, you have to feel okay about yourself from the start for it to be a positive, lasting relationship. Of course, many men and women don’t feel […]

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women dating online
May 2, 2017

A Letter to All the Women Dating Online

Hi there, I don’t know your story, or what has led you to choose dating online. Maybe you’re freshly single after a long relationship. Maybe you haven’t dated much at all. Maybe, like I once was, you’re just tired of people asking you if you’ve ever tried dating online and you want to be able […]

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letter to guys online dating
April 27, 2017

A Letter to All the Men Dating Online

Hi there, I’m Cara. At many points over the last few years, I’ve been one of those thumbnail pictures you might click on if I catch your eye. Just like you, I’m looking for love, for connection. I’m trying to put myself out there in all the ways I know how. I’m not sure why […]

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last single friend
April 26, 2017

‘I’m the Last Single One Standing!’

Dear Sara: It happened: The last “single” girl in my friend group got engaged tonight. She and her fiancé had been together for more than two years and live together, so I was expecting it. The other couples in the group all got engaged within the past year (including one ex, for whom I long […]

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