The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

life on hold
March 23, 2017

On Hold! Now What?

Our pastor recently delivered a sermon series talking about what we do when life puts us “on hold.” He used an old-fashioned phone as a prop. Well, it was actually a push-button, corded phone, so really not that old-fashioned (after all, it could have been a rotary dial), but it served it’s purpose for reminding […]

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closeup of two separated pieces of a puzzle which together form a heart on a rustic wooden surface, depicting the idea of rupture or cooperation
March 21, 2017

‘I’m Afraid To Get Hurt Again’

Dear Sara: I am scared of dating or trusting a guy again because the last relationship I had almost destroyed me. He broke my heart into pieces. I had never fallen in love like this before. I gave him everything. I almost forgot to leave anything for myself. Now I am scared that if I […]

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infidelity
February 24, 2017

Is Being Faithful Difficult for Most People?

If you turn on the radio at any given time, you’ll probably hear a song about someone falling in love with another, or someone feeling betrayed by the harsh sting of infidelity. When it comes to being faithful, let’s address the issue of whether staying monogamous is difficult. You’ll quickly see that the answer depends […]

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A young woman is standing in the doorway of her kitchen and is looking at the garden at sunrise
February 22, 2017

I’m Afraid to Get Back ‘Out There’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced for a little over 6 years now. My daughter wants me to start dating again, which I’m very fearful of doing. I have had a few relationships since my divorce, but the last relationship left me broken, and fearful of ever getting back out in the dating world again. […]

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The word kindness against bright blue sky with cloud
February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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Young couple lying on bench head to head. African woman and young man looking up, lying on bench. Pensive couple lying on back and thinking about their future with copy space.
February 7, 2017

‘He Heard From His Ex. Now We’re Both Confused.’

Dear Sara: I started dating someone in the beginning of November. Everything was going great, [until] he called to tell me he heard from an ex. [He said it] messed with his head, that possibly down the line we could open back up communication again. I have been continually hurt by men, and started dating […]

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find a relationship
February 7, 2017

‘Why Can’t I Find a Relationship?’

Dear Sara: I never really have trouble attracting dates to be honest — I am a former model (although never did much professional work but suffice to say, I am conventionally attractive/fit) and also a lawyer to boot. I’ve been told men may find me intimidating by females and some men have admitted this although […]

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holiday
December 22, 2016

A Holiday Survival Guide for Singles

We have some very creative people who work at eHarmony! One of our social media specialists Shannon created this sweet survival guide for anyone having a tough time during the holidays. Whether you are single or in a relationship, I think this time of year can feel a bit lonely if you have lost loved […]

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how to get over someone
December 7, 2016

‘I Have No Relationship Experience’

Dear Sara: Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying—yeah, those were fun years) as I was […]

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single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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