Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

way through the maze
June 9, 2015

Matters of the Heart: Being Flexible Versus Settling

In 2009, Internet entrepreneur Kevin Systrom created a mobile app called Burbn, (get it?) which let users check in at a location, make plans for future check-ins, earn points by checking in friends, and post photos of the get together. It was complicated, but it was what Kevin wanted to build, and so he did […]

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breakup tips
June 8, 2015

After a Breakup: 6 Tips to Get Your Happy Back

Getting over a breakup is never going to be easy, but you can make it a lot less painful if you are strategic about how you cope in the first few weeks after it happens. Because I counsel men and women on relationship issues, I have watched hundreds of clients over the years go through […]

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A young woman is sitting on a swing on a hill burned by a wild fire
June 4, 2015

Navigating the Joys and Sorrows of Single Life

Recently, Singular City editor Kim Calvert commented on the negative tone that many people take when writing about the single life, noting my work in particular. Calvert cited a recent newsletter of mine, in which I expressed my belief that our positive-thinking culture often makes people feel worse because it pressures them to deny their […]

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dating and things to not discuss on the phone
June 1, 2015

Dating and the Phone: 5 Topics to Never Discuss by Telephone

In the beginning stage of dating, men and women often feel compelled to get to know each other as fast as humanly possible. In such cases, much of that getting to know each other happens over the phone. A new couple may spend hours on the phone at night, hitting every topic from favorite vacation […]

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finding love
May 19, 2015

Looking for The Real Thing? Find Someone Comfortable

Ask him for a date, or let him pursue you? Respond to the text immediately, or let her wait? Tell him you love him, or stay mum until he says it first? The early days of a relationship are thrilling, but also stressful. That heavenly new-love high can feel pretty precarious, as if one false […]

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Do you hide behiind the computer?
May 19, 2015

Stop the Endless Emailing and Go on a Date!

You know the feeling: You anxiously open an email from the guy you’ve been corresponding with over the last few weeks. After quickly scanning the content, you see a series of question marks at the end. Oh, the agony! He’s asking you more questions. This time he wants to know: “What kind of music do […]

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texting relationships
May 14, 2015

Bringing a Text Romance Into the Real World

Dear Sara: In November of last year, I finally put myself out into the online dating scene. I have been divorced for about three years. Feeling nervous, I finally found someone I was interested in. We met for coffee [and have] been out on a couple of movie dates. He admitted to me a few […]

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divorced and dating
May 13, 2015

Divorced and Dating Again: What I Know For Sure

Coming back to the dating world after a marriage fails can be one of two things: depressing or exciting. I hope that you feel it’s more exciting after you’re finished reading this article. There’s no doubt that no one gets married to get divorced, but divorces happen every day. Regardless of why your marriage ended, […]

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happy people arent best support
May 12, 2015

Feeling Discouraged? You Might Want to Avoid Your Happiest Friends

If you’ve had a bad date and need someone to talk to, your most happily married friend is probably not the best choice—even if she thinks she is. A study published in the journal PLOS One found that people who are in a good mood gave themselves higher marks for their empathetic skills than people […]

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when to stop dating other people
May 11, 2015

Do You Like Your Date Enough to Stop Seeing Other People?

Before we get into my specific advice on the subject, I want to make sure it’s understood that dating a few people at the same time is actually a very good practice. Why? Because people are more likely to settle down with someone who’s not a great fit when they only date one person at […]

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