Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

nice guys and dating
November 30, 2016

‘Nice Guys’ Make Her Want To Run

Dear Sara: My therapist was telling me that there is a certain pattern in my relationships and that I should rather go for the nice guy to become happy with a man. She tells me that my loving feelings for a man are a sign of “active patterns.” She told me “take the nice guy […]

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single during thanksgiving
November 21, 2016

Single at Thanksgiving: A Simple Plan For Dealing With Family

My friend Rachel recently told me about a furniture shopping trip she took with her mother. Her mom wanted to purchase a comfortable guest bed that would accommodate her sister and brother-in-law. Both Rachel and her sister were in their 40s and had recently married for first time. Their mother was still adjusting to the […]

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Love questions
November 11, 2016

3 Questions To Ask Yourself About a Potential Partner

Dear Sara: How would I know who would be a potential spouse for me? – A Dear A: There are so many elements that go into a good relationship. At first, of course, you’re focused on the fun, exciting stuff. Are you attracted to them? Do you enjoy talking to them? Do you like doing […]

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rejection
November 3, 2016

‘I’m Tired of Being Rejected’

Dear Sara: I am a 29-year-old single male with social awkwardness, and I’m depressed because I’m getting nowhere with women. I have met some women online, and I’m lucky to get a second date with just one of them. I take it personally, like it’s me, and have had a psychic tell me it’s because I […]

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poker concept
October 31, 2016

Should You Stay or Go? Lessons From a Poker Player

In Smarter Faster Better, Charles Duhigg’s best-selling book on productivity, a world-champion poker player discusses the advice she received from her brother, also a world-class player: “Most players are obsessed with finding the certainty on the table, and it colors their choices. Being a great player means embracing uncertainty. As long as you’re okay with […]

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loneliness
October 20, 2016

Write Your Break-Up Recovery Story

When you’re dealing with the pain and trauma of a breakup, there are few phrases more annoying than “look on the bright side” or “it’s probably for the best.” Your heart has been shattered. Your life, upheaved. Who will get the friends? What will I do with my weekends? Will I ever see my blue […]

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whatdowomenwant
October 20, 2016

What Do Women Want: Looks or Character?

Would you rather be with a handsome man or an altruistic man? A British study recently published in Evolutionary Psychology examined how much a man’s level of altruism influences his attractiveness to women. In the study, led by University of Worcester psychologist Daniel Farrelly, 202 heterosexual women looked at photographs of pairs of men. In […]

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dating tips
October 17, 2016

Want a Treat? Give One to Someone Else

People often tell singles they can’t be happy as a couple until they’ve learned to be happy on their own. I disagree—there are plenty of people in loving relationships who have never mastered the art of being completely fulfilled as a single person. But the ability to find lasting happiness, regardless of life circumstances, is still […]

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relationship advice
October 4, 2016

‘I Don’t Understand Why She Left’

Dear Sara: Two and a half years ago, I met a woman online (I was 43 and she was 33 and an alcoholic, sober for 3 years), and we hit it off right away. She was witty and smart. We communicated really well, and we had great physical chemistry. After a few weeks, she said […]

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speed dating tips
August 18, 2016

My Date Said ‘I Don’t Want To Be Here.’ Neither Did I.

Many years ago, I participated in a speed dating event in New York City—one of sixty people meeting in the basement of a Mexican restaurant for a lightening round of 30 three minute dates. It didn’t go well. Though the event was marketed to people aged 30 to 44, many of the men I met […]

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