Dating Dos and Don’ts

The dating arena can be scary. Here’s a little direction to get you through those “Should I” or “Shouldn’t I” moments.

awkward dating moments
August 2, 2017

3 Super Awkward Dating Moments (and How to Handle Them!)

Awkward moments aren’t so awkward if you expect them, or decide in advance how to handle them. Life is all about being prepared! There are a few situations you may incur in dating that can make for extremely uncomfortable moments. First, however, let’s discuss the reasons why awkward moments are so awkward. Awkward situations in […]

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attractiveness
July 26, 2017

Checklist: Appearance Aside, How Attractive Are You?

When you hear the word “attractive,” the first thing that probably comes to mind is physical attractiveness. While how a person looks is important to some, it is not the most important characteristics for many others. Having counseled countless couples and single men and women over the years, I have created a list of characteristics […]

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sabotage dates
July 24, 2017

9 Ways You’re Sabotaging Your Dating Life

If you’re not thrilled about your dating prospects lately, it’s easy to blame everyone and everything else: You’re not meeting enough people. Or the people you’re meeting are liars, losers, and flakes. Or perhaps you’re disgusted with the state of modern dating. Or maybe it’s the Internet’s fault. The good news is that you might […]

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intense person
July 20, 2017

3 Signs Your Date is too Intense (to Start a Good Relationship Now, at Least)

There is a definite spectrum of normal behavior when it comes to dating. If you get lucky, you will find yourself on a date with someone who is polite, reliable, and overall good company. It’s the other end of the spectrum that you have to worry about. One of the patterns of behaviors that is […]

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dating check off list
July 13, 2017

‘When Looking For a Partner, Should I Make a List?’

Dear Sara: I have a checkbox of things I would really like in a partner. College-educated, maybe a white-collar job. Am I being too picky? — T Dear T: I don’t think there is anything wrong with a making list, though I do have a few basic guidelines. 1. Keep it short. When you buy […]

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short men and dating
July 7, 2017

Guys: If You’re Short, Say it in Your Dating Profile

In an ideal world, people would naturally get along and no one would care too much about appearance or fitting in. One of the realities about dating that will never change is that physical appearance matters. While we all agree that appearance matters more than it should – and that people should look for romantic […]

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dating with insecurities
June 30, 2017

When Dating Brings Out Major Insecurities (and How to Get Over Them)

Insecurity is an interesting personality trait when it comes to dating. Perhaps you’d imagine that a therapist like myself would say that insecurity is a trait that repels men and women alike – that it will prevent anyone from being attracted to you or wanting to start a relationship with you. The (paradoxical) truth is […]

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opposites in dating
June 16, 2017

11 Signs You Have Nothing in Common with Your Date

What first comes to mind as I write about this issue is the old trope about yin and yang, or the expression that opposes attract. While there is some truth to these concepts – because none of us wants to be with someone exactly like us in every way – two people will need to […]

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second dates
June 7, 2017

The Hidden Reason You’re Not Getting a Second Date

Did you have a really good first date? The conversation flowed easily. You laughed for hours. You told each other your best stories. Maybe you shared some personal stuff. You went to a second place for a drink or took a romantic stroll by the lake or around town. Perhaps you held hands or even […]

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text and dating tips
June 2, 2017

Text Your Way to More Dates: 7 Tips

No matter if you love or hate texting, it’s hard to escape the “texting phase” in a budding relationship. In the best case, it’s an exchange of witty one-liners and fascinating reveals that create a slow build of anticipation to chatting on the phone and finally meeting. In the worst, it’s a painful and seemingly […]

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