Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

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November 20, 2015

They’re Hee-eere: Navigating the Holidays While Single

For Kirsten, the holiday blues started early this year. Up until recently, she’d spent Thanksgiving at her parents’ house, using her old bedroom as a refuge when things became too overwhelming. But after her parents moved to a retirement community, the festivities moved to her brother’s house and Kirsten bunked in a room without a […]

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November 12, 2015

Post-Breakup Question: What Did You Do Right?

Recently, a young woman told me about a guy who had disappeared after exhibiting some fairly skittish behavior. Now she was questioning herself, wondering why her relationships never lasted. I asked her to consider her behavior in this relationship. Did she have any regrets? Is there anything she’d do differently? She was silent for a […]

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October 30, 2015

Going Old School: How to Be a Better Phone Date

People love to complain about how we’ve become too attached to our phones. The funny thing is that many of us don’t really like to actually talk on them. Even if we used to love to chat into the wee hours as teenagers, the convenience of texting, Messenger, Snapchat, and WhatsApp has converted many people into […]

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October 28, 2015

Does Dating Make You Frightened? Good.

Last week, I thought I saw a ghost. A flurry of light swished across the living room floor and I tensed for a second. Could it be? It wasn’t. Car headlights, I later realized, were reflecting off a side window and creating the eerie effect. But it was still fun to think about on a […]

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October 26, 2015

Do You Lose Your Identity in Relationships?

What makes you YOU? The chances are, you could tell me at least a half-dozen things that define you. You may even fall into a lifestyle “type” – musician, biker, hiker/camper, triathlete, etc. These kinds of lifestyle choices help determine who our friends are, what clothes we wear, where we hang out, and how we […]

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October 21, 2015

The Case For Talking to Strangers

“Ya gotta get out there.” That’s a refrain singles searching for romantic partners often hear. The trouble is, “there” isn’t always such a hospitable place. Sure you can leave the house, take a walk, meet friends for dinner, or go to the occasional cocktail party. But day-to-day life generally isn’t conducive to those adorable cute […]

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October 20, 2015

Are You Trying Too Hard in Dating?

I was recently at a friend’s wedding when I joined the bride’s friends in a discussion about her single days. “She was terrible to go out with,” exclaimed one. “Don’t you remember how she’d drag us all to a bar, do a lap to see if there were any guys worth meeting and then exclaim […]

should you date someone who is sober
October 14, 2015

Should I Date Someone Who’s Sober if I’m a Social Drinker?

Conventional wisdom suggests that approximately ten percent of adults are in recovery from alcohol or drug addiction, which means that there’s a decent chance you’ll come across some of these men and women in the dating world. If you enjoy the occasional alcoholic drink but aren’t an alcoholic yourself, can you date someone who is […]

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October 12, 2015

Not Sure if You Like Your Date Enough? What It Could Really Mean…

If you’re someone who tends to overthink things, you’re not alone. Many of us – therapists and psychologists included – tend to obsess about things that could otherwise be fairly simple. If you find yourself unsure about whether you like the new person you’re dating enough to continue on, we can infer a few things. […]

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October 12, 2015

Friends Want to Help You Find Love? Ask Them to Do This.

Harvard Business School might not seem like a likely place to find dating advice, but a recently published working paper has good insights for anyone wishing to perform well under pressure. The study, which I learned about from the Science of Us blog, shows that people who receive positive feedback before undertaking a stressful task […]