Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

July 1, 2015

Should Smoking Be a Deal Breaker?

For many men and women, smoking is a deal breaker in any potential date. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, about 18 percent of adults smoke cigarettes. If you rule out people who don’t smoke, the reality is that you are ruling out thousands – no, millions – of people! Yet the […]

couple travel tips
June 29, 2015

Planning a First Trip Together? Here’s How to Make Sure There’s a Second

Travel can bring a couple closer, but it can also stress out a new relationship and make you wonder if you’re really compatible in the long run. With every couple sunset selfie and delightful discovery of some amazing café that makes the best Nutella and banana crepes you’ve ever had, comes a lot of opportunities […]

search for love
June 26, 2015

Taking the Panic Out of the Search for Love

Last year I sat on a panel at a prestigious university with an author who’d published a book telling female students that if they wanted to avoid lifetime spinsterhood, they needed to find a husband while they were in college. “Double down,” she told some of the brightest young women in the country, “before you […]

intimidating woman
June 22, 2015

‘How Can I Stop Intimidating Men?’

Recently a reader wrote to me after a man she’d been dating for ten weeks broke up with her. She said that the breakup was mature and honest, but was dismayed that the man gave her the same reason she’d heard many times before. “They say ‘I deserve better’ and they just weren’t feeling it,” […]

braggers and dating
June 18, 2015

You Humblebrags Aren’t Fooling Anyone

“I can’t believe I tripped on the red carpet!” “Some dude asked if I was a model. I was like, don’t you think I would have brushed my hair if I was?” “Disadvantage of driving a Porsche: People assume I’m picking up the check.” We all know a humblebrag when we see one. It has the intent […]

dating in summer
June 18, 2015

Book Up Your Summer to Boost Your Chances of Finding Love

Think being single is difficult around the holidays? The summer can feel a bit worse. While it’s acceptable to lay low during the winter months, it’s harder to justify just hanging out when the rest of the world seems to be enjoying every last UV ray of sunshine. This is especially the case if you lived […]

way through the maze
June 9, 2015

Matters of the Heart: Being Flexible Versus Settling

In 2009, Internet entrepreneur Kevin Systrom created a mobile app called Burbn, (get it?) which let users check in at a location, make plans for future check-ins, earn points by checking in friends, and post photos of the get together. It was complicated, but it was what Kevin wanted to build, and so he did […]

breakup tips
June 8, 2015

After a Breakup: 6 Tips to Get Your Happy Back

Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in the first few weeks after it happens. Because I counsel men and women on relationship issues, I have watched hundreds of clients over the years go through […]

A young woman is sitting on a swing on a hill burned by a wild fire
June 4, 2015

Navigating the Joys and Sorrows of Single Life

Recently, Singular City editor Kim Calvert commented on the negative tone that many people take when writing about the single life, noting my work in particular. Calvert cited a recent newsletter of mine, in which I expressed my belief that our positive-thinking culture often makes people feel worse because it pressures them to deny their […]

dating and things to not discuss on the phone
June 1, 2015

Dating and the Phone: 5 Topics to Never Discuss by Telephone

In the beginning stage of dating, men and women often feel compelled to get to know each other as fast as humanly possible. In such cases, much of that getting to know each other happens over the phone. A new couple may spend hours on the phone at night, hitting every topic from favorite vacation […]