eHarmony Blog

eHarmony experts' take on dating, relationships and the science of love.


intimidating woman
June 22, 2015

‘How Can I Stop Intimidating Men?’

Recently a reader wrote to me after a man she’d been dating for ten weeks broke up with her. She said that the breakup was mature and honest, but was dismayed that the man gave her the same reason she’d heard many times before. “They say ‘I deserve better’ and they just weren’t feeling it,” […]

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ep_15
June 18, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee: ‘No Dice, Grandpa’

Franny Agnes Lee has many chapters in her dating diary. Her latest outing turns out to be a shocker of the senior kind. I am sure some of you can relate! See More Franny Dates!

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braggers and dating
June 18, 2015

You Humblebrags Aren’t Fooling Anyone

“I can’t believe I tripped on the red carpet!” “Some dude asked if I was a model. I was like, don’t you think I would have brushed my hair if I was?” “Disadvantage of driving a Porsche: People assume I’m picking up the check.” We all know a humblebrag when we see one. It has the intent […]

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dating in summer
June 18, 2015

Book Up Your Summer to Boost Your Chances of Finding Love

Think being single is difficult around the holidays? The summer can feel a bit worse. While it’s acceptable to lay low during the winter months, it’s harder to justify just hanging out when the rest of the world seems to be enjoying every last UV ray of sunshine. This is especially the case if you lived […]

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feeling left out
June 17, 2015

Feeling Left Out? You’re Probably More Likable

“Am I the only single person left?” That’s a question that often strikes unattached people, especially during wedding season. While the bridal showers and bachelor weekends are often fun, watching close pals disappear into relationships can leave many singles feeling left out. But a study recently published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology finds a […]

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personality of spouse affects career success
June 11, 2015

How Your Partner’s Personality Affects Your Workplace Success

Imagining the perfect relationship partner, it’s easy to list off desired traits, whether you are looking for a film buff who will discuss the latest Cannes nominees or a fitness enthusiast who will run a half-marathon with you. You may think about all of the interesting and exciting experiences that you can share together. What […]

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laughter and dating
June 10, 2015

Want First Date Success? Share a Few Laughs

A sense of humor has been shown to be the most important thing to daters time and time again. But what happens when you share a laugh? How can it affect your budding relationship? Read here to find out.

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way through the maze
June 9, 2015

Matters of the Heart: Being Flexible Versus Settling

In 2009, Internet entrepreneur Kevin Systrom created a mobile app called Burbn, (get it?) which let users check in at a location, make plans for future check-ins, earn points by checking in friends, and post photos of the get together. It was complicated, but it was what Kevin wanted to build, and so he did […]

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breakup tips
June 8, 2015

After a Breakup: 6 Tips to Get Your Happy Back

Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in the first few weeks after it happens. Because I counsel men and women on relationship issues, I have watched hundreds of clients over the years go through […]

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A young woman is sitting on a swing on a hill burned by a wild fire
June 4, 2015

Navigating the Joys and Sorrows of Single Life

Recently, Singular City editor Kim Calvert commented on the negative tone that many people take when writing about the single life, noting my work in particular. Calvert cited a recent newsletter of mine, in which I expressed my belief that our positive-thinking culture often makes people feel worse because it pressures them to deny their […]

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