Monique A Honaman

Posts by Monique A Honaman

Author Monique A. Honaman wrote "The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce" in response to a need for a book that provided honest, real, and raw advice about how to survive and thrive through one of life's toughest journeys. The second book in the series, “The High Road Has Less Traffic ...
and a better view” (2013) is all about providing perspectives. She is not a divorce attorney, nor a clinical psychologist, or a marriage therapist ... just a regular person like you — having experienced the complexities of love, marriage, divorce, parenting, dating, remarriage, and everything in between. Her goal is to share perspectives from life along the way that are inspiring, motivating, and thought-provoking ... and, of course, at times witty, sarcastic, and challenging.

independence day dating tips
June 30, 2017

Celebrating Your Independence Day

“She needed a hero so she decided to become one.” The importance of our Independence Day is that it marks the birth of the United States of America. Remember your US history? The people living in the colonies were tired of living under British domination. They didn’t want to follow the orders from the King […]

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relationship advice
April 12, 2017

What My 18-year-old Daughter Taught Me About Relationships

My daughter graduated from high school this past May, and is currently on The World Race (a gap year program, #3n9 as they travel to 3 different continents over the course of 9 months). This is not simply traveling around the world with a backpack; rather, they are assigned a host ministry with which to […]

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life on hold
March 23, 2017

On Hold! Now What?

Our pastor recently delivered a sermon series talking about what we do when life puts us “on hold.” He used an old-fashioned phone as a prop. Well, it was actually a push-button, corded phone, so really not that old-fashioned (after all, it could have been a rotary dial), but it served it’s purpose for reminding […]

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The word kindness against bright blue sky with cloud
February 9, 2017

Notes from my Father

I’ve had this pressing thought lately about how lovely this world would be if we all treated each other with respect and kindness. This isn’t a new thought by any means, yet it seems it’s one that keeps resurfacing in my thoughts. At a national level, and certainly not to get into a political conversation, […]

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say no and say yes
October 6, 2016

Sometimes You Have to Say No to Say Yes!

“A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, or is it?” Have you ever had to say no to something in order to open the door to saying yes to something else? What happened? I had a great conversation with a colleague over lunch last week. She’s been dating a guy for […]

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asking questions
August 10, 2016

The Art of Being Curious and Asking Questions

  “You don’t have to know everything in the world. We aren’t supposed to. It makes you boring in mixed company if you can’t be interested and ask questions of other people.” ~ Angela Johnson I know enough about myself to know that I get really frustrated by people who don’t ask any questions of […]

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Couple Holding Hands
July 20, 2016

DATE: What I Learned from an Adorable Couple Who Met Online

I was traveling recently, and met a couple who were clearly dating and seemed very much “in like” and heading towards “in love.” As I so often do, I started asking them all sorts of questions about how they met, and because of what I do, my interest was immediately piqued when they said they […]

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appreciation
May 11, 2016

Appreciation

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou There are an overwhelming number of women who feel unappreciated by their husbands. I often hear the following: “I just want to feel appreciated. For years I have […]

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Woman by a mirror
April 19, 2016

What is your “So What Now?”

“It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” ~ John Baptiste Moliere I saw a cartoon the other day that said, “Divorce is like algebra. You look at your X and ask Y.” When I ask people going through a divorce what they might […]

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thoughtful or asking us to shut up and make some silence this blonde woman has big beautiful eyes and an intense look
March 31, 2016

The Important Role of Doubt

“Doubt is the pinprick in the life raft.” Library of Souls, Ransom Riggs When doubt enters into a relationship, it’s like the pinprick in the life raft, and if left unattended, it slowly sucks the air out completely leaving nothing but a saggy, soggy remnant of what once was. Doubt! I’ve spoken with many people […]

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