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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


talking about the ex on dates
March 16, 2015

The Ex Test: How You Talk about Your Ex Says a Lot about You

You probably agree that it’s a bad idea to bash your ex on a first date. It makes sense that you’re not going to impress your prospective new sweetie with lurid tales of your former boyfriend’s affairs, your ex-wife’s rages or your custody battles during your first hour of face time. But you’re eventually going […]

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broken hearts how to deal with advice
March 16, 2015

Unrequited: When the One You Love Doesn’t Love You Back

When Lisa Phillips was thirty years old, she fell passionately in love with an unavailable man. Her crush began as a hopeful mental diversion, but quickly escalated into a kind of madness. At one point, she found herself standing outside the man’s door, knocking so loudly and insistently that when he finally opened it he […]

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are you dateable
March 13, 2015

Are You Dateable?

“Are you the person the person you are looking for is looking for?”  – Andy Stanley If you are dating right now (or want to be dating someone), keep reading. If you want some big dating ideas to ponder, keep reading. If you love to laugh, keep reading, then click on the link at the […]

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online dating tips for women
March 9, 2015

Ladies: Get Your Match to Ask You Out!

One of the biggest complaints I hear from women is that they’re frustrated with engaging in long email exchanges with matches who never seem to get around to asking them out. These women have dutifully answered at least a half dozen thoughtful questions inquiring about their past relationships, favorite hobbies, and professional motivations. Yet instead […]

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dating insecurities for men and women
March 6, 2015

3 Common Dating Insecurities: Men Vs. Women

There’s no doubt that both men and women share some of the same insecurities, but dating brings out some important differences. From the hundreds of clients I’ve counseled over the years, I’ve uncovered themes in the insecurities among the genders. Though times have certainly changed to the point where men and women are more equal than […]

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breakupbenefits2
March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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love at weddings
March 2, 2015

I Fell in Love at the Wedding

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”  ~Mignon McLaughlin A dear friend got engaged several months ago. We were all so excited for her. She came over one night and we talked about her plans for the wedding. You know, all the normal stuff – where they were […]

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why men and women leave relationships
March 2, 2015

6 Reasons Men and Women Leave their Partners

Who knows more about how and why a marriage falls apart than a divorce mediator? Those in this field have witnessed the breakdown of many unions, and now two of them are actually writing about it in a new book called Conscious Coupling – Positive Insights for Long-Lasting Relationships Shared by Two Divorce Mediators. Don Desroches and […]

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robbie
February 27, 2015

7 Questions with Miss Robbie Montgomery

At 74, the very single and sassy Miss Robbie Montgomery is living a life beyond what she ever imagined. We had a quick chat with the owner of the famed Sweetie Pie’s soul food restaurants — and star of OWN’s “Welcome to Sweetie Pie’s” — about the important stuff in life. A new season of ‘Welcome to […]

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unconditional love
February 26, 2015

Should Unconditional Love Apply to Your Romantic Relationship?

The idea of completely accepting someone as they are is so nice, but in reality, not so easy. There have to be personal boundaries and one has to be able to express themselves and share when a behavior that their partner is exhibiting is bothersome, or upsetting in any way. One of my favorite dating experts, […]

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