Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

great new years resolutions
December 21, 2015

Hate New Year’s Eve? Find a Better Reason for the Season

It’s not you. It’s the holiday. Many people aren’t a fan of the evening’s overpriced dinners and silver glittery parties. Yet being single on the most scripted of nights brings a special kind of agony. At midnight, when sweethearts start smooching, it can feel as if the DJ just announced, “Hands up if you do […]

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nosy relatives
December 15, 2015

Annoyed by Nosy Relatives? Here’s How to Take Back Your Holiday

What’s worse than random strangers at a holiday party grilling you about your love life? It’s your family inquiring: “Are you dating anyone?” Never mind that these are presumably some of the most important people in your life who genuinely care about you. Even the most secure singles can feel as if they’re attending an […]

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how to say no
December 9, 2015

When to Say ‘No’ to Holiday Events

The office holiday drinks meet was going along just fine; then everyone began swapping marriage-proposal stories. “Of course, no one asked for mine, haha,” said Gina, the only single person in her office. “It was painful to sit through, but I survived.” After that, Gina gave herself permission to decline invitations that she thought would […]

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Christmas monkey near a red coffee cup on a wooden background.
November 20, 2015

They’re Hee-eere: Navigating the Holidays While Single

For Kirsten, the holiday blues started early this year. Up until recently, she’d spent Thanksgiving at her parents’ house, using her old bedroom as a refuge when things became too overwhelming. But after her parents moved to a retirement community, the festivities moved to her brother’s house and Kirsten bunked in a room without a […]

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Silhouette of young man sitting on sunset or sunrise. Confident teenage boy thinkig on cliff stone. Hope. Sadness. Freedom.
November 12, 2015

Post-Breakup Question: What Did You Do Right?

Recently, a young woman told me about a guy who had disappeared after exhibiting some fairly skittish behavior. Now she was questioning herself, wondering why her relationships never lasted. I asked her to consider her behavior in this relationship. Did she have any regrets? Is there anything she’d do differently? She was silent for a […]

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phone etiquette for dates
October 30, 2015

Going Old School: How to Be a Better Phone Date

People love to complain about how we’ve become too attached to our phones. The funny thing is that many of us don’t really like to actually talk on them. Even if we used to love to chat into the wee hours as teenagers, the convenience of texting, Messenger, Snapchat, and WhatsApp has converted many people into […]

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The woman touches finger-tips to the mouth
October 28, 2015

Does Dating Make You Frightened? Good.

Last week, I thought I saw a ghost. A flurry of light swished across the living room floor and I tensed for a second. Could it be? It wasn’t. Car headlights, I later realized, were reflecting off a side window and creating the eerie effect. But it was still fun to think about on a […]

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Woman looking at her reflection
October 26, 2015

Do You Lose Your Identity in Relationships?

What makes you YOU? The chances are, you could tell me at least a half-dozen things that define you. You may even fall into a lifestyle “type” – musician, biker, hiker/camper, triathlete, etc. These kinds of lifestyle choices help determine who our friends are, what clothes we wear, where we hang out, and how we […]

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how to talk to strangers
October 21, 2015

The Case For Talking to Strangers

“Ya gotta get out there.” That’s a refrain singles searching for romantic partners often hear. The trouble is, “there” isn’t always such a hospitable place. Sure you can leave the house, take a walk, meet friends for dinner, or go to the occasional cocktail party. But day-to-day life generally isn’t conducive to those adorable cute […]

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online dates search
October 20, 2015

Are You Trying Too Hard in Dating?

I was recently at a friend’s wedding when I joined the bride’s friends in a discussion about her single days. “She was terrible to go out with,” exclaimed one. “Don’t you remember how she’d drag us all to a bar, do a lap to see if there were any guys worth meeting and then exclaim […]

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