Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?
January 28, 2015

Can 36 Questions Make You Fall in Love?

Can you make a decision to fall in love? Writer Mandy Len Catron wanted to find out. As Catron writes in a wildly popular New York Times Modern Love column, she told an acquaintance about a technique, developed by psychologist Arthur Aron, in which two strangers ask each other 36 questions of increasing intimacy and […]

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How Dating Can Make You Strong
January 13, 2015

How Dating Can Make You Strong

In her memoir, Bossypants, comedian Tina Fey explains how performing improvisational comedy made her a stronger person: “What I learned about ‘bombing’ as an improviser at Second City was that it doesn’t kill you. No matter how badly an improv set goes, you will still be physically alive when it’s over,” Fey writes. This is […]

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Feeling Desperate? Don’t Worry. No One Can Tell.
January 9, 2015

Feeling Desperate? Don’t Worry. No One Can Tell.

Singles have to navigate a razor-thin line. You have to show people that you’re happily single, but you can’t be too happy—otherwise people worry that you’re not “making room” for love. On the other hand, if you admit that you aren’t satisfied with your solo life—that you really, really want to meet someone—then the diagnosis […]

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3 Dating Resolutions to Skip
December 30, 2014

3 Dating Resolutions to Skip

I’ve always loved New Year’s, because I love making lists. There’s so much promise in that sheet of resolutions to step up my career, become a vegetarian, or start doing Pilates. But the chipper “New Year, New You” mantra has a dark side: It suggests that something is wrong with the “old” you. Single people […]

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Looking for Love During the Holidays? You’re Not Alone.
December 26, 2014

Looking for Love During the Holidays? You’re Not Alone.

Recently, I asked readers to tell me how they experienced the holidays, and I received a wide range of answers. Many wrote about the fun they had spending time with friends and family, or just lounging around in their pajamas watching movies and doing jigsaw puzzles. But many singles also said they feel very lonely […]

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The Stress of Dating During the Holidays
December 23, 2014

The Stress of Dating During the Holidays

After Darren invited his new girlfriend to come to his parents’ house for the holidays, he immediately regretted it. “It was a disaster. My family is a little crazy, and she was not ready for it. It chased her away in a hurry,” said Darren, an author. So the next year, when he was dating […]

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Why Singles Aren’t Harming Marriage. They’re Actually Helping It!
December 15, 2014

Why Singles Aren’t Harming Marriage. They’re Actually Helping It!

“In our day, marriage and the family are in crisis. We now live in a culture of the temporary, in which more and more people are simply giving up on marriage as a public commitment. This revolution in manners and morals has often flown the flag of freedom, but in fact it has brought spiritual […]

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Thoughts on Spending the Holidays Alone
December 9, 2014

Thoughts on Spending the Holidays Alone

“I am 30 years old, and I’ve spent every holiday as
 a single person. Being single is difficult anytime, but it feels worse 
during the holidays. All of my friends are married with children, so it’s 
difficult to socialize with them in general, because people usually spend
 more time with their partners and children. It […]

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New Relationship Jitters: Why It’s Okay to Be Wrong
December 4, 2014

New Relationship Jitters: Why It’s Okay to Be Wrong

I once met a couple whose relationship began with a false start. The pair, let’s call them Kate and Jake, went on a first date. Jake said he’d be in touch, and then proceeded to be silent for two weeks. When he finally did reach out, an irritated Kate said, “Let’s just end this before […]

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Single on Thanksgiving: Quick Answers to Your Relatives’ (Slightly!) Invasive Questions
November 20, 2014

Single on Thanksgiving: Quick Answers to Your Relatives’ (Slightly!) Invasive Questions

The questions arise when you’re passing the potatoes or putting out the nut cups. Are you seeing anyone special? Playing the field? When are you going to settle down? Singles are often grilled about their personal lives in a way their married relations rarely are. When was the last time your sister and brother-in-law were […]

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