I’ve seen it firsthand on my own Facebook homepage. Relationships that start and end with comments, status updates, etc. I don’t know about you, but I think it is just tacky to share your dating drama right on Facebook for all 245 of your (so-called) friends to see.
One of our Advice users complained about this, stating that the guy she was dating would put up comments about her when things were not going well. (She soon ditched him, thankfully.) Sometimes they are sort of cryptic updates, like “Some people are so rude” or more direct hits like, “I don’t get you. You hurt me.”
I even watched a whole marriage split up via Facebook – a 50-something-year-old man left his wife – and suddenly changed his status to “in a relationship” with some chick I had never seen. It was odd to see him posting photos of his new girlfriend. About a month later, he was again “married” and back with his wife. Can you imagine how it must have made his kids feel? I mean, even I was uncomfortable.
Since Dr. Phil is not on Facebook to jump in and save the day – maybe save it for your therapists office? Or a phone call with your BFF?
Is that too harsh? I don’t think so. What I do think is these folks may be needing some attention – and also need to grow up.
What do you think? Does it bug you when people get really personal on Facebook?
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So true. I’ve been seeing one man who sends very mixed signals – so close and affectionate when we see each other, but with months between calls and dates. He recently starting texting me very suggestively, and shortly after a suggestive text to me(on Christmas day), he began posting pictures on FB of himself and his children with another woman. They were getting a Christmas tree together, cooking in his kitchen, hugging and obviously celebrating together. I unfriended him before I had even seen them all, then blocked him on my phone. Part of me feels as though I was a bit too hasty, but the other part says that he was obviously making a public statement. I chose to read that statement as ‘PLAYER’!
My cousin’s new wife did that passive-agressively dropping hints to, publicly sharing personal details about and fighting with her husband on facebook. Tacky! It lowered my opinion of the woman…and him for putting up with it.