Speed Dating: Efficient, but is it Effective?

February 28, 2012

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speed dating 200x300 Speed Dating: Efficient, but is it Effective?There’s been recent buzz on our boards around the much debated topic of speed dating. Some of our best discussions come from our members and this is one that I’m particularly excited about because I’ve experienced it first-hand. With so many options in the modern dating world, it’s difficult to choose the approach that’s best for you. Here are a few pointers to keep in mind that helped me enjoy the experience. I’d like to pass them along to you…

Come prepared with interesting questions.
Let’s be honest. Sitting through a series of eight-minute interviews isn’t fun for anyone. After two or three  “dates” that started with the boring, live/work/hobby questions, I found myself wondering if I should have just brought copies of my resume to hand out. Mix it up, come equipped with something quirky. “What’s your most recent embarrassing experience?” This lets them see your sense of humor and allows them to showcase theirs as well.

Bring a married friend…wait, what?!
Not to participate, of course, but to give you a birds-eye view of the action. You’ll have so much going on in front of you that it’s easy to miss that cute guy or girl across the room who keeps glancing your direction. Your friend, however, will have a play-by-play account of everything happening on and off the field. My off-the-market friend ended up having a blast too, and what better way to end the event than a recap with your bff?

Level your expectations.
This is a tip that came directly from our members, and I couldn’t agree more. Take speed dating for what it is – a lighthearted evening where you can acquaint yourself with several singles who are available and looking. Keep in mind, the speed dating scene tends to attract singles of a more casual caliber in their dating mindset. So if you’re looking for a serious relationship, speed dating may not be the best approach to find that…but it’s still a fun way to spend a Friday night.

In speed dating, you may find one or two singles who turn into a real date. It does take a bit of digging to find those few, and unlike a matching site like eHarmony, the legwork is yours to do. The handful of dates that I went out on fizzled pretty quickly when I discovered dealbreakers that could have been sussed out pretty easily had I spent more than 8 minutes getting to know these gents. But sometimes recognizing what you don’t want in a partner is just as important as recognizing what you do want. It’s a good opportunity to sharpen your dating senses so that when the right one does come your way, you can truly appreciate who they are and why they’re right for you.

Have you tried speed dating? Would you recommend it?

 

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