As social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter become less of a novelty and completely ingrained into our daily lives, it’s becoming increasingly common for singles to meet through social media.
As easy as it all sounds, however, issues such as privacy, safety, fear of coming on too strong, and the sheer volume of people using these sites can be so overwhelming that many are deterred from pursuing it as a possible dating avenue. Lucky for you, Dating with Dignity is here with some tips to help you navigate through it all!
1. Stick to Mutual Friends
When it comes to social media, safety is a valid concern. I mean, who hasn’t squirmed over one of those awkward “Catfish” moments when a lovestruck girl realizes who she was REALLY talking to online?! To avoid a dangerous or cringe-worthy scenario, I recommend communicating with someone who has at least one or two mutual friends.
A special guy may catch your eye through a photo, a funny link he posted on your friend’s timeline, a witty tweet, or one of the networks themselves may just give you the nudge you need. Both Facebook and Twitter have sections that suggest people to befriend or follow based on your interests, location and network of friends.
2. Show You Like Him by “Liking” Him
One way to get on his radar (if you’re not already) is to master the subtle art of “liking” (or “favoriting” on Twitter.) If you’re not quite ready to put yourself out there and send a message, start by liking or favoriting his statuses or tweets here and there. If he tweets a link to an article about something you’re passionate about, favoriting the tweet will not only bring your name to the top of his mind but show that you share an interest. Just don’t overdo it; frequently hitting that like button seconds after his words float into cyberspace can come across as overbearing.
3. Start Small Conversations
After a couple of well-placed likes, it’s time to start the conversation. You can begin by simply responding to something he posted on a mutual friend’s comment thread or replying to one of his tweets. A casual, thoughtful response will make an impression and open the door for interaction.
4. Send a Message
If you’re getting good vibes from your interactions thus far, it’s time to pull the trigger and send a message. The message doesn’t have to bare all; simply sending him a link to an article you think he’d be interested in or asking if he’s going to a mutual friend’s upcoming party will suffice. The privacy of a message can be all you need to get him to open up and allow the two of you to see if there’s a connection!
Have you meet anyone interesting through Facebook or Twitter? What was the experience like and would you recommend it?
Marni Battista, deemed one of the 10 Best Women’s Dating Experts, is the founder and CEO of Dating with Dignity. Her first-ever relationship telesummit featuring 25+ top experts in the fields of dating and relationship will launch on September 24th (pre-registration starts on September 19th).