Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

too picky
January 10, 2017

Finding Fault with Everyone You Date: When No One is Good Enough

Because I write about dating and relationships, I’m always on the lookout for issues that affect both men and women. I occasionally find myself “accidentally” listening to others’ conversations as I’m standing in line or eating at a restaurant, and I’m always asking friends to share their own dating experiences to see if there is an […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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Closeup view of silhouette of three darts sticking in a professional sisal dartboard. All three darts hit the inner bull / bull's eye / mark.
January 6, 2017

3 Dating Resolutions Everyone Can Achieve

Some people say that New Year’s resolutions are silly or even meaningless, but those naysayers are probably people who have made them in the past and then broken them. If you are an organized list maker or goal setter, you are probably someone who gets things done timely and effectively. For you, setting resolutions is a […]

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New Year's clock at midnight
December 22, 2016

Single on New Year’s? Don’t Sweat It.

What are you doing for New Year’s?” It’s an innocent question, but for many people it can inspire mild panic. If you don’t have a good answer—that is, if you can’t report that you’re attending a glittery party with a live swing band or a cozy dinner where the hosts serve great wine and paella—it […]

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holidays for a single person
December 19, 2016

This Holiday Season, Give Yourself a Break

During the holidays, most of us hope to take some time off from work. But at the same time, many singles often find themselves working overtime at a job that never seems to let up: Being single. There are, of course, the questions. “Are you seeing anyone special?” “When are you going to settle down?” […]

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Young people in cafe looking at each other
December 6, 2016

Why Dating Two People at Once Isn’t Cheating

Last month, I wrote an article for eHarmony titled “How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy).” The response on Twitter was extreme. Some men and women could not believe that a psychologist who specializes in relationships would suggest that it is okay or morally acceptable to date two people […]

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nice guys and dating
November 30, 2016

‘Nice Guys’ Make Her Want To Run

Dear Sara: My therapist was telling me that there is a certain pattern in my relationships and that I should rather go for the nice guy to become happy with a man. She tells me that my loving feelings for a man are a sign of “active patterns.” She told me “take the nice guy […]

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person who interrupts
November 29, 2016

When Your Date Constantly Interrupts You: What it Means & What to Do

Everyone knows that interrupting others when they’re talking is rude, so why do some people keep doing it? Few things are as annoying as getting constantly interrupted. This behavior puts you on edge and frustrates you to the point where you may want to stop the conversation altogether. There are a few basic reasons why interrupters […]

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November 29, 2016

The Biggest Dating Dealbreaker May Surprise You…

One of the coolest things about working at eHarmony is all of the interesting data we have access to. Millions of eHarmony members have answered our questions, and here is what they currently feel about smoking, cheating, lying, and the biggest dealbreaker of all — rudeness! This one caught me by surprise, but I am […]

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November 21, 2016

How to Date Two People at the Same Time (and Not Go Crazy)

Dating more than one person at a time may sound a little overwhelming, but it’s actually one of the best ways to find the right match for you. When you date only one person, it’s easy to get emotionally attached quickly. Remember — it’s hard to detach once you have already gotten attached! When you start to […]

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