I’m so thankful for the voluminous feedback I received to my post on first date kissing and whether you have a policy against it. It can be difficult to roll down and read a large number of comments, so I’ve done my best to count and categorize the votes on the issue. This is imperfect, but will give you some idea of how your fellow eHarmony readers think.
NO KISS, NO WAY
A kiss equals love and I don’t give my heart away on the first date – 5 votes
I want to build excitement towards that eventual kiss – 2 votes
I’ve never kissed anyone ever, under any circumstance – 1 vote
I don’t even kiss on the 3rd or 4th date – 1 vote
You’re total strangers. Who wants to kiss a stranger? – 2 votes
You might catch a disease!? – 2 votes
What if they are kissing other people? That’s disgusting – 3 votes
If you’re not careful that kiss leads to…well…you know – 3 votes
Your date might take your kiss as a sign to attack you – 1 vote
No reason given – 5 votes
IF CONDITIONS ARE FAVORABLE, WHAT’S THE HARM?
It’s a good compatibility test – 1 vote
If the night is going great, a kiss seems appropriate and harmless – 10 votes
Making a policy about such things seems silly and rigid – 2 votes
I assume if things are going well and he/she won’t kiss me, that they aren’t attracted to me – 3 votes
So, the straw poll has it 25 No Kiss, 16 Kiss. Interesting.