The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

insecure guy
February 19, 2016

4 Signs of an Insecure Guy

Insecure men come in every size and age, and they all share the need for affirmation. What does this mean exactly? You’ll understand in a moment when I share the behaviors insecure men engage in more than their secure and confident male peers. First, however, it is important to note that most insecure men don’t […]

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February 17, 2016

Why Singles Get Such Bad Advice

Dear Sara: I am 37 years old, and I am single. I have had two long relationships but have been single for a while now. Sometimes I feel great about my life, and sometimes I feel very depressed about being single. Sometimes people are really supportive towards me and sometimes they are not. I discovered […]

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February 12, 2016

Franny Agnes Lee’s Secret Valentine

Our sassy single Franny Agnes Lee receives a valentine. But is it for her? Hey, cats need love too. Hope you celebrate all the love in your life this year — whether it’s romantic, friendships, family, or self-love.  See More Franny Dates!

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love easier than u think
February 9, 2016

Loving is Easier Than You Think

The search for love is often described like a treasure hunt—it’s something you find and, if you’re careful, have forever. I have certainly been guilty of writing and thinking about love this way. But research by University of North Carolina psychologist Barbara Fredrickson reveals that this very stagnant view of love is not accurate. Love […]

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loving others advice
February 8, 2016

Love is Not an Achievement

I recently recorded a Valentine’s Day video for an online news organization. The theme: “Valentine’s Day Sucks.” My friend Jen (author of a great book called Save the Date) and I rolled our eyes at those corny Mylar balloons and chalky Valentine’s hearts, making up goofy inscriptions like “Let’s Settle For Each Other” and “You’ll […]

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falling in love feels scary
January 19, 2016

Talking Back to Your Inner Critic

In January, the gyms are crowded and dating sites like this one see their highest levels of traffic. That’s a good thing—the New Year is a terrific time to challenge yourself to improve your life. But as most of us are painfully aware, most New Year’s resolutions don’t stick, as the lure of streaming videos […]

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January 12, 2016

Teresa Palmer talks Soul Connections and Life’s Defining Choices

I am not sure anyone can author romantic tales quite as dreamily as Nicholas Sparks, whose latest book-turned-big screen romance ‘The Choice‘ arrives in theaters February 5. This particular story takes love, fate, and life’s toughest decisions to a new level, as a young couple (played by Teresa Palmer and Benjamin Walker) meet, fall in love (despite their biggest efforts not to!) and endure […]

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new years resolutions singles
December 29, 2015

4 Beliefs Singles Can Leave in 2015

This will be the year: that you start getting up at five a.m. to go running, that you go on two dates a week, that you develop a system that keeps your closet clutter-free. There’s a funny optimism that occurs at the end of every year. Somehow, despite all evidence to the contrary, many of […]

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December 14, 2015

Tis the Season…To Break Up

If you’ve recently experienced a breakup, you’re in good company. The two weeks before Christmas see one of the year’s biggest breakup spikes, as family gatherings, office parties, and gift-giving pressures unhinge many couples. A few things to consider: 1) You Don’t Have to Be Merry–Yet If you want to be relatively cheerful at Aunt […]

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learn to trust
December 8, 2015

Learning to Trust Again: 4 Things You Need to Know

We all know how important trust is in developing great relationships. We also know that once trust is violated, it is extremely hard to get it back. No one recognizes the value of trust more than legendary life coach and New York Times best-selling author Iyanla Vanzant, who explores this subject in her new book […]

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