Comments on: Red Flags http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/ eHarmony experts’ take on dating, relationships and the science of love Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:53:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Calum http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-7998 Calum Wed, 06 Jun 2012 15:29:38 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-7998 I understand and for the most part agree with your premis. Perhaps it’s your writing that makes your point come across rather harsh.
Guy – “I haven’t spoken to my parents in x years.” – RED FLAG!
Girl – “I’m sorry we’re done. That’s a red flag.”
Guy – “but, you’ve not actually heard out why. Or even why I know that’s going to be something that will have an effect on our relationship.”

Honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised if you are someone who’s parents divorced and it affected your marriage, and quite rightly, you want your best for your daughters. I think your writing style didn’t really help get your point across in the best way – short and rather insensitive. Perhaps it tells us more about you as a parent than how others should date/court.

Thanks for the insight.
Calum

]]> By: Ouch http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-7114 Ouch Tue, 03 Apr 2012 12:12:48 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-7114 *Sorrow, not sorry.

]]> By: Ouch http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-7113 Ouch Tue, 03 Apr 2012 12:12:12 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-7113 I’m estranged from both parents because they were abusive when I was a child and continued their ways without remorse even after I became an adult. After much heartache and sorry, I made the painful decision to cut them out of my life.

Is this a red flag? If so, would I be considered a better catch if I were still enmeshed with alcoholic abusers?

Please rethink your screening process. Not everyone with a toxic family of origin is going to mistreat your “princesses”.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-7078 Anonymous Sat, 31 Mar 2012 12:07:44 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-7078 I’m a single mother of two young boys and am bothered by this article. Unfortunately my ex (their dad) has a drinking problem and is currently in jail. Does this mean that I’m going to raise boys that will be like their dad. After all the article mentions that they share the same DNA. What can I do as a single mom, looking for a healthy partner, do to raise successful men?

]]> By: paul http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-6868 paul Sun, 18 Mar 2012 14:10:40 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-6868 I’ve always said most men are boys but not all!

]]> By: TheChadV3.5 http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2012/03/13/red-flags/#comment-6817 TheChadV3.5 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 12:41:13 +0000 http://advice1.prod.dc1.eharmony.com/blog/?p=10864#comment-6817 A very convoluted way of saying “make sure he knows what baggage he has to work through.”

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