The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

April 20, 2015

Rule #2: Bring Back the Little Things

“It has long been an axiom of mine that the little things are infinitely the most important.” — Arthur Conan Doyle I recently read an article with a great headline that said something to the effect of, “Follow these 7 marriage rules from divorce attorneys … and never end up in their offices!”  What married person […]

relationship tips
April 13, 2015

Rule #1: Realize You Can Lose Your Partner

“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. ” ~ Simone Signoret I recently read an article with a great headline that said something to the effect of, “Follow these 7 marriage rules from divorce attorneys … and never end up in their […]

scott eastwood q&a
April 9, 2015

Scott Eastwood on Love, Life, and The Longest Ride

Scott Eastwood plays a cowboy with traditional values, a ton of charm, and a bit of a stubborn streak in ‘The Longest Ride,’ in theaters April 10. He is amazing in the movie (based on the book by Nicholas Sparks), which really looks at the many ups and downs of relationships. We chatted with the 29-year-old about a […]

meditation for breakups
April 6, 2015

‘How Do I Get Her Out of My Head?’

Dear Sara: I spent fourteen years with a woman, and afterwards she said it was only out of convenience and that she had found somebody else. I wasn’t very affectionate—you know, two jobs, but I loved her very much, and I can’t get her out of my head. How do I go forward?—A Dear A: […]

emotional baggage
April 3, 2015

3 Types of Emotional Baggage that Threaten Relationships

Let’s face it: We’ve all had the oh-so-delightful experience of dating someone who had too much emotional baggage. Unfortunately, it’s often not until you’re knee-deep in a relationship that you realize just how much baggage he or she has. Wouldn’t it be nice if you could train yourself to spot emotional baggage sooner so that […]

March 30, 2015

How to Get More Comfortable with Your Body

Simply put, it’s a good thing to be comfortable with your body. It makes physical intimacy in your relationship much less anxiety-provoking and so much more enjoyable. After all, when you’re getting physical with your significant other, you want to focus on feeling good, not feeling trapped in your head with negative thoughts. But if you […]

when to introduce kids
March 23, 2015

Introducing the Kids…

“The uncertainty of parenting can bring up feelings in us that range from frustration to terror.” — Brene Brown I had a great conversation with a friend last week. I’m not sure we ever landed on an answer, but it was a worthwhile discussion that I want to share here. I would love to get your […]

longest ride
March 20, 2015

What You Should Sacrifice for Love — and Where You Should Never Compromise

Brought to you by ‘The Longest Ride’, in theaters April 10. When we’re younger and more naive, we want so much to believe that love conquers all odds and obstacles. We tend to believe this until we get our hearts seriously broken for the first time. But when it comes to making a long-term relationship […]

March 18, 2015

When His Ex is Prettier Than You

Let me say from the start that I feel your pain. Dating someone seriously and simultaneously knowing that his ex was prettier than you can make you feel, well, pretty low. Even if you happen to be the most well-rounded, well-adjusted catch in the world, the reality is that you’re still human and that we still […]

birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]