Comments on: When a Guy Stops Calling…

By: Steve

Steve — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:53:23 +0000

It depends. If it was a very short time, like one or two dates-maybe. If it was longer, like in weeks and months, also, it depends. I heard a great saying once. “People don’t give you feedback/criticize you because there is nothing wrong with you, it’s because they think you can’t receive it.” Perhaps the ‘dumpee’ is perceived in a negative way such that the dumper would either get a LOT of unwarranted harassment or problems stemming from the action. Every situation is different. Key is to just move on without continuing to hate. Hating after the fact could be an indication of how others may be viewing/fearing you and your potential outbursts.

By: Mona

Mona — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 03:30:25 +0000

I was dating a guy I met online since February. Things were great and then he cancels on me on the Saturday we were supposed to go out. I was not happy so I told him that my feelings were hurt because he was just going to drink with his friends he’s 42! He said he would make it up to me the following Tuesday, but Tuesday comes and he doesn’t call. I think he is lying in a ditch somewhere but he finally texts me back saying that he wants to call me but there is just too much happening in his life and he wants to spend quality time with me. I send him about 4 texts over the next week and he just ignores me. Of course he never closed his online dating account so I send him one more message saying I am sorry things didn’t work out but I honestly don’t know what happended and wish he was just honest with me. Seriously is he just emotionally immature? That was the only time we ever had any disagreement but it was all by text.

By: confused...

confused... — Sun, 24 Jun 2012 18:53:39 +0000

I hate to say it but it is nice to see that I am not alone. I met a guy online. We talked for about 1 month before deciding to meet. When we did, it was instant chemistry. We had alot of similarities and instantly clicked. The one challenge was I lived in another city but I reassured him that I had no problem traveling to meeting him, etc. We had two wonderful dates in early May and then we met up when we were both in the same city for work events. THat evening was spectacular. He kept saying how attracted he was to me, etc. We texted often as he has a child and it was the easiest way to communicate. After our last meeting, his emails because more sporatic. I had to be near his home town for work and offered to come and visit him. I asked that he let me know if he was available so I could make my travel arrangements appropriately. No response. I called and texted. It has been over 3 weeks and I have not heard anything from him. What is the purpose to no manning up and ending it? Especially when you obviously were intimate and romantic with me?

By: firecracker

firecracker — Thu, 14 Jun 2012 23:59:24 +0000

i was in an 9mth long distance relationship. it was hard but we managed to see each other 5 times for long periods of time. the signs are always there. excuses of where he is, where he’s been, who he has to rush u off the phone to call…anything out of his normal behavior is cause for concern..he stopped calling as frequently about 2mths ago so i knew something was funny. everytime i asked it was always an excuse about work (thats always the classic line) or his stress level etc…he let a few days go by without calling one too many times. ive told him in the past it bothers me and he did nothing to fix it. meaning, he doesnt care enough about me to care…he called last thur and i never called him back. he hasnt made and attempt to see whats wrong so there’s the answer..bottom line: a man will move heaven & earth to be with you if he wants to and he will ignore you like the plague if he doesnt. its tough to face but better now than later

By: DB

DB — Tue, 05 Jun 2012 22:59:47 +0000

It took him 22 days to contact me, but he finally did. He still wants to be with me and get married, but he said that it’s going to be a big adjustment for him. Hello, it will for me too! I told him if he ever pulled this disappearing act again, I’m done. No 3rd chances. Everything is fine between us now, but I’m proceeding cautiously.

By: none

none — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 16:01:14 +0000

i think if you’ve gotten naked with someone, you should call at the very least to break it off. before the clothes come off, all bets are off… but the second you’ve been nude, you best be calling somebody. don’t coward out.

By: Angela

Angela — Thu, 31 May 2012 02:36:00 +0000

I dated my ex for 8 years. In March he went MIA for two weeks. I texted and called but no repsonse. I texted his sis to see if he was ok and she said yes. So i gave up. I waited 14 days for a reply. If he was ok he could have called/ emailed, or done something. I left him a text saying he was a abd boyfriend.

I don’t think I overreacted because the previous week he did not return my calls or texts either. I feel like I wasted a huge part of my life. WAs I wrong?

By: christine

christine — Sat, 26 May 2012 14:32:16 +0000

Hi:
I was/am (?) dating a guy for the past 3 months and he even went so far as to introduce me as his girlfriend. He made it clear he didn’t like texting or talking on the phone so our conversations were always brief despite the fact we didn’t see each other more than once a week (due to both of us having kids). The thing is, is that one night we were talking, everything was fine. Then all of a sudden he said he had to put his son to sleep and I asked him to call back because I was in the mood to chat. He didn’t and haven’t heard from him since (2 days) and this is unlike him. I refuse to call him because I feel if he doesn’t reach out he must have lost interest but I would have appreciated him manning up and saying he needed space or whatever his reason was rather than stonewalling me. BTW: he’s been divorced 4 times and had a physically abusive father so perhaps this may play a role in his behavior…
Any advice or feedback would be very much appreciated. Please no mean comments…I’m bummed out as it is..

By: Mannie

Mannie — Thu, 24 May 2012 21:04:17 +0000

From experience it seems as if he just wasn’t ready just based off his decision making. It’s like he’s making random decisions without considering the consequences. You deserve so much better. I wish you the best.

By: Carmen

Carmen — Mon, 21 May 2012 17:34:39 +0000

How about this one: I met this guy at a school about 4 years ago. We were both in relationships at the time, but established a really strong bond and started talking. We were going to begin dating 2 years ago, but he got deployed to Iraq, and a few other things interefered, but we always would talk when we could, say “I love you” etc. He is a very romantic type, always sending me poems and stuff like that. A year went by where he started trying to work things out with his ex, so we became more of friends and talked every once in a while, but about a month ago, we were chatting again. He is single, I’m available, I do have a child now, but he said he loved kids and couldn’t wait to meet him. He was traveling through my area last week and we were supposed to meet for lunch. But, one day, bam…no more calls. I got one text that said, “Just got signal.” I texted him back but no response in a week. Should I call? Should I worry? This was one sure thing that I never doubted. Now I’m doubting.