Comments on: Dating Don’t: Excuses, Excuses

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 10 May 2012 17:01:29 +0000

Very nicely put Jessica

By: Dana

Dana — Thu, 10 May 2012 16:57:04 +0000

Moving on doesn’t mean there is a “someone” to move onto. You are someone without another person so moving on is just moving on with your life. Another person will be there at the right time. We all just have to be patient!

By: Gotufirst40

Gotufirst40 — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 21:29:43 +0000

Because he can get away with it. My thought is if he is a player and not looking for a relationship why is he on this site anyways? Same happened to me I did not let him waste my time because I am worthy to myself. He tried to lead me on and not respond to calls, emails or texts. I told him go find a whore because I was not one!

By: DrDobson

DrDobson — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 15:02:00 +0000

As a female who has been online dating for several years, I find that – like with every venue for meeting people- there are pros and cons. Each different way of meeting people can be both benficial and a struggle. For example, the bar scene. Think about it. The pro is you can see the person, how they ‘party,’ listen to them, look them in the eye, etc. But, the negative is, you are meeting them in a meat market AND it is highly possible you are wasting hours of your time on just ONE person who may or may not fit your personal lifestyle.

Online dating is no different. The pros are that you can meet many, many people immediately, qualify them by their profile (taking into consideration it may be a work of art), talk with them and have some record of their intelligence level. The cons are that they may be players or serial daters or secretely married on the side. Again, pros and cons….

The greatest insight I (or anyone) can afford is to use common sense. Listen to your gut instinct… If something appears “off,” odds are, something is off. Be mature and responsible. Offer a chance to explain and express your needs (and even your insights into the situation). Often, the other person may not even realize how they are coming across. However, it is equally as possible, they do and they could care less. If that is the case, no harm, no foul. Pick up your toys and go play in someone else’s sandbox. Its a BIG playground out there.

Good luck!

By: peo

peo — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 14:55:23 +0000

let me know if i’m on the wrong channel
here.
but my honest experience has been it’s my girl friends that can’t make the time 2 meet. they always say ‘we should meet’ but never make the effort 2 make it happen.
well,., sad 2 say.. i ditched them as the hurt goes a long way.
thankfully my man is more faithful than all my girl friends put together..
still, i’m sad coz i cannot find a single woman friend that doesn’t make me feel like i’m the bottom of her priority.

By: peo

peo — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 14:45:15 +0000

yeah u’re a real gentleman! a very understanding one.

By: peo

peo — Sat, 31 Mar 2012 14:38:29 +0000

thanks Rob. i totally agree coz i’m on the other side of the fence. i often can’t make time 4 my sweetie due 2 work & church & the very litlle time i hv left i’m so tired i just want 2 sleep… poor me

By: Marianne

Marianne — Fri, 30 Mar 2012 02:25:15 +0000

I’ve been on eHarmony about a year. I’ve sent a few smiles and seen that some matches have visted my site, but I don’t hear from very many. One was several states away and we emailed for awhile. Then I stopped hearing from him. My thought was that he may have met someone who lived closer. I do think a long distance romance would be difficult. I think it would really be good for a match to just say why he or she is not writing anymore. I would just wish him the best of everything. That would be so much better than wondering what happened.

By: Peanut

Peanut — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 02:36:40 +0000

An old Singles acquaintance actually had the gall to state one time, after a luncheon (casual dating group chat) that he should be settled down by now (he was 42 then), but that there was always another pretty gal out there awaiting his money & attention, and why settle for less..

You talk about your arrogant, self-centered twits. And YES – he is still single today (middle aged) and NOT seeing anyone (had had countless ‘GF’s over the years)

By: Peanut

Peanut — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 02:32:37 +0000

Insecurity.

I used to have 2 close guy friends who lived this, daily.

A secure man KNOWS what he wants – is looking for (and won’t just ‘settle’)

An insecure guy merely dog-paddles the waters, doesn’t know how to talk with women, is usually immature, and acts like someone he isn’t.