Sara Eckel

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Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

Science Finds That Nice People Are Hot

A group of college students met on the first day of an architectural dig and were asked to rate each other’s physical attractiveness. Six weeks later, researchers asked them to re-evaluate. In this study, which was conducted by Kevin Kniffin and David Sloan Wilson, students were also asked to assess their classmates’ personality and character, […]

‘Is He Taking it Slow, or Just Not That Into Me?’

This is a story of girl meets boy. Girl and boy play email-text-phone tag, girl and boy eventually go on a date three weeks later. And the cycle begins again. Beth O’Donnell, who runs the Single and the Sweet Side of 40 blog, was introduced to a man at a networking party and the two […]

Life Advice: Throw Out the Scorecard

I recently attended a party where a man delivered a long, fairly hostile monologue about his wife’s poor driving skills, giving everyone in the room blow-by-blows of each fender bender and exacting details about how much her snafus had raised their car insurance premiums. His wife, a beautiful and good-natured doctor, didn’t seem to mind. […]

Couple Envy: ‘Why Am I Such a Terrible Person?’

Dear Sara, I am single and have a few single friends, but most of my friends are couples. And one of these couples is very tight—they met a few years ago and have been in constant bliss ever since. I am incredibly happy for them, but I also find myself increasingly envious, to the point […]

After the Breakup: ‘How Did I Miss the Signs?’

I just emerged from a two-month relationship that ended very unkindly. The guy suddenly went missing in action for days, appeared later with some very dodgy-sounding excuses, and then proceeded to break up with me via e-mail, after insinuating that my behavior prompted such a reaction from him. All too often, married and coupled-up friends […]

Singles Are Now the Majority of Americans—and That’s Good for Everyone

The message is delivered in many different formats—wedding invitations, baby announcements, Facebook feeds documenting domestic bliss in excruciating detail. And although no one ever says it aloud, it can make a single person feel out of step, like a lonely outlier in a couples’ world. So here’s some interesting news that won’t come in a […]

What Your Profile Picture Says (and Doesn’t Say) About You

You know the basics. No pictures of exes with heads cut out. No shots of you ten years younger or twenty pounds thinner. And guys, please keep your shirts on. But two recent studies published in the journal Psychological Science shows that the act of choosing the right profile picture isn’t always so intuitive. A […]

Want to Impress Someone? Don’t Try

Many years ago, I was talking to a woman at a party about relationships and mentioned that I hadn’t been in one for ages. She told me this wasn’t a problem for her. She always had a boyfriend—her current beau was a biologist at an elite university—and before him there were plenty of others. “Men […]

Should You Stop Searching for a Soulmate?

Singles are often told to “get out there,” but this advice changes when you actually take it. Then you’re told to relax and let love come naturally. This advice is frequently followed by someone else’s magical “how we met” story. You know the kind. They involve missed flights, traffic snafus, hilarious hijinks (“how did our […]

Do You Have the ‘Facebook Blues?’

Your cousin is picking blueberries with her 3-year-old twins. Your college classmate got married at an 18th century inn. And your ex is chilling at the beach with old friends and wants you to know “it doesn’t get any better than this.” In the age of social media, we know a lot about what our […]

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