Comments on: Can you spot the lies in an online profile?

By: Phil

Phil — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 08:42:07 +0000

I am a young 50-ish man and I find it difficult with the age factorin online dating. Most women in their 40s don’t want to date a man over 50 and list the desired age of the man in a narrow range around their own age.

By: woman for marriage

woman for marriage — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 10:00:41 +0000

I relish, lead to I found just what I used to be looking for. You have ended my 4 day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a nice day. Bye

By: Doris Sweat

Doris Sweat — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 03:32:21 +0000

I have been online for a year off and on. My search has been fruitless. I decided to try eHarmony. Will comment at a later date on the outcome. So far, I have encountered 3 money scammers. Six men have sent me an identical email that I am supposing was copied out of a Online for Dummies book. None of the 6 men will admit that they copied it from a book, but there is no way 6 different men could have written the same message. My husband has been gone for 6 years, I waited 3 years for him to rise from the dead and come back to me. Being married for 40 years, my expertise on people is lacking in good judgement. I just thought everyone was honest. NOT! All that I wanted was a “last date” for the rest of my life. So far, hasn’t even come close.

By: joejiz

joejiz — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 10:41:06 +0000

It’s important to understand that Eharmony and pof are not responsible for the content of a human being when you meet. Think of it like a big database with empty fields, they are providing the whole computer experience. The content within the fields and the “matching” system is just a computer program. So really don’t get mad at the sysetm for not getting you a good guy/girl. The whole point of online dating is to get you a lead that you wouldn’t of normally had. So yes meeting someone on the bus you would still have to “filter” what they say and find out if it’s true. I know everyone wants to depend on the “field” being true and accurate but really guys/girls as much as it may sound corney you could always print up their profile and when you call them just go through it and ask them everything like an interview. Saves time and if they are honest people they won’t be offended. It’s all the numbers!!!

By: Bill

Bill — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 06:21:36 +0000

I am age 57 but have found on e harmony that there are few women out there wanting a committed, marriage based relationship. I am from the Boston area, and have been matched with women half way across the country. The one who are local are few and far between. You are right abou the numbers, there are just not enough woman in MA or NH to realistically date. I really don’t find women lieing at all on these sites. They just cannot communicate these days or express on their “passionate about” whether they are passionate about finding a lifes partner, husband, and future soulmate if one is lucky. However, I cannot find anyone who even close matches my profile. Yet, ehamony sends me matches. These women will respond, tell me that they like my profile. Go through all the questions and agree that I would be a great match. But fail to take it to the next level of a phone call and a potential date, due to distance. I sometimes cannot believe the profiles I read. Most women write that they love their job, love their house, love their car, love their security, love their first cup of morning coffee, love their friends and love to travel. My answer to all of the woman who love things. Never love anything that cannot love you back. The greatest beauty about love is not how much “you love” but by how much you are love by others

By: teri mayer

teri mayer — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 22:49:00 +0000

I agree totally with you Chris. Why base a relationship on a lie. I called a person online out on this and he got angry with me. He admitted in his profile he lied about his age so women would look at his profile as he thought he would have a better chance if he was under the age of 50 so he put his age at 49. He was so mad at me when I asked him his real age and why he would start a relationship with a lie. I am honest in my profile and if they do not like it then I guess we are not meant to be together.

By: teri mayer

teri mayer — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 22:43:49 +0000

Debby try being a 40+ woman and the men you are trying to date are only interested in 20-30 year old women. I had a great man but he passed away and now I am thrown into this mess I call dating in the year 2011. It is very different from when I was 24. I am only getting replies from your 60 year old men. Sorry I really am not interested.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 19:08:42 +0000

I may seem like the young buck coming out of nowhere and may not exactly “fit in”, but what is the point of lying in a place like this anyway? When you and that significant other candidate meet face-to-face for the first time and she sees how tall you’re not or he sees all of the weight left unaccounted for, how strong of a foundation do you think you’ve built?

In addition to that, how many other people were overlooked just so you can have a chance with each other?

I’ve told my share of lies in my childhood, but I don’t understand why people lie to find a soul mate. Save that stuff for the one-night stands you say you’ve grown out of.

By: Shawn

Shawn — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 23:35:07 +0000

So what you are saying is it’s ok for women to lie, but not men? Got it.

By: Annie

Annie — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 20:54:23 +0000

I find it ridiculous that men lie about their height. You see the lie immediately if you meet them. Whereas, women lying about weight makes sense because few men know what a real woman weighs. We are not 105lb models and 6′ tall, and you don’t really want us to be, but if I put my real weight 150lbs and height 5’9″, men think I’m fat and they run from fat. In reality, I am a size 8, and nobody I know thinks I’m fat. So I avoid the question of weight, and honestly, don’t care if a guy is 5’4″ — but if he lies and says he is 5’10″, I just have to laugh and then it is hard to take him seriously.

Unfortunately, I have also found that “single” does not mean the same thing to all people. Single to some men means, not divorced yet, or legally single, but actually living with someone. I progressed to phone calls with one man and had to wonder why he kept muting his cell — so I couldn’t hear his wife/gf in the background? I discontinued that connection.