Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

baddates
March 25, 2015

Some Good News about Bad Dates

A man five years your senior informs you that you’re not getting any younger. The woman you’ve gone on three great dates with confesses that she’s married. Your new love suddenly ceases all communication. Dating can be an extremely emotionally raw experience, yet it’s frequently treated like fun and games. “Enjoy it!” your married friends […]

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birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]

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broken hearts how to deal with advice
March 16, 2015

Unrequited: When the One You Love Doesn’t Love You Back

When Lisa Phillips was thirty years old, she fell passionately in love with an unavailable man. Her crush began as a hopeful mental diversion, but quickly escalated into a kind of madness. At one point, she found herself standing outside the man’s door, knocking so loudly and insistently that when he finally opened it he […]

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breakupbenefits2
March 3, 2015

‘The Best Breakup I Ever Had’

After Jaime’s boyfriend ended their four-year relationship last fall, she was devastated. “I remember just kind of folding in half in the kitchen one night, sobbing, because there was nothing else to do,” she says. But soon after, Jaime noticed that she started feeling better a lot more quickly than she expected. She moved into […]

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mending a broken heart
February 24, 2015

Breaking Up Might Be Easier Than You Think

There’s no doubt about it: Breakups hurt. One study found that newly single people looking at pictures of their exes had the same brain activity as those experiencing physical pain. In the aftermath of Valentine’s Day, many people are feeling that sting. This is, unfortunately, a common time of year for couples to part. The […]

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how to get over a broken heart
February 18, 2015

Mending a Broken Heart: New Research on an Old Problem

After a breakup, the newly single often hear two, somewhat contradictory, pieces of advice. First, there are the friends and family members who encourage the heartbroken to “move on.” Forget ‘em. You deserve better! But there are also more philosophical types who will encourage the lovelorn to process the relationship a bit, to grieve and […]

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woman having courage Lea Thau
February 10, 2015

A Woman Faces the Men Who Rejected Her—and Makes a Surprising Discovery

When Lea Thau was 38, her fiancé broke up with her while she was pregnant with their child. She subsequently became single for the first time in her adult life. “I went from being engaged to be married and pregnant and looking for houses every Sunday to being eight months pregnant, alone in an apartment, […]

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valentines day
February 3, 2015

Don’t Let Valentine’s Day Break Your Heart — or Your Bank

Many centuries ago, a Catholic priest named Valentine was sentenced to death for illegally marrying young couples. While imprisoned, he fell in love with his jailer’s daughter and just before his Feb. 14 execution passed her a note that said “from your Valentine.” This is the first—and possibly one of the last—times Valentine’s Day was […]

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dating checklist
February 2, 2015

You’re More than Your Checklist

I frequently hear from readers who are confused about why they’re single, and their letters very often include a detailed list of their attributes. They typically go something like this: “I have a great job, lots of friends, work out regularly, am active in my church and frankly look pretty darn good for my age.” […]

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36 questions
January 28, 2015

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?

Can you make a decision to fall in love? Writer Mandy Len Catron wanted to find out. As Catron writes in a wildly popular New York Times Modern Love column, she told an acquaintance about a technique, developed by psychologist Arthur Aron, in which two strangers ask each other 36 questions of increasing intimacy and […]

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