I am not sure why some people think they have the right to ask anyone when they plan to get married, have kids or why they are still single. It’s definitely invasive and annoying. Today’s guest blog post from YourTango expert and author Stan Popovich offers five options when confronted with this series of questions! Thank you Stan!
Are you starting to feel judged by friends and family about your single status? Is your mom prying into your love life? Are all of your girlfriends tying to hook you up with single guys they know? Don’t give in to the pressure! I have many friends who pressure me to get into a relationship and get married right away, but I know that would be a big mistake.
If you’re in a similiar situation, here are six tips on how to deal with friends who are pressuring you to get married and start a family:
1. Most importantly, know what you want. Think about it and determine for yourself what is best for you. I decided that I don’t want to be married for the sake of being married. I want to be with someone I love, rather than just settling with anyone.
2. Next, tell your friends. Once you know where you stand, communicate your intentions to your friends so they’ll get off your back. Give them reasons on why you feel this way. Be willing to answer their questions so they understand where you are coming from. I try to do this when my friends give me a hard time.
3. Don’t sway under peer pressure. Some people will continue to argue with you, and this is where you need to show that you mean business. I learned not to give into their arguments. Do what is best for you and stand with your decision.
4. Distance yourself from people who do not respect your decisions. If your friends really like you, they need to respect you. Nobody wants to be with people who are trying to get them to do something they don’t want to do.
5. Remember that it is not a race. Marriage is not something to be rushed into. Marrying the wrong person can have a toll on your mental health, your happiness, and your pocketbook. You’re better off taking your time and going at a pace you are comfortable with. If some of your friends can’t support you, then you need to find people who will.
You have to realize that your friends can’t make the choice. This is about the rest of your life and it’s important not to let someone else tell you how to live your life. Your friends and family may have good intentions, but you have to do what is best for you in the long term.
Do you deal with this issue in your life and how do you handle it?
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