Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

humble is attractive in dating
April 14, 2015

Humble People Are More Desirable, Study Finds

Singles are often told that if they want to be successful daters, then they had better love what they see in the mirror. The way to win at dating is to appraise yourself very highly and then let every stranger you meet for burritos know you’re a hot commodity. There are a couple of problems […]

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meditation for breakups
April 6, 2015

‘How Do I Get Her Out of My Head?’

Dear Sara: I spent fourteen years with a woman, and afterwards she said it was only out of convenience and that she had found somebody else. I wasn’t very affectionate—you know, two jobs, but I loved her very much, and I can’t get her out of my head. How do I go forward?—A Dear A: […]

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whatdomenthinkaboutstrongwomen
April 2, 2015

Headstrong? Opinionated? Guys Dig That

If you’re a single woman who has a brain and a backbone, you may suspect that these things are working against you in the dating arena. Maybe you read a dating guide that instructed you not to choose the restaurant or argue about politics. You need to let the man be the man! So hold […]

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baddates
March 25, 2015

Some Good News about Bad Dates

A man five years your senior informs you that you’re not getting any younger. The woman you’ve gone on three great dates with confesses that she’s married. Your new love suddenly ceases all communication. Dating can be an extremely emotionally raw experience, yet it’s frequently treated like fun and games. “Enjoy it!” your married friends […]

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birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]

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broken hearts how to deal with advice
March 16, 2015

Unrequited: When the One You Love Doesn’t Love You Back

When Lisa Phillips was thirty years old, she fell passionately in love with an unavailable man. Her crush began as a hopeful mental diversion, but quickly escalated into a kind of madness. At one point, she found herself standing outside the man’s door, knocking so loudly and insistently that when he finally opened it he […]

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breakupbenefits2
March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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mending a broken heart
February 24, 2015

Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that sting. This is, unfortunately, a common time of year for couples to part. The […]

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how to get over a broken heart
February 18, 2015

Mending a Broken Heart: New Research on an Old Problem

After a breakup, the newly single often hear two, somewhat contradictory, pieces of advice. First, there are the friends and family members who encourage the heartbroken to “move on.” Forget ‘em. You deserve better! But there are also more philosophical types who will encourage the lovelorn to process the relationship a bit, to grieve and […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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