Comments on: When good dates don’t call: Why does it hurt?

By: Betty

Betty — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 02:34:29 +0000

Stephanie,

Your comments are so positive and uplifting, I plan to spread them to my friends on the dating scene (including myself). What great advise!

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 01:50:39 +0000

Its all about timing, yet timing is impossible to tell, if we call to late the woman doesnt care to see you anymore, if you call to early, she freaks out and tells all of her friends that your “creepy” when you had no bad intentions at all. And if the man lives in a small town might he as well move. One gossiping women can ruin your reputation within an entire social circle. Thats one reason why guys dont “pursue” its better to be alone than to be thought of as a scumbag when you didnt do anything but what she asked for.

By: bil

bil — Mon, 05 Sep 2011 17:17:22 +0000

No… there are special circumstances. Textsing , email…there are so many different ways to communicate. If she prefers phonecall she has to let me know.

I care about her deeply and didn’t call because my work place is sheilded …so u get used to texting and emailiing a( no cell signal in or out) after so many years of working there it’s a habit
so no phone messaage get thru. unless she calls my office It did n’t occur to me she wanted a phone call .

I thought of a future with her to….maybe kids , hanging out to see the sunset…holding her in my arms and not letting go.

but she doiesn’t believe me. she thinks i wishy washy or mind games and i lost her before even really trying… a misundersatnding. So u thinks it hurts not calling…well it hurts when something special is missed and gone w/o a fair chance for possiblities of something beautiful… and yes i am a guy . writing this…not a girl

By: Phil

Phil — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 07:33:58 +0000

I’m 42 and what most say is a good looking guy. Let me be the first to say ladies, that it’s my belief that women put too mucs emphasis on the guy making all the moves to get things going because he is a guy. But I also don’t understand why women fight for equality in every other area of life except when it comes to dating. I don’t mind persuing a women or taking honors in the first serve of the match as long as the serve is returned by my playing partner. If she shows interest in being persued great. Otherwise I feel like I’m offering a serve to an empty side of the court! Then I’m done!

By: judi

judi — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 04:15:30 +0000

Unfortunately, there are quite a few gameplayers out there, getting your hopes up, leading you to believe they are right there with you, when all the while they were looking for a sexual release or just someone to waste time with. It’s reality.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 04:12:17 +0000

Thank you Stephanie! I think so many times, we base our self worth on the responses of others (or the lack of response). Thanks for the reminder that we all have plenty to offer and should not settle.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 19:17:35 +0000

Depends. If you expect a man to pursue in the face of feigned disinterest, then you’re asking for someone who doesn’t care about your feelings.

If you expect a man to pursue when you’ve made it obvious you want to be chased, then that’s more of a test of whether they can take charge of their lives and go for what they want.

On the other hand, these days some men might test you the same way. Are you a floppy girl who bends with the smallest breeze, or do you have similar strength to reach for what you want?

By: Christy

Christy — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 18:29:24 +0000

Steven I don’t wait on a guy to call. But they don’t always answer or return calls/texts. I guess cause they don’t want to hurt the others feelings. I would rather be told what it was about me they didn’t like rather than someone just disappear. Yes I have told guys what I don’t like about them rather than wimp out & ignore them.

By: Harriet

Harriet — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 15:14:17 +0000

I personally think why can’t they just say, sorry or I like you but I don’t think this is working. But to just stop and never hear from them again is cold. Also I think its different when its someone you meet somewhere rather then on line. You just don’t get to know someone by just always texting or emailing its not the same. I could be totally wrong but that is just my thoughts.

By: Doris

Doris — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 13:23:59 +0000

It’s never too late! I just turned 80 and still think about how good it is to be in a meaningful woman/man relationship. I hope there’s someone out there for me because, I have a lot of love to give someone, whom I believe God will send.