Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

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March 15, 2017

Men Who Withhold Feelings or Affection: Should Women Boycott Dating Them?

I was at a lunch recently with some friends, where one guy ended up sharing about his dating life. First, he told us he’d never told his girlfriend of five years that he loved her. Then, he said point-blank, “I don’t really show my feelings in a relationship.” It was interesting that he made these […]

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March 7, 2017

Learning to Date Again

It had been a long time since I’d been on a date that January evening, a couple of years ago. I’d told myself, my friends, and my therapist, that it wasn’t a big deal, but I wasn’t being honest with myself. The truth was, I was scared. I didn’t want to get hurt again. As […]

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March 7, 2017

When You’re ‘Too Needy’ in Relationships: How to Get Your Power Back

Has anyone ever told you that you’re too needy in relationships? Have you ever felt like you’re too needy? Self-disclosure alert: This is a problem I used to have, so I know it well. In the past, I had relationships where I felt like I was always dependent and needy. Thankfully, I got therapy early […]

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March 1, 2017

Don’t Ditch Your Dealbreakers

Last summer, I connected with a guy online. His name was Tony. Our messages back and forth became more and more frequent as we discovered things we had in common. He seemed to like that I think and talk deeply. I appreciated how passionate he was about his work. We decided that we wanted to […]

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February 8, 2017

How to End a Bad Date – The Nice Way

Let’s all agree that bad dates – no, awful dates – happen and that they sometimes must be interrupted and stopped in the middle of the date. Though you can’t control anyone else’s behavior, you can control your own. If your date acts in a way that you cannot tolerate and you simply can’t make […]

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February 1, 2017

4 Distorted Beliefs That Ruin Your Dating Life

Cognitive distortion is the fancy term for a distorted belief, a belief that doesn’t make sense because it’s not rooted in reality. For example, a thin woman who truly feels that she’s overweight has a distorted belief. The idea is that this distorted belief is pervasive and has the effect of making this woman feel […]

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January 19, 2017

‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I’m 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I’ve been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took most of the steps to advance the relationship in the […]

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too picky
January 10, 2017

Finding Fault with Everyone You Date: When No One is Good Enough

Because I write about dating and relationships, I’m always on the lookout for issues that affect both men and women. I occasionally find myself “accidentally” listening to others’ conversations as I’m standing in line or eating at a restaurant, and I’m always asking friends to share their own dating experiences to see if there is an […]

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January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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January 6, 2017

3 Dating Resolutions Everyone Can Achieve

Some people say that New Year’s resolutions are silly or even meaningless, but those naysayers are probably people who have made them in the past and then broken them. If you are an organized list maker or goal setter, you are probably someone who gets things done timely and effectively. For you, setting resolutions is a […]

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