Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

finding love
May 19, 2015

Looking for The Real Thing? Find Someone Comfortable

Ask him for a date, or let him pursue you? Respond to the text immediately, or let her wait? Tell him you love him, or stay mum until he says it first? The early days of a relationship are thrilling, but also stressful. That heavenly new-love high can feel pretty precarious, as if one false […]

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texting relationships
May 14, 2015

Bringing a Text Romance Into the Real World

Dear Sara: In November of last year, I finally put myself out into the online dating scene. I have been divorced for about three years. Feeling nervous, I finally found someone I was interested in. We met for coffee [and have] been out on a couple of movie dates. He admitted to me a few […]

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happy people arent best support
May 12, 2015

Feeling Discouraged? You Might Want to Avoid Your Happiest Friends

If you’ve had a bad date and need someone to talk to, your most happily married friend is probably not the best choice—even if she thinks she is. A study published in the journal PLOS One found that people who are in a good mood gave themselves higher marks for their empathetic skills than people […]

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A young woman is sitting in a movie theater with a bucket of popcorn
May 1, 2015

People Who Don’t Do Stuff Alone Are Missing Out

Several years ago, I was sitting at a bar with a friend on a Friday night. A few seats down, a woman sat by herself, drinking a glass of wine and reading a magazine. “She’s so brave to go to a bar alone,” my friend said. “I’d never have the guts to do that.” I’m […]

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should i take someone back and give a second chance
April 23, 2015

‘Should I Take Her Back?’

Dear Sara, I was involved with my ex-companion from 2007 to 2014. I loved her whole-heartedly the entire time. (She had acknowledged by telling me a few years back that she was lucky to have me). In June 2013 she wanted to end our relationship (not that she has someone else, nor had I cheated […]

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humble is attractive in dating
April 14, 2015

Humble People Are More Desirable, Study Finds

Singles are often told that if they want to be successful daters, then they had better love what they see in the mirror. The way to win at dating is to appraise yourself very highly and then let every stranger you meet for burritos know you’re a hot commodity. There are a couple of problems […]

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meditation for breakups
April 6, 2015

‘How Do I Get Her Out of My Head?’

Dear Sara: I spent fourteen years with a woman, and afterwards she said it was only out of convenience and that she had found somebody else. I wasn’t very affectionate—you know, two jobs, but I loved her very much, and I can’t get her out of my head. How do I go forward?—A Dear A: […]

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whatdomenthinkaboutstrongwomen
April 2, 2015

Headstrong? Opinionated? Guys Dig That

If you’re a single woman who has a brain and a backbone, you may suspect that these things are working against you in the dating arena. Maybe you read a dating guide that instructed you not to choose the restaurant or argue about politics. You need to let the man be the man! So hold […]

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baddates
March 25, 2015

Some Good News about Bad Dates

A man five years your senior informs you that you’re not getting any younger. The woman you’ve gone on three great dates with confesses that she’s married. Your new love suddenly ceases all communication. Dating can be an extremely emotionally raw experience, yet it’s frequently treated like fun and games. “Enjoy it!” your married friends […]

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birthday blues
March 17, 2015

Coping with the Milestone Birthday Blues

Dear Sara: I’m two months away from turning 35. Despite my trying to stay away from depressing media and articles, I find myself getting sucked in anyway. What would you tell yourself as a single 35-year-old, knowing what you now know? —R Dear R: When I turned 35, I had been unattached for four years, […]

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