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eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


falling in love feels scary
January 19, 2016

Talking Back to Your Inner Critic

In January, the gyms are crowded and dating sites like this one see their highest levels of traffic. That’s a good thing—the New Year is a terrific time to challenge yourself to improve your life. But as most of us are painfully aware, most New Year’s resolutions don’t stick, as the lure of streaming videos […]

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January 12, 2016

Teresa Palmer talks Soul Connections and Life’s Defining Choices

I am not sure anyone can author romantic tales quite as dreamily as Nicholas Sparks, whose latest book-turned-big screen romance ‘The Choice‘ arrives in theaters February 5. This particular story takes love, fate, and life’s toughest decisions to a new level, as a young couple (played by Teresa Palmer and Benjamin Walker) meet, fall in love (despite their biggest efforts not to!) and endure […]

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single shame
January 6, 2016

5 Ways People ‘Single-Shame’ Singles!

There is no way around the following truth: The world expects all adults to be in a relationship. Actually, I must clarify that: The world expects all “normal” people to couple up, while simultaneously sending the message that something is wrong with you if you are single. Self-disclosure alert: This type of thinking disgusts me, and I know […]

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January 5, 2016

5 Dating Resolutions I am Going to Keep in 2016

“Tomorrow is the first blank page in a 365-page book. Write a good one.” Happy New Year! You rang in the new year and resolved that this will be the year that your dating life changes … for the better! Now what!? Here are 5 resolutions you may want to consider as you look ahead […]

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once a cheater always a cheater
January 4, 2016

5 Reasons People Lie (and What to Do About It)

You’ve probably heard the term “little white lie” a thousand times, a term used to describe the kind of harmless fib that men and women tell every day. It’s true that not all lies are devious or harmful, but the point is that you have to be clear about the purpose of the lie, regardless of […]

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December 29, 2015

4 Beliefs Singles Can Leave in 2015

This will be the year: that you start getting up at five a.m. to go running, that you go on two dates a week, that you develop a system that keeps your closet clutter-free. There’s a funny optimism that occurs at the end of every year. Somehow, despite all evidence to the contrary, many of […]

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holidays being single
December 21, 2015

A Field Guide to Awkward Holiday Situations

“Why are you still single?” “When are you going to settle down?” “What’s the deal with you, anyway?” During the holidays, singles often brace themselves for a lot of annoying questions and comments from relatives, family friends, high school acquaintances. And during this time, writers like me offer snappy retorts to such irritating queries—and sometimes […]

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December 21, 2015

Hate New Year’s Eve? Find a Better Reason for the Season

It’s not you. It’s the holiday. Many people aren’t a fan of the evening’s overpriced dinners and silver glittery parties. Yet being single on the most scripted of nights brings a special kind of agony. At midnight, when sweethearts start smooching, it can feel as if the DJ just announced, “Hands up if you do […]

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nosy relatives
December 15, 2015

Annoyed by Nosy Relatives? Here’s How to Take Back Your Holiday

What’s worse than random strangers at a holiday party grilling you about your love life? It’s your family inquiring: “Are you dating anyone?” Never mind that these are presumably some of the most important people in your life who genuinely care about you. Even the most secure singles can feel as if they’re attending an […]

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December 14, 2015

Tis the Season…To Break Up

If you’ve recently experienced a breakup, you’re in good company. The two weeks before Christmas see one of the year’s biggest breakup spikes, as family gatherings, office parties, and gift-giving pressures unhinge many couples. A few things to consider: 1) You Don’t Have to Be Merry–Yet If you want to be relatively cheerful at Aunt […]

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