With my ex-husband, I wasn’t even third. His mother came first. My son and daughter second. I was fourth.

I agree with Grant’s advice, but there’s one problem not addressed. What if your sweetheart has already said that his/her children will always come first? What if the words are out there?

My sweetheart has said those same words to me. He’s even said he wouldn’t date a woman who didn’t make her own children her first priority.

While my kids are my sun and moon, I struggle with my sweetheart’s proclamation that his sons are his first priority. I don’t know what to do with his statement. How do I protect my heart? I need clarification to allay my fears.

I don’t need to be first, but I cannot endure being on the back burner for decades. It just hurts too much. My needs are reasonable. How can I make them plain without sounding (and being)selfish? I’m not selfish. Being fourth was terribly lonely.