The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

Two Female Friends Enjoying Cupcakes At Outdoor Summer Event
September 23, 2015

How to Make New Friends

Most everyone understands that it can be hard to meet people to date, which is of course why there are so many apps, sites, and services to assist singles searching for romantic partners. But when you find yourself in search of platonic friends, it can feel a bit embarrassing. Isn’t this supposed to be effortless? […]

warning signs not to get married
September 22, 2015

‘I want a relationship but…I HAVE to Maintain Friendships With My Exes.’

I’m starting a series here on the eHarmony blog called, “I want to have a relationship, but…”. We’ll be looking at the ways people hurt their chances for finding a new love by insisting on behavior which is either unhealthy or counterproductive to a serious relationship. I know a woman, Madison, who has indicated in her […]

relationship tips
September 21, 2015

Microwave or Crock Pot?

“Don’t you hate it when you are hoping for microwave timing and God seems to have your situation in the crock pot?” This one hits close to home! And goodness, I can certainly relate. It drives me crazy when I’m ready for something to be “over and done” and it’s still simmering away, taking it’s […]

cheating issues
September 16, 2015

‘Don’t Worry … I Was Only Looking.’

“Cheating doesn’t mean you have to kiss, or meet up with someone else … Once you find yourself deleting messages or hiding your internet activity so your partner will not see it, then you are already there.” I was in bed the other night, surfing the web, and, as is not unusual for me, I […]

dating advice tv
August 20, 2015

When The Single Life Doesn’t Resemble a Sitcom

Dear Sara: I read an article you wrote [about being single for a very long time] last year while house sitting a married friend’s cats–as only a single girl can do! Then I ordered your book. I have read EVERY SINGLE book on the market on “What was wrong with me?” Well no more! Your […]

dating questions
August 19, 2015

‘Why Are My Married Friends So Smug?’

Dear Sara: What goes on psychologically that causes people to brag about their relationships and then chastise single friends for wanting the same thing? I’ve read studies before saying that happiness actually causes selfishness, and that if you’re down, it’s best not to talk to a friend who’s very happy with their life because they’re […]

get rid of baggage
August 12, 2015

The Joy of Purging

“If you want to improve your life immediately, go clean out a closet.  Often it’s what we hold onto that holds us back.” Purging! I’m not referring to an eating disorder. I’m referring to the amazing experience of getting rid of “clutter” in our lives. My family and I recently moved. It wasn’t a huge […]

spinster no more
August 11, 2015

The ‘Spinster’ Updates Her Image

Until recently, the image we associated with the word “spinster” was fairly universal: a bottled-up woman in a high-neck shirt, hair pulled into a tight bun. So it was a good sign of progress when the term was discarded and replaced with “single woman.” With an interesting career, great apartment, and lots of cocktail-party invitations, […]

number one painted in red on white wooden board
July 29, 2015

Why You Should Be a Selfish Dater

From the time we’re little children we are told to share. We’re told to be thoughtful, and to put others ahead of ourselves. “Don’t be selfish!” is a refrain heard in homes up and down every street in America. When it comes to little children and toys the lesson is necessary. When it comes to […]

getting married nowadays
July 15, 2015

Was Finding Love Easier For Your Grandparents?

In his new book, Modern Romance, comedian Aziz Ansari describes texting a woman named Tanya and asking her for a date. A few minutes later, the software shows she read it. Then he sees the little dots that indicate she’s typing a reply. Then the dots vanish. Several hours pass and no word. A day […]