How many times do we think to ourselves, “Oh I just knew that was the wrong decision, but I didn’t listen to my gut.” How many people have you dated (and continued to see) even though there was that internal voice that said, “This won’t work. This is the wrong person for you.”
Intuition is an amazing gift from the universe that we often choose not to accept. Human beings are so complex – and so amazing – that on a deep level, we know what is good for us and what isn’t likely to bring us happiness or goodness. All we need to do is really listen to this internal guide – who is always with us.
This article from the Huffington Post revealed that 30% of now-divorced women knew that they shouldn’t be marrying their husbands as they walked down the aisle. How does this happen? Maybe it’s our fears that override our intuition. One voice says “This isn’t right,” but an even louder one, rooted in insecurity, tells us, “You better get married now or it will never happen.”
I think taking the time to stop and just observe how we are feeling around someone should give us some clues when it comes to dating prospects. The same could apply to any situation, really – just taking a moment to use this valuable tool we all have but underutilize. It’s a place to start, at any rate.
What have you learned about intuition? Have you been able to tap into it – or do you ignore it?
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I’ve always thought the idea of intuition, gut feeling always being right, would create a sad and uneventful world (unless you enjoy being sad and uneventful). The article is correct in saying we as humans are complex beings and with that the complexity also includes what information we retain and how we process and interpret it.
and one of the hardest things to understand not only are we complex we tend to believe things have to be complex (often the simple is not understood…..it just can’t be that simple whats the catch?)
Intuition / gut feeling or what you consider it, may only be nothing more than an interpretation of past experiences + feedback of information since that experience.
the “sign / warning” may only be a signal to state you are heading down the road where you believe you once have been before or worst, will end up in a place you thought you might have been before (where in truth wasn’t the case) – you may be interpreting the signal wrong or maybe you have placed yourself in the same situation again to create the same feelings (did we not learn the first time?)
from my experience I never get a warning signal the first time I do something wrong….
because I never do anything wrong (it’s simple if I thought it was wrong I don’t do it) – first warning level, before gut feeling kicks in!
My understanding of intuition / gut feeling is nothing more than – I didn’t learn the first time….
The longer I stay on the planet the less I get these warnings – Thats a great thing as I know I’m not traveling down the same rocky road I have in the past.
The downside to this is, your intuition / gut feeling, tends to grow into a good signal / warning –
you learn to understand that your gut is saying “go for it and don’t look back!”
when I get that feeling Yes I do follow.
so to answer the original question, Yes I do follow my gut, but not by standing back and stopping what I’m doing. but only doing what it tells me and that’s I’m doing is the right thing.
I would be interested in any studies of people having successful stories to tell based on the fact that did the opposite of what their intuition / gut feeling told them.
How many marriages maintained a long and healthy growth based on the fact the male’s intuition told him not to go through with it on the day! possibly around the 70%?….
or how many people strive on “proving gut feeling wrong?” would provide an interesting research paper.
anyhow just some food for thought!
I have done both. I try really hard to ignore it when it is screaming inside of me that this person is wrong for you. I eventually come to it, but after too much time spent agonizing over it. I am becoming more trusting of my insticts now. I feel like I dodged a bullet. Whew! I have learned my lesson to trust more in my insticts.
It’s really true that we must trust on our first instinct because usually it’s happen, or maybe if there’s other sign or warning then relate it to the past experience.
Thanks!
Intuition is a funny thing. If you want to get better at it, pay attention to the songs playing in your head at a certain moment. It almost always has the right answer. From Ray Scott’s Country song “She Don’t Play My Kind of Music” to The Grease Soundtrack “You’re the One that I Want” Your head will tell you the answer!
I think Intuition is a frame of mind that takes a person through the grey zone because they simply don’t have enough facts. and with love like everything else it can be reasoned out!
If you can do this you can wait for years to be with someone no matter how hard things are because when you think with your head the heart will always follow and it’s because it has no reason not too.
It seems that many people go round and round in circles pondering endlessly all over a very simple thing because they try so hard to make bricks without clay ?
Best wishes…….Paul
How does one know if it is instinct or just plain doubt?
Intuition is one Thing…Self confidence is also influencing your state of mind.
I believe finding the right mate stand on strong commons human values and willingness to commitment…So many people wish to be with someone for various reasons, such as emotional dependence or/and housing financial help after previous brake ups,..and it is often by fard for tue loving relationship commitment,..taking time to know the person you fall in love with may be the ideal base for a true loving solid relationship