Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

get  him back
January 19, 2017

‘Should I Try To Get Him Back?’

Dear Sara: About a month ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me (I’m 30 and he is 31). It came as a heartbreaking surprise. I’ve been in several serious relationships, and this one seemed like a wonderful fit—loving, easy, drama-free. He took most of the steps to advance the relationship in the […]

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reenter the dating world
January 9, 2017

‘How Do I Re-Enter the Dating World?’

Dear Sara: I just read your article about conquering the fear of rejection and continuing to put oneself out there. My question: How do I know whether my status is a stigma against putting myself ‘out there’? Why is a female widow viewed as unavailable? I am a widow, and almost every [time] I get […]

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New Year's clock at midnight
December 22, 2016

Single on New Year’s? Don’t Sweat It.

What are you doing for New Year’s?” It’s an innocent question, but for many people it can inspire mild panic. If you don’t have a good answer—that is, if you can’t report that you’re attending a glittery party with a live swing band or a cozy dinner where the hosts serve great wine and paella—it […]

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holidays for a single person
December 19, 2016

This Holiday Season, Give Yourself a Break

During the holidays, most of us hope to take some time off from work. But at the same time, many singles often find themselves working overtime at a job that never seems to let up: Being single. There are, of course, the questions. “Are you seeing anyone special?” “When are you going to settle down?” […]

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how to get over someone
December 7, 2016

‘I Have No Relationship Experience’

Dear Sara: Growing up, I lived a very sheltered life: Most things were simply given to me, in return for a level of conformity that followed certain expectations. Throughout high school, I was essentially prohibited from being in a relationship (along with strict avoidance of drinking and partying—yeah, those were fun years) as I was […]

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nice guys and dating
November 30, 2016

‘Nice Guys’ Make Her Want To Run

Dear Sara: My therapist was telling me that there is a certain pattern in my relationships and that I should rather go for the nice guy to become happy with a man. She tells me that my loving feelings for a man are a sign of “active patterns.” She told me “take the nice guy […]

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single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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Love questions
November 11, 2016

3 Questions To Ask Yourself About a Potential Partner

Dear Sara: How would I know who would be a potential spouse for me? – A Dear A: There are so many elements that go into a good relationship. At first, of course, you’re focused on the fun, exciting stuff. Are you attracted to them? Do you enjoy talking to them? Do you like doing […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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poker concept
October 31, 2016

Should You Stay or Go? Lessons From a Poker Player

In Smarter Faster Better, Charles Duhigg’s best-selling book on productivity, a world-champion poker player discusses the advice she received from her brother, also a world-class player: “Most players are obsessed with finding the certainty on the table, and it colors their choices. Being a great player means embracing uncertainty. As long as you’re okay with […]

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