Sara Eckel

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Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

Single on Thanksgiving: Quick Answers to Your Relatives’ (Slightly!) Invasive Questions

The questions arise when you’re passing the potatoes or putting out the nut cups. Are you seeing anyone special? Playing the field? When are you going to settle down? Singles are often grilled about their personal lives in a way their married relations rarely are. When was the last time your sister and brother-in-law were […]

Why People Settle for So-So Relationships

When you’re single and searching, couples can look like an interesting puzzle. What separates them from you? Are they more desirable? More mature? Just luckier? Possibly. But a new study has identified a less considered factor: Maybe they’re more fearful. In a recent study at the University of Toronto, single female college students evaluated a […]

‘Where Did All of My Friends Go?’

Dear Sara, One thing I really miss about being in a relationship is the immediate and intense community it has always brought me. When I’m part of a couple, I am constantly invited to dine with other couples, double date, hang out and get to know my partner’s friends. When I’m single, I get about […]

Why Some People Don’t Want Single Women to Vote

Late last month, a panel of Fox News commentators discussed the coming elections when host Kimberly Guilfoyle explained why she didn’t think young single women should vote: “It’s the same reason why young women on juries are not a good idea. They don’t get it. They’re not in that same life experience of paying the […]

Science Finds That Nice People Are Hot

A group of college students met on the first day of an architectural dig and were asked to rate each other’s physical attractiveness. Six weeks later, researchers asked them to re-evaluate. In this study, which was conducted by Kevin Kniffin and David Sloan Wilson, students were also asked to assess their classmates’ personality and character, […]

‘Is He Taking it Slow, or Just Not That Into Me?’

This is a story of girl meets boy. Girl and boy play email-text-phone tag, girl and boy eventually go on a date three weeks later. And the cycle begins again. Beth O’Donnell, who runs the Single and the Sweet Side of 40 blog, was introduced to a man at a networking party and the two […]

Life Advice: Throw Out the Scorecard

I recently attended a party where a man delivered a long, fairly hostile monologue about his wife’s poor driving skills, giving everyone in the room blow-by-blows of each fender bender and exacting details about how much her snafus had raised their car insurance premiums. His wife, a beautiful and good-natured doctor, didn’t seem to mind. […]

Couple Envy: ‘Why Am I Such a Terrible Person?’

Dear Sara, I am single and have a few single friends, but most of my friends are couples. And one of these couples is very tight—they met a few years ago and have been in constant bliss ever since. I am incredibly happy for them, but I also find myself increasingly envious, to the point […]

After the Breakup: ‘How Did I Miss the Signs?’

I just emerged from a two-month relationship that ended very unkindly. The guy suddenly went missing in action for days, appeared later with some very dodgy-sounding excuses, and then proceeded to break up with me via e-mail, after insinuating that my behavior prompted such a reaction from him. All too often, married and coupled-up friends […]

Singles Are Now the Majority of Americans—and That’s Good for Everyone

The message is delivered in many different formats—wedding invitations, baby announcements, Facebook feeds documenting domestic bliss in excruciating detail. And although no one ever says it aloud, it can make a single person feel out of step, like a lonely outlier in a couples’ world. So here’s some interesting news that won’t come in a […]

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