Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

dating advice
August 19, 2015

When You Date Someone, You Date Their Profession, Too

Let’s admit it: Some professionals have a prestigious or exciting reputation. If you start dating someone who has one of the following professions, it’s hard to deny that these jobs sound prestigious: lawyer, doctor, banker, business owner, or high-level manager, among others. Similarly, your new date may have a profession that sounds exciting: pilot, fireman, […]

first date tips
August 18, 2015

Too Many Disappointing First Dates? How to Get Back Those Butterflies

How’s this for an unfair investment of time? You can spend weeks getting to know someone over email, text, and phone. You might let yourself get a little excited about meeting him or her in person for the first time. Maybe you’ve checked out his profile in the meantime and admired his Alaskan vacation photos […]

dating in your league
August 14, 2015

What Dating ‘In Your League’ Should Mean

Right off the bat, I must tell you that this expression – dating “in your league” – is one I detest. People use this expression to make immature comparisons between people, and the suggestion is always that some people make better catches than others because they’re more attractive. If you regularly read my eHarmony blog, […]

bad reasons to become exclusive
August 12, 2015

4 Bad Reasons to Become Exclusive

How’s this for romantic? She says: “I really like you and would like to see where this relationship could go. Do you want to be exclusive?” He says: “Why not? I don’t really have time to date anyone else.” Now there’s a way to make a person feel special! There’s so much advice floating around […]

August 12, 2015

Why Attention Seekers Make Bad Partners

Sure, we all love a little attention, but some people take that need to a whole other level. There are three main types of attention seekers and each type ends up frustrating their romantic partners and causing regular arguments or a bona fide breakup. Check out the three types below so you are prepared when you encounter […]

golden rule of dating new
August 10, 2015

The Golden Rule of Dating

We all love the Golden Rule, right? It’s the kind of basic human rule of interaction that is so fundamental to our experience that it has popped up independently in civilizations all over the world. It is part sociology, psychology, religion, and philosophy. Wikipedia tells us… Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be […]

July 31, 2015

Stop Expecting to Be Rejected

When you’re dating and putting your heart on the line, you can expect a certain amount of rejection at every level of the process. In most cases, it’s obvious: He doesn’t return an email, or she dodges an end-of-the-evening kiss. But there are cases when it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. We expect to be rejected, and […]

dating anxiety
July 10, 2015

Rx for Dating Anxiety: Do Something Nice

In the novel The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P., Adelle Waldman’s character Aurit perfectly articulates the unique emotional toll of dating: “Dating is probably the most fraught human interaction there is. You’re sizing people up to see if they’re worth your time and attention, and they’re doing the same to you. It’s meritocracy applied to […]

dating horror stories
July 9, 2015

Stop with the Dating Horror Stories … Your Date is Not Impressed

Have you encountered this favorite pastime of online daters? As soon as you order your drink, your date leans in with the bait. “So, how do you like online dating?” he asks. Before you can even answer, “I’ve met some nice people,” he exclaims, “Well, I’ve got a story for you!” Thus begins a so-called […]

red flags
July 2, 2015

Signs That Your Date Has Emotional Problems Vs. Everyday Issues

Show me someone who doesn’t have any personal issues and I’ll show you a briefcase full of thousand dollar bills. That’s right, ladies and gentlemen, it’s simply not going to happen. The goal in dating isn’t to find someone who doesn’t have any issues but rather to find someone who doesn’t have serious emotional problems. […]