Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

ready for relationship
August 1, 2016

‘I Love My Freedom, But I Also Want a Relationship’

Dear Sara: I’m a 34-old-girl who never had a proper relationship. l started to feel so lonely, and seeing [people] all around me having someone makes me feel bad about myself. On the other hand, I do like my independent and free life but still want someone next to me. I wonder: Do I ask […]

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shame and dating
July 29, 2016

3 Types of Shame That Hurt Your Dating Life

Shame is one of those issues that’s often discussed without ever really operationalizing what it is. So, what is shame? Shame, boiled down to its root, is the feeling you have that something about you is wrong or bad. Where do we get our shame from? You guessed it: other people! It’s typically parents, other family […]

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how to spot a misogynist
July 21, 2016

How to Tell If a Man is a Misogynist: 3 Signs

Over the course of my career, I have written a lot about misogyny, and I am always sensitive to it when I hear about it from clients or see it in my personal life. There’s no question that there are some men who hate women, and I’ve found that misogyny is taught and sustained by […]

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Couple Holding Hands
July 20, 2016

DATE: What I Learned from an Adorable Couple Who Met Online

I was traveling recently, and met a couple who were clearly dating and seemed very much “in like” and heading towards “in love.” As I so often do, I started asking them all sorts of questions about how they met, and because of what I do, my interest was immediately piqued when they said they […]

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self doubt and dating
July 14, 2016

‘Is Self-Doubt Harming My Chance of Finding Love?’

Dear Sara: A while back, I had a “come to Jesus” moment with a [single] friend/mentor when she was implying, yet again, that marriage is a sign of spiritual maturity. I argued it was luck. I said, “Tell me one thing a happily married woman (I decided to make it easy for her by excluding […]

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dating someone with kids
July 11, 2016

Dating Someone with Kids: 4 Questions and Tips to Consider

Right off the bat, there are many reasons why it’s not ideal to date someone with a child. After all, it’s not just the fact that you have to make it work with the person you’re dating and the child that comes along with him or her, but you also have to deal with the ex […]

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July 11, 2016

Do You Seem Too Busy to Date?

Yes, we are all busy, busy. We have jam-packed schedules full of work, travel, family commitments, exercise, social activities, personal development goals, and so many good TV shows. It’s amazing that anyone finds time to date! Well, it turns out we’re not any less time-starved than before – at least compared to 14 years ago […]

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loneliness
July 8, 2016

How to Feel Less Lonely When You’re Single: 5 Tips

There’s no doubt that being single can be a little lonely sometimes, especially if all or most of your good friends are in relationships. While being a little lonely is inevitable, you don’t have to feel really, really lonely. There are many things you can do to make sure that you protect yourself emotionally from […]

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fun date
July 6, 2016

How to Be a Fun Date

Been on a good date lately? If so, I bet you’re likely to describe it as “fun.” We rarely characterize early dates as being “meaningful” or “bonding,” although those words might be better indicators of the potential for a close relationship. That’s because we live in a culture that places a premium on the word […]

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smiling woman holding sparklers in her hand
July 1, 2016

Celebrating Singles’ Independence

A few years ago, I held a Fourth of July barbecue in my newly adopted city, and afterwards I noticed something interesting: the friends who came early to help set up and stayed late to help clean up had one thing in common: They were single. This isn’t a criticism of my married guests. They […]

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