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Opinion and Invective On The World of Dating and Relationships

November 25, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee’s Family Thanksgiving

Franny Agnes Lee is no exception when it comes to having a well-intentioned yet slightly delusional mama. Here’s a snapshot of her holiday — one that I am sure many people can relate to!  On behalf of Franny, have a great holiday week and enjoy all of the great things in your life.

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November 25, 2015


Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.  Henri Frederic Amiel, Swiss Philosopher It’s Thanksgiving. It’s that time of year when we put a bit more focus and attention on what we are thankful for in our lives. I love […]

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November 24, 2015

Taking an Adult Approach to the Holidays (Even When You’re Seated at the Kid’s Table)

After I asked readers to describe their feelings about the holidays, many expressed frustration. They wrote of nosey relatives who grilled them about their romantic lives, of being relegated to air mattresses while married siblings received guest-room accommodations, and of wanting to vaporize during New Year’s Eve kisses. But perhaps the largest source of grief […]

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November 18, 2015

Why Relationships are Harder for Obsessive Men and Women

The percentage of men and women who have the full-blown disorder called Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is actually quite small (less than 5 percent of the adult population), but a much higher percentage of men and women have some of the features. These individuals tend to obsess on a regular basis, and they also feel compelled to […]

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November 9, 2015

The Breakup Test: 5 Questions

Imagine if we knew the precise number of men and women who were considering a breakup at this very moment. It would be astronomical, right? Every day, millions of men and women take inventory of their relationships and ask themselves whether it makes sense to end it or keep it going. If you are in […]

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November 2, 2015

Oh, No! I Feel More Attracted to My Date’s Friend!

Meeting someone you’re attracted to is always exciting, but it can get complicated when the person you’re attracted to is your date’s friend. There are a few factors you should keep in mind if you find yourself in this situation, and following these tips will help you make sure that you’re being cautious in making […]

October 26, 2015

Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween Horror

It’s a sneak peek at Franny Agnes Lee’s Halloween night. No blind dates. No mysterious strangers. Just an evening in with her cat, some candy, and an ironic message. Don’t give up on love Franny! We are rooting for you. Until then, turn the TV off!   See More Franny Dates!

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October 15, 2015

Don’t Love Yourself? Try Just Being Friends.

Whenever people ask Buddhist teacher Lodro Rinzler to talk about love and romance, he asks them a simple question: “When you go on a date, do you bring your most authentic self?” “Ninety percent of the time, the answer is ‘Hell, no,’” Rinzler writes in How To Love Yourself (And Sometimes Other People): Spiritual Advice […]

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October 13, 2015

Engaged Forever: When Your Fiancé Won’t Set the Wedding Date

Without question, long engagements can be incredibly anxiety-provoking and frustrating. Everyone you know will ask, “Why haven’t you set a date?” It’s always interesting to me that people ask others incredibly personal questions on the spot, as if you’re supposed to tell that random guy from work or an acquaintance you see on the street […]

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October 9, 2015

I Want a Relationship But…I Won’t Live Anywhere Else!

A continuing series on the ways people prevent themselves from finding the loving relationships they say they want. The world of online dating gives you the opportunity to rise above the local pool of single people, and to zoom around the globe.  The common side effect of this process is that you’re introduced to a […]