Comments on: When dating, how long do you wait for the ring? http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/ eHarmony experts’ take on dating, relationships and the science of love Mon, 11 Mar 2013 14:53:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: JP http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-6648 JP Sat, 11 Feb 2012 19:34:48 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-6648 Am in a relationship now for 6yrs..
The relationship is I could say very simple. calm. not too much pressure. we care and respect each other allot. everything is fine so far..

Don’t get me wrong, am not in a hurry to get married. But my age is not. Am 32 and am worried that what if more years will come and before I know it am 40 and my partner is still not asking.. am I not wasting time then with him???

I don’t want to end up 40′s or 50′s alone… and look back that I wasted my youth in doin’ nothing. But I don’t want to pressure my guy either. I want things to flow naturally without force..

So what to do in this situation?!?!

JP(“,)

]]> By: Andi Sheth http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4758 Andi Sheth Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:08:18 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4758 I feel that women as a whole want to get married moreso than men. Therefore, I’ve never been a big believer in a woman asking the man. I feel that you’d be pushing him into a life long commitment he doesn’t necessarily want to make. If he gets squirmy when you bring up marriage, he doesn’t want to do it or isn’t ready for it. Don’t pressure him by repeatedly asking, hinting, or trying to set dates. Guaranteed your marriage will be over before you know it if he hadn’t fully made up his mind by himself before committing. You want a guy to marry you because he WANTS you to be his wife, not just because he’s trying to make you happy and stop nagging him.

]]> By: Jack http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4474 Jack Sun, 06 Nov 2011 01:05:14 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4474 Before any guy decides to pop the question he needs to sit down with a divorce attorney and hear what could possibly happen to him should the marriage fail. It would be an eye opening experience and allow the man to make an informed decision. I know it sounds cold but that it reality folks. Divorce can be devastating to both parties but a man can really get screwed especially if kids are involved.

]]> By: kmar http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4262 kmar Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:40:45 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4262 by the way I would like to add something more. This guy which family lives far away – North Dakota- invite me this Christmas to meet his family. So I think my patience and my lack of stress has been paid off. He called me every day and support me in almost everything. What I did? Just nothing, act natural, enjoy every day with him like this could be my last day, understanding he is a person with feelings and no a person I am pushing and get dissapointed for everything. In that way I am been more than happy. My main thinking is I love him so much, that I enjoy TODAY, if tomorrow we get married will be a plus but this will not stop feeling me happy TODAY with him.

]]> By: kmar http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4261 kmar Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:35:58 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4261 Well I think the wrong thing is thinking like the relationship has an expiration date. Things happen naturally someday but adding timelines for me does not work. Relationship is not a work with timelimes and schedules. If both feel like they are made for each other that will happen. Adding timelines just add fustration to the couple and in case a marriage happens, the person who pushed will be always insecure. I am been in a relationship for five years, we love each other, we are doing great that if that happens is just a plus. I enjoy day by day.

]]> By: Cofi http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4234 Cofi Sat, 22 Oct 2011 22:53:20 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4234 I think that is my future, but this is year 7 and I promised myself last year I wouldn’t take it past 7! My BF is this type: if you say you will end the relationship because of XYZ or back me into a corner then I will do what you want. But I happen to think I deserve better than that. I want to marry someone who wants to marry me … without feeling like he has to do it as a matter of recourse. I’m worth more than that.

]]> By: Cofi http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4233 Cofi Sat, 22 Oct 2011 22:37:30 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4233 ALSO … LOL .. I feel when the man or woman starts getting the stirring in their gut that it’s time to ask/be asked, that means it’s time to ask/be asked.

]]> By: Cofi http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4232 Cofi Sat, 22 Oct 2011 22:31:08 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4232 Also, my feeling is, if the man cannot address this obvious issue when it arises and communicate what is going on in his head, then perhaps that’s a red flag to move on.

]]> By: Cofi http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4231 Cofi Sat, 22 Oct 2011 22:23:39 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4231 I am waiting for him to ask because I am traditional. However, we have known each other 7 years, dating exclusively for 3 years. For me, it is beyond the time. When I hint at it, you can feel him clam up without even saying anything. He won’t have an open conversation about it. So I conclude he doesn’t want to marry me. One thing is for sure, my mama didn’t raise a fool. I am still with him now, but when I meet someone more in line with my dreams, I am leaving. Or, if my school and work happen to take me to another state, it’s good bye! My question to you is, should I end the relationship now, or wait until I meet someone or move from the area. That’s my struggle. I haven’t a lot of dating experience.
He’s great, but I am the marrying kind.

]]> By: DAK http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2011/10/05/when-dating-how-long-do-you-wait-for-the-ring/#comment-4170 DAK Mon, 17 Oct 2011 22:43:03 +0000 http://www.advice.eharmony.com/blog/?p=9704#comment-4170 In my 40′s, I fell in love that led to a 10 yr relationship the last four years was a long distance relationship. Then I relocated for him moving away from my kids and family. Living with him for just 8 months was awful. I realized he was a drunk and a coward and that I wasn’t for him, so I left and returned home.

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