The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

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March 16, 2015

Unrequited: When the One You Love Doesn’t Love You Back

When Lisa Phillips was thirty years old, she fell passionately in love with an unavailable man. Her crush began as a hopeful mental diversion, but quickly escalated into a kind of madness. At one point, she found herself standing outside the man’s door, knocking so loudly and insistently that when he finally opened it he […]

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March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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March 2, 2015

I Fell in Love at the Wedding

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”  ~Mignon McLaughlin A dear friend got engaged several months ago. We were all so excited for her. She came over one night and we talked about her plans for the wedding. You know, all the normal stuff – where they were […]

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why men and women leave relationships
March 2, 2015

6 Reasons Men and Women Leave their Partners

Who knows more about how and why a marriage falls apart than a divorce mediator? Those in this field have witnessed the breakdown of many unions, and now two of them are actually writing about it in a new book called Conscious Coupling – Positive Insights for Long-Lasting Relationships Shared by Two Divorce Mediators. Don Desroches and […]

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mending a broken heart
February 24, 2015

Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that sting. This is, unfortunately, a common time of year for couples to part. The […]

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moving on
February 20, 2015

Rounding the Corner

“It will always be okay in the end; if it’s not okay yet, then it’s not the end.” I had coffee with a friend last week. She told me about her niece who is going through a nasty divorce. Her niece is angry. She’s hurt. She feels as if her life is over and that […]

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how to deal with divorce
February 19, 2015

How My Divorce Helped Me Grow

“The best lessons are the ones we learned the hard way!” Yup! My divorce sucked (that’s the best word for it). It was a really, really bad time in my life. If you have ever been through a divorce, or a really bad breakup, you can likely relate. It’s not an experience I would wish […]

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February 19, 2015

Grant Langston: How I Would Prevent a Guy From Cheating…

I have been lucky enough to work with Grant Langston, our VP of Brand Marketing, for the past six years. He always comes to the table with some very real wisdom, and I am happy to see other people acknowledging him as well, like our friends over at DatingAdvice.com! I had to share the great […]

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how to get over a broken heart
February 18, 2015

Mending a Broken Heart: New Research on an Old Problem

After a breakup, the newly single often hear two, somewhat contradictory, pieces of advice. First, there are the friends and family members who encourage the heartbroken to “move on.” Forget ‘em. You deserve better! But there are also more philosophical types who will encourage the lovelorn to process the relationship a bit, to grieve and […]

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February 13, 2015

Rob and Kristen Bell on the Best Way to Find Love

This Sunday, Oprah Winfrey sits down with Pastor Rob Bell and his wife Kristen for a conversation about transforming your relationships. But before that, we were fortunate enough to chat with the amazing couple as they answered your questions from our eHarmony social media channels. I think you will really like their answers, because I found them […]

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