Comments on: Gossip can be good for you (when it’s not about you)

By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:14:26 +0000

I think you missed the point Whoosh. She is suggesting that it is not only OK to gossip, but that you should do it because it will make you feel better. Faith has it correct. Gossip is NEVER a good thing. Yes it might bring about a shared bond with another gossiper but that only makes it gossip times 2. My philosophy is to never say anything about someone that I wouldn’t say to their face. there is a reason why we feel guilty if the person you are gossiping about finds out what you said…because it is WRONG. I don’t disagree that we should warn others of people who intend to do us harm in some way, but the described situation of gossiping to protect someone is not gossip.. Learn your definitions Heather!

By: Whoosh

Whoosh — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:07:39 +0000

I think you missed the point… She is explaining (with references) why people do it. That’s it.

By: Faith

Faith — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:02:27 +0000

Righting a wrong would make you feel better but this ‘right a wrong’ was to the ‘wronged’ person, not the one inflicting the wrong. Meaning the ‘feel good’ was the feeling of self righteousness. Not a good thing. They should have addressed the cheater to make it ‘right’. People have an issue with confrontation so they gossip and things are not ‘made right’,…. they fester. We are to address the offender. Gossiping is not the answer. Shame on you eHarmony for allowing this to go in, this isn’t Biblical. If the cheater was confronted immediately, the situation would have been defused,..there would be no need for ‘gossip’. At no time is gossip a ‘good’ thing. Heather, guard yourself from this type of none Biblical message, and please don’t spread the poison to the rest of us.

By: Jane from single adult

Jane from single adult — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:13:12 +0000

That is true. I personally believe that how much you can gossip about your partner you will feel good from your inside. I would say this is not a gossip this is only share your feelings that’s all.

By: Reggie

Reggie — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:53:05 +0000

I highly agree with that thought. Its like pro-gossip. It seems that most people view gossip as a negative thing, but when gossip is used in a positive manner it can serve positive results, vise versa.