The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

relationship advice
April 12, 2017

What My 18-year-old Daughter Taught Me About Relationships

My daughter graduated from high school this past May, and is currently on The World Race (a gap year program, #3n9 as they travel to 3 different continents over the course of 9 months). This is not simply traveling around the world with a backpack; rather, they are assigned a host ministry with which to […]

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April 11, 2017

‘Do Men Really Want Love, or Just Sex?’

Dear Sara: I am a 40-year-old woman who is healthy, happy, and open to life. I am single currently and have not had a real relationship for almost 15 years. The two big relationships I had when I was younger died, and when I look back I think one of the major factors was my […]

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stigma woman
March 29, 2017

‘I Think I Have a Stigma’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced three times, and my last “husband” passed away in 2014. (We exchanged our vows, had joint bank account, vehicles together, were each other’s emergency contacts, etc. However, we never filed any paperwork with the government, as he didn’t feel that I should be responsible for any of his past […]

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how to move on
March 27, 2017

‘My Ex Has Cut Me Off — And I Can’t Move On’

Dear Sara: In 2015, my husband of 25 years and I ended our marriage. We got married after only knowing each other for a few days, … and it was rocky due to the fact that he drank alcohol daily for self-medication. He was abusive on several occasions, but I felt that until I had […]

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life on hold
March 23, 2017

On Hold! Now What?

Our pastor recently delivered a sermon series talking about what we do when life puts us “on hold.” He used an old-fashioned phone as a prop. Well, it was actually a push-button, corded phone, so really not that old-fashioned (after all, it could have been a rotary dial), but it served it’s purpose for reminding […]

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March 21, 2017

‘I’m Afraid To Get Hurt Again’

Dear Sara: I am scared of dating or trusting a guy again because the last relationship I had almost destroyed me. He broke my heart into pieces. I had never fallen in love like this before. I gave him everything. I almost forgot to leave anything for myself. Now I am scared that if I […]

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infidelity
February 24, 2017

Is Being Faithful Difficult for Most People?

If you turn on the radio at any given time, you’ll probably hear a song about someone falling in love with another, or someone feeling betrayed by the harsh sting of infidelity. When it comes to being faithful, let’s address the issue of whether staying monogamous is difficult. You’ll quickly see that the answer depends […]

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February 22, 2017

I’m Afraid to Get Back ‘Out There’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced for a little over 6 years now. My daughter wants me to start dating again, which I’m very fearful of doing. I have had a few relationships since my divorce, but the last relationship left me broken, and fearful of ever getting back out in the dating world again. […]

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February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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February 7, 2017

‘He Heard From His Ex. Now We’re Both Confused.’

Dear Sara: I started dating someone in the beginning of November. Everything was going great, [until] he called to tell me he heard from an ex. [He said it] messed with his head, that possibly down the line we could open back up communication again. I have been continually hurt by men, and started dating […]

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