Looking for that special someone? We all have our lists, likes and preferences, and I hope the number one thing at the very top is a person with GOOD CHARACTER.
Many of us have made the mistake of being mesmerized by a charmer, someone who talked a great talk – but walked at the first sign of trouble or stress. Actions do speak much louder than words, especially in romantic relationships.
If you are looking for someone to spend your life with, someone who will stick by you through thick and thin, finding a person with character is the way to go. I would venture to guess that this type of person is less likely to lie, cheat, steal and will be someone you can trust completely. I don’t know about you all, but the less drama in my life the better!
Ok, that’s my number one quality. What is yours? Is there anything more important to you than someone with good character?
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I have to agree, good character is a huge factor. My ex was certainly lacking in that department but, thanks to eHarmony, I found a man of integrity. I’m so much happier and feel safer being married to Bill.
I would say that it’s a spin on the “good character” that you mention but it comes down to three: (1) honesty and integrity (with self and others) and of course this goes with TRUST (the building blocks of it); (2) effective communication (being able to share what’s important); (3) sustainability – being able to withstand virtually anything (as even keeled as can be BUT able to recover from fluctuation). It comes down to QUALITIES (much more than just one).
I agree that ~Character~ is the most important quality in anyone. I have yet to find a man with great integrity. So single I stay! I use to surrender to the hotties but it’s more pain and trouble that they’re worth. Every man with integrity is already married … I need to find a widow! Come on men … step it up out there!
The same with women. All the good ones are taken. Only the bad or good and dumb ones left.
Character shines through the densest cloud.
The qualities I will be looking in partner are :
- intelligent
- good communicator
- funny
- no addictions
- well dressed, good taste, classic
- respectful
- generous
- helpful
- energetic
- strong, confident
- emotionally secure
- good looking
- tall, dark and handsome
I met a guy on here that I think is really great. We had a first date click and talk still just as much as before the date. He is not my “usual” kind of guy in terms of looks and my mom is very judgmental. That is subconsciously eating away at me and im not sure how to adjust my feelings. How do i overcome that?
Trust me, the looks eventually go. If he has even just some of the qualities listed above, and makes you happy, then I would stay with him. Also don’t be so concerned about what others thinking. I had to face my family fiercely because I dated outside my race and faith often. Then I chickened out and didn’t marry the man of my dreams. Where are all those family members now? Think for yourself.