I am a firm believer that you have power to create your own reality. Throughout my dealings with people, I have seen this “theory” proven true again and again.
I used to work with a lady who told me that she hated when the season changed, because she just knew she would get a dreadful cold. Guess what? She got a dreadful cold.
I also had a friend who always expected she would get some sort of dirty silverware or plate when she went out to a restaurant. I kid you not – it happened about 5 times when I was with her. I, of course, try to think a little more positively…and my silverware was shining and clean as a whistle.
If you expect the worst, or think, “I am never going to find someone…no one is out there for me… I don’t believe in love,” I hate to say it, but that may very well be what you will ultimately experience. I don’t know if it is just the negative energy or that you are closing yourself off to your true potential…maybe it’s both.
We all get let down sometimes, and things don’t go the way we’d hoped, but I think it is so important to continue to be open to all possibilities. Try and visualize the best possible outcome when you are going to dinner – or on a date.
Have you experienced this in your life? Have you seen others fulfill their own negative prophecies?
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This is absolutely true. I once had a girlfriend whose almost ever other word was, “I can’t”. And guess what, with that attitude, she couldn’t. She couldn’t get the job she wanted, she couldn’t deal with her family, and she couldn’t deal with herself. Believe in yourself, even if that means telling yourself that your awesome, even if your not sure you are. Eventually you’ll almost brainwash yourself, and before you know it, you are awesome, and everyone else will see it too.
Hi,
if you tell yourself you can’t do it, then you may subconsciously act with this assumption. True. Working on ones own personality works in a social context and on the way people see you, also true.
But getting dirty silver – which is a random event – and making such a connection, is superstition. Please don’t believe in such crap.
We are not psychics.
Dennis
Dennis,
You are what you think. If you really think you will have a dirty silverware, you will have it.
It is the law of attraction. You attract what you vibe, if you vibe negativity, you will get it, same works with positive things.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
― Henry Ford
you might want to look into quantum physics dennis and the law of attraction. oh yes, you can make yourself get dirty silverware.
As a physicist, employed in the field, I would suggest maybe you know very little about quantum physics, and ‘the law of attraction’ has nothing to do with physics that is magic, you know, superstition.
The person that expects dirty silverware, then gets it, they are merely not seeing when they get clean silverware. As it doesn’t support their in-graven worldview, they ignore the clean silverware and only see the dirty.
oh wow, hi ab, your comment came up when i was posting mine. cool!
I know I’m a great guy, and I have little reason to think that whoever I’m with wouldn’t enjoy the experience. I always put my best foot forward, and I know that the more I try, the more I’m bound to actually get somewhere just because of simple statistics and probability.
So why then am I not getting what I want?
There is something to this, not the “we are psychics” or anything like that, but that what we imagine/ dream about becomes our reality.
Check out Maxwell Maltz’s book “Psycho-Cybernetics”. Athletes have used this technique for decades. You practice over and over what you want, and so when it happens you can do it. They did a study on this back in the 60s on free-throws and found that those who actually practiced and those who only practiced in their minds improved their scores over the control group who didn’t practice or dream it.
For all those deniers: Try it, it can/ does actually work.
Keith
Then I am the exception that proves your “rule”. I tried for 12 years to get anywhere with the opposite gender. I had VERY positive expectations for the first 6 and positive-but-discouraged for the next 6.Results: A LEGION of female “just friends”. Romances- Zero. Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be, I guess.
Just believe in yourself and everything will be fine.
always put your best foot forward.
Dennis,
I don’t think that what she is saying is that the act of believing you will get dirty silverware CREATES that event, but if you think that, you are more prone to look for such an occurrence, notice when it happens and rack it up in your tally of “this always happens to me”, thereby contributing to your perception of your own reality.
I’ve definitely noticed that positivity and visualizing the best possible outcome can really help, like you say. Recently, I got back together with an ex because although he’d said he was ending it for one reason, he was really ending it because he was scared. In my heart, I always knew and believed this, and though I remained cautious in my hoping, I kept imagining the best scenario where he realized this and came back around… to the point it even entered my dreams! Then it happened. So hey, cautious optimism can sure be the way forward.
In the end, what can you do but just live one’s life and try your best. Not everyone is meant to be in a relationship at all times. It’s definitely more appealing to be in a good relationship than single, but it’s better to be in a good relationship with oneself than in a bad relationship with someone.
Creative Visualization for finding the right person — I like it!! I believe in the law of attraction… not sure why I never really thought of it in terms of attracting the right mate — seems so obvious