The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

how to deal with divorce
February 19, 2015

How My Divorce Helped Me Grow

“The best lessons are the ones we learned the hard way!” Yup! My divorce sucked (that’s the best word for it). It was a really, really bad time in my life. If you have ever been through a divorce, or a really bad breakup, you can likely relate. It’s not an experience I would wish […]

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signs its time to break up
February 19, 2015

Grant Langston: How I Would Prevent a Guy From Cheating…

I have been lucky enough to work with Grant Langston, our VP of Brand Marketing, for the past six years. He always comes to the table with some very real wisdom, and I am happy to see other people acknowledging him as well, like our friends over at DatingAdvice.com! I had to share the great […]

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how to get over a broken heart
February 18, 2015

Mending a Broken Heart: New Research on an Old Problem

After a breakup, the newly single often hear two, somewhat contradictory, pieces of advice. First, there are the friends and family members who encourage the heartbroken to “move on.” Forget ‘em. You deserve better! But there are also more philosophical types who will encourage the lovelorn to process the relationship a bit, to grieve and […]

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11 11 2014-SSS-Rob Bell
February 13, 2015

Rob and Kristen Bell on the Best Way to Find Love

This Sunday, Oprah Winfrey sits down with Pastor Rob Bell and his wife Kristen for a conversation about transforming your relationships. But before that, we were fortunate enough to chat with the amazing couple as they answered your questions from our eHarmony social media channels. I think you will really like their answers, because I found them […]

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friendships and what makes good ones
February 12, 2015

The Top 5 Attributes of Real Friends

“What we’re all striving for is authenticity, a spirit-to-spirit connection.” — Oprah Winfrey I recently had business meetings in NYC on a Monday. I took advantage of flying up there the weekend prior and scheduled catch-up time with several friends. Two of the friends lived in or near NYC so it was easy for us to […]

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valentines day gift ideas for guys
February 11, 2015

Valentine’s Gifts that Don’t Cost a Penny

If you are single this Valentine’s Day, you can either choose to feel sad you aren’t with anyone, or you can just look at the day like any other. It’s. just. a. day. Hang out with friends or family if it is bothering you and you struggle with being alone. And before you know it … it […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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letting go of past
January 30, 2015

Accept the Past to Enjoy the Present

Hanging on to old hurts, failed relationships, or other negative experiences just keeps you stuck in that emotional space. I have seen a few people in my life do just that, and it is very sad. Some of them could never move forward, forgive, and heal. I often wonder what their lives could have been like […]

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loving yourself how to
January 28, 2015

Self-love 101: What It Really Means to ‘love Yourself’

If you’re looking for romantic love, you’ve probably heard the advice that the key to getting someone to love you is to love yourself first. Yet the phrase is thrown around so casually, it’s assumed we should all know what it means. However, the “how to” isn’t always obvious. At a basic level, it involves […]

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