Sara Eckel

Posts by Sara Eckel

Sara Eckel is the author of It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. You can get a free bonus chapter of her book at saraeckel.com. You can also find her on Twitter at @saraeckel or on Facebook.

lack of relationship history
September 15, 2017

‘How Do I Explain My (Lack of) Relationship History?

Dear Sara: When I’m dating, I really struggle with how to answer questions about my (lack of) relationship history. Within a few dates, the question about past relationships inevitably comes up, and I never know how to answer this. I want to be honest, but as someone in my 30s with little relationship history, I […]

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should i stay or go
August 17, 2017

‘Should I Stay or Should I Go?’

Dear Sara, I am a young family/divorce lawyer and despite seeing hundreds of cases of couples who don’t work out, I am still trying to find the recipe for what I should look for in finding the right guy or what will make a marriage last. I am 32 years old and recently started dating […]

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dating check off list
July 13, 2017

‘When Looking For a Partner, Should I Make a List?’

Dear Sara: I have a checkbox of things I would really like in a partner. College-educated, maybe a white-collar job. Am I being too picky? — T Dear T: I don’t think there is anything wrong with a making list, though I do have a few basic guidelines. 1. Keep it short. When you buy […]

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last single friend
April 26, 2017

‘I’m the Last Single One Standing!’

Dear Sara: It happened: The last “single” girl in my friend group got engaged tonight. She and her fiancé had been together for more than two years and live together, so I was expecting it. The other couples in the group all got engaged within the past year (including one ex, for whom I long […]

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should I settle
April 17, 2017

‘Should I Settle?’

Dear Sara: I am a 38-year-old unemployed lady wishing to settle down with a guy who has okay financial strength and is intellectually enough for me and spiritually high. After lots of efforts, I could not get what I wanted. Then one guy of 33 years came in my life as a Facebook friend. He […]

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April 11, 2017

‘Do Men Really Want Love, or Just Sex?’

Dear Sara: I am a 40-year-old woman who is healthy, happy, and open to life. I am single currently and have not had a real relationship for almost 15 years. The two big relationships I had when I was younger died, and when I look back I think one of the major factors was my […]

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stigma woman
March 29, 2017

‘I Think I Have a Stigma’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced three times, and my last “husband” passed away in 2014. (We exchanged our vows, had joint bank account, vehicles together, were each other’s emergency contacts, etc. However, we never filed any paperwork with the government, as he didn’t feel that I should be responsible for any of his past […]

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how to move on
March 27, 2017

‘My Ex Has Cut Me Off — And I Can’t Move On’

Dear Sara: In 2015, my husband of 25 years and I ended our marriage. We got married after only knowing each other for a few days, … and it was rocky due to the fact that he drank alcohol daily for self-medication. He was abusive on several occasions, but I felt that until I had […]

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March 21, 2017

‘I’m Afraid To Get Hurt Again’

Dear Sara: I am scared of dating or trusting a guy again because the last relationship I had almost destroyed me. He broke my heart into pieces. I had never fallen in love like this before. I gave him everything. I almost forgot to leave anything for myself. Now I am scared that if I […]

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February 22, 2017

I’m Afraid to Get Back ‘Out There’

Dear Sara: I have been divorced for a little over 6 years now. My daughter wants me to start dating again, which I’m very fearful of doing. I have had a few relationships since my divorce, but the last relationship left me broken, and fearful of ever getting back out in the dating world again. […]

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