Is it “lying” if a woman wears Spanx or other undergarments to enhance or alter her physique in some way? That is the question which has created a lot of conversation on the Advice boards. First, I have to say I just love the idea that a guy actually thinks that Spanx will cover up “rolls and rolls of fat” on a woman in an attempt to mislead her latest suitor. LOVE THAT!
Most rational folks seemed to agree that A.) Spanx aren’t this miraculous and B.), it is fine to wear undergarments that make one look better in a dress, etc.
Here’s the deal: we all do things to make ourselves appear more attractive. For women, we apply makeup, color our hair, spray on a little perfume, and yes, wear clothing and other items to accentuate our figures. If anyone has a problem with that, they should really get over it and worry about more deserving issues in life. I can’t go along with the theory that this is somehow deceitful.
Thankfully, most men also put some effort into their appearance, and that is a good thing. It shows us that you take pride in how you look, are thoughtful, considerate of others and want to make a good impression.
Physical appearance is definitely an important part of dating and chemistry– and I personally applaud anyone who takes the time to really look their best. These folks should not be penalized for putting their best foot forward.
Have any of you felt that someone deceived you by covering up a physical flaw or imperfection with clothing, etc? Would love to hear!
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I can’t believe that anyone would think that trying to look their best is a problem !! I can’t stand it when I see a heavy set woman with her belly hanging out, or a man who wears a t-shirt too short, and you can see their fat belly !! Wearing appropriate clothing for your body build is just plain smart and considerate.
Funny, no one questions the authenticity or honesty of actresses, actors and models. Aren’t their flaws and imperfections covered up on a daily basis? Without airbrushing, makeup, and accentuating garments, most of them are just ordinary, imperfect people like the rest of us. It is about caring about how we look, taking pride, and having self confidence, not about being phony or covering anything up.
I disagree, ever heard the expression, wat you see is wat you get? Most of the women I’ve seen and met in my experiences wore things like that to make them selves into something they are not and literally take men for anything they could get!!! Wat you see isn’t wat youre getting, so go with not judging a book by its cover! Its misleading to men and women both, I try to date women with a natural sense about them selves that dont need to wear garments that are misleading, no make up etc.I want to see the real you so to speak, all men and women have their own natural beauty! You just have to look beyond the boundries and fine the person you want, there is a mate for everyone in this world, being patient is the key to true long lasting love and when you least expect it, you find wat youre lookn for cause it will fall in youre lap like a ton of bricks!! Thanks to eharmony I’ve found the one ive got now, she’s beautiful inside and out, all natural no make up, no nothing, and were in love! Thanks eharmony!!!! Sincerely Vernon & Lynn
There is nothing wrong with looking good. Looking good will make you feel good and be more confident in what you are doing. I agree with Vernon to an extent that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but does not mean if someone wears Spanx they not being themselves. That to me is just silly