The Heart Beat

Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

embarrassed  by breakup
September 20, 2017

‘I’m Embarrassed by My Lengthy Break Up’

Dear Sara: I was single for 10 years before I met my ex, and we were together for two years. Then we had a weird/sad breakup that lasted about a year. We broke up and got back together a bunch of times, so I didn’t tell anyone we broke up until recently. Also, we are […]

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dating tips not relationship material
September 15, 2017

4 Signs Your Date isn’t Actually Looking for a Relationship

Someone telling you that he or she is looking for a relationship isn’t the same thing as really and truly wanting one. Anyone can utter the right words, but words often aren’t matched by behavior. At the end of the day, it shouldn’t matter what your date says about wanting a relationship; what matters is […]

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ready for relationship
August 31, 2017

6 Signs You’re Ready For a Real Relationship

During a recent conversation with an acquaintance, the topic turned to how she had met her husband. “I can’t explain it,” she said. “I just woke up one morning and decided I wanted to be married.” So a friend set her up. She and her date hit it off. And suddenly after decades of near-misses […]

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laboroflovebook
August 22, 2017

Moira Weigel Talks Love and The Invention of Dating

If you’ve ever wondered about the origins of dating, Moira Weigel’s book Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating is for you. She goes into the history (hint: dating hasn’t been around that long) and shares insights along the way (for example: people have always been skeptical about the ways men and women meet and […]

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should i stay or go
August 17, 2017

‘Should I Stay or Should I Go?’

Dear Sara, I am a young family/divorce lawyer and despite seeing hundreds of cases of couples who don’t work out, I am still trying to find the recipe for what I should look for in finding the right guy or what will make a marriage last. I am 32 years old and recently started dating […]

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being single and issues
July 20, 2017

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

Lately I’ve been on a bravery kick. I’ve been taking myself on dates—going to dinner or lunch by myself, or taking myself to the movies alone. Sometimes, I’ll wander around an antique store, or enjoy a leisurely stroll through the Farmer’s Market. I’ll admit that I enjoy doing these things by myself. I love the […]

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independence day dating tips
June 30, 2017

Celebrating Your Independence Day

“She needed a hero so she decided to become one.” The importance of our Independence Day is that it marks the birth of the United States of America. Remember your US history? The people living in the colonies were tired of living under British domination. They didn’t want to follow the orders from the King […]

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chemistry in a relationship
June 29, 2017

Just Not Feeling it: The Importance of Chemistry

Several years ago, I was in a situation that felt meant to be. After abruptly abandoning the online dating account I’d opened in the wake of a breakup, I was invited to dinner with a couple I knew. Little did I know, it was a set-up. Dinner ended up being at the home of a […]

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how to fall in love with anyone
June 27, 2017

How to Fall in Love With Anyone: An interview with Mandy Len Catron

In 2015, Mandy Len Catron wrote a piece for the New York Times Modern Love column called “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.” At the time, I was just embarking on a new relationship, hoping to fall in love. One brilliant summer day, I read the essay aloud to my new boyfriend before […]

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mothers and daughters
June 20, 2017

Your Mother’s Impact on Your Relationships

Today’s guest blog is from Dr. Foojan Zeine, who I was lucky enough to meet recently when she visited us in the eHarmony offices. Her new book Life Reset is truly transformational. Below she shares her insight about the parental impact on one’s life. Enjoy. By Dr. Foojan Zeine It’s no secret that our relationship […]

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