The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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letting go of past
January 30, 2015

Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present

Hanging on to old hurts, failed relationships, or other negative experiences just keeps you stuck in that emotional space. I have seen a few people in my life do just that, and it is very sad. Some of them could never move forward, forgive, and heal. I often wonder what their lives could have been like […]

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loving yourself how to
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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ready for relationship - how to know
January 8, 2015

Are You Really Ready for a Relationship? These 6 Signs Point to ‘No’

You might really want a relationship. But are you emotionally ready for one? Taking a look at ourselves is challenging, but rewarding and smart in the end. And not just for you — but for anyone taking the time to invest in you. I really liked today’s guest blog from relationship expert Aaron Kaplan. Written by Aaron […]

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onlinedatingboom
December 26, 2014

Looking for Love During the Holidays? You’re Not Alone.

Recently, I asked readers to tell me how they experienced the holidays, and I received a wide range of answers. Many wrote about the fun they had spending time with friends and family, or just lounging around in their pajamas watching movies and doing jigsaw puzzles. But many singles also said they feel very lonely […]

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family dynamics in relationships
December 17, 2014

7 Family Dynamics that May Keep You Single

If we don’t understand where our emotional baggage comes from, and what it is, it’s almost impossible to break or change old patterns. Relationship expert Natalie Berthold joins us today with a guest blog about this exact area. Awareness is key, everyone. At least it can open the door to a different ending. Written by […]

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single people
December 15, 2014

Why Singles Aren’t Harming Marriage. They’re Actually Helping It!

“In our day, marriage and the family are in crisis. We now live in a culture of the temporary, in which more and more people are simply giving up on marriage as a public commitment. This revolution in manners and morals has often flown the flag of freedom, but in fact it has brought spiritual […]

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being alone during the holidays
December 9, 2014

Thoughts on Spending the Holidays Alone

“I am 30 years old, and I’ve spent every holiday as
 a single person. Being single is difficult anytime, but it feels worse 
during the holidays. All of my friends are married with children, so it’s 
difficult to socialize with them in general, because people usually spend
 more time with their partners and children. It […]

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signs you are dating a crazy person
December 8, 2014

5 Signs You Are Headed for Dating Disaster

We post a lot of these types of blogs – red flags and potential warning signs in a partner – because when you are attracted to someone it is so easy to focus on the amazing feelings only. ‘He has no relationship with his mother? Well, that’s ok because he is so adorable.’ ‘She doesn’t […]

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thanksgiving anxiety
November 21, 2014

Nine Tips for a Stress-Free Thanksgiving

Start a new tradition by actually having a peaceful Thanksgiving (the way it should be!). Today’s guest blog is from relationship expert Debra Smouse, who recognizes the holiday isn’t always as easy as it should be and offers tips to manage any difficult situations. We’re grateful for the advice, Debra! When it comes to Thanksgiving, we […]

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